They’re banning folks just for saying that they’ll buy the game regardless, so yes.
They’re banning folks just for saying that they’ll buy the game regardless, so yes.
I’ve matched with transgender people by accident on various dating apps because they put their settings as females looking for males. I pretty much end it respectfully by me telling them that I’m flattered but straight and they all have taken it well. One person was surprised on how nice I was. It might help them (on Tinder at least) if some changed their settings around, but what do I know?
"sexism against men makes no sense". What an absolute piece of shit, men can be victims of sexism as well. That's like saying you can't be racist to white people.
I'll still get the game.
You're not. You're a man living as a woman.
Never have I seen a more intolerant forum administration. It's less lenient than the Soviet Union in here. If you fart in the wrong direction, you're warned or (more likely) banned. Now tolerance in 2018.
This is a joke right? This is not specific to men. Men can suck, women can suck. How many girls are out there who have 0 empathy for guys they arent into who approach them? Guys are forced to deal with rejection in a way girls will never be able to imagine. This is a two sided issue
The first part is a good first step as it is actually addressing an issue that has been a long running issue on this site and online in general. Outrage culture, left eating itself, woke culture, and bad faith arguing are all used incorrectly by people and used primarily as a way to dismiss people as not being genuine so that they don't have to actually entertain that they could be wrong. It's incredibly similar to the arguments that people have used in the past that accuse people of virtue signalling which has been actioned quite a bit, which is why it was frustrating to see things regress on this front. The issue that exists within the pronoun section is the implications that doing something like that carries if it's not explicitly said. People who willfully misgender trans people are telling us that they don't really see trans people as the gender that we are, that we aren't valid. When someone does this explicitly for all trans people, that is abundantly clear. However, there are times where someone will see a trans person doing something criminal and they'll start to fall back into using the wrong pronouns. This shows that they don't see us as valid as much as they see our identities as a courtesy or a polite gesture that can be taken back when needed. We have been told in the past that people who do not see trans women as women, trans men as men, or trans people in general as valid will be perma'd instantly when they reveal this, and I think that willful misgendering should fall into that category as well. And you're right that trans people are individuals, but you sort of start to counteract that with your very next part. Staff members and regular members are not treated the same way, and it's always been apparent to everyone who posts on this forum to the point that it's a running joke in a lot of circles here. I'm not talking about who makes decisions on reports, but the way that hostility is treated as well as the way that bigotry is actioned. If someone insults another member, they'll get a warning or at most a day ban if they don't have a history. But, if someone comes after the moderation or express frustration they'll more than likely get 5 days to a week at minimum. I don't think that you all should be facing harassment of any kind, but this is one of the easily verifiable things on the site that people have seen. The way that bigotry is handled by people on Staff is also a bit strange. There was that one transphobic post by a moderator that when posted by anyone else would have been a month ban, but in this case, they were just talked to and allowed to stay on the team. When evidence was presented of how they had said these things throughout their time on GAF before this, it was dismissed and considered resolved. There are also chats that have been shown to people about a moderator on the staff talking in the discord about how Asexuals should not be a part of the LGBT+ community and instead of any challenging or talking through, was essentially told that people could see where they were coming from, to not feel bad, and then dropped. These things are always going to be treated differently because these people that are on the team are more easily reached, more easily talked to than the people on the forum, but these double standards that people see on top of the regressions that have happened in some topics are going to frustrate people. Of course you guys care about the site, but you often seem to be under the impression that you're the only ones who do and the rest of us are just trying to stick it to you instead of doing what we can from our own end. The users of this site are people too, and you can't expect us to take just as much abuse as you when we have no ways of pushing back against it. It's not that you all aren't open to listening or feedback, so much as the opinions on people of staff are typically held higher than the rest. Which is somewhat understandable as you're able to have longer and more in-depth conversations as you're in a discord together, but is part of the issue I have with this "Trans people are individuals" line. I get what your point is. There are threads where people are upset about an issue going on and telling someone that they don't care about trans issues without knowing the first thing about the person they're talking to. That isn't good, and that should be taken care of, but when we're able to recognize that trans people are going to differ on some of these minute topics it can't all come down to the weight of whichever trans mod is online at that particular moment to make the call every time. Because I'm dating someone who was on the mod team for almost 2 years and had a lot of conversations with you all, I know that it's rare for more than one trans mod to be around and tackling reports. And I think you all need to be more open to the idea that people aren't reporting what they see as bigotry for no reason.
Because regular users don't care
As a lurker who came over after Neogaf, I find myself checking the site less and less. - The trigger happy ban policy is absurd. I get the impression users are scared to have an opinion that doesn't fit the mods agenda. This leads to nothing more than echo chamber with no real discussion to be had. Imagine in your personal life if you shut down every conversation where you disagreed with someone. - Awful topic threads. The same posters over and over posting personal topics that are of no interest to anyone but themselves, to get a sense of validation that I assume is absent in their own lives. - Negativity and toxicity. The constant bickering is exhausting. It feels like everyone is playing morality top trumps, trying to out do each other and be faux outraged by any slightly divisive opinion. - I hate Trump as much as anyone, but the constant daily threads about him and his party on here are depressing. It would be nice to have a break for a bit. I swear posters get off on posting about his latest bullshit. We get it. He's a total prick. - Opinion threads posted as fact like a BuzzFeed clickbait headline. - Threads with people threatening to take their own lives. This is a serious topic obviously, but it seems to be the same people over and over who never take onboard any of the genuinely thoughtful and caring feedback from other posters. I know this is a complicated topic, and these people deserve and need attention and help, but I wish just they would help themselves. I feel like stepping away from Era and its negativity would probably do them some good. It's just all so tiresome. I think I'm done with the forum, checking it out of a daily reflex doesn't add anything positive to my life tbh.
Wew lads. It's really late and there are a lot of ideas running around here. I'll chime in with my two cents, but this post is gonna be pretty sloppy so bear with me. Firstly, If your previous view of me was that, erase that from your head right now. I do not care, intrinsically, about minorities, or women, or people, or racism, or anything like that. It is not part of my rhetoric to convince people that these things are morally bad, it is not part of my characters to be inherently concerned with these things. This is why I end up at many of the same positions that progressives end up. Now that we have that out of the way, let's talk about homophobic and racial slurs. From a personal point of view, I don't think any word, inherently, should be off limits or out of bounds. There are times when using extremely vulgar language can achieve a great effect. This, so far, should be undeniable. Does racist language make a person racist? Does homophobic language make a person homophobic? Not necessarily, as much as it might upset some of you to consider this. This seems like a meaningless distinction, but I believe there's a great deal of difference between telling someone they are unintentionally empowering homophobic people vs being a homophobic person. Maybe you don't care, but to the person receiving the message, it matters, trust me.I have to be mindful of how I speak. Ultimately the way my message is interpreted by a viewer is my responsibility, or at least I believe I have some due diligence to ensure people aren't taking away the wrong message from my speech. This is why I generally avoid things like "faggot" or other types of heavy racial humor, and it's why I've been trying to edit out things like "retarded" and "autistic" from my vocabulary. I don't like the idea that people watching me could get an idea that I am homophobic in a way they might be, and I don't like the idea that racist people could listen to me and find companionship in what I'm saying, or some kind of affirmation in their horrible worldviews. I've written about this more extensively , if you care to read. Do I say offensive jokes privately that I would never say on stream? You better believe it. But why, what's the difference? A community that openly uses the word "faggot" feels unwelcoming because there are still a lot of gamers (and, larger, elements of society) that still act incredibly homophobic. If a friend of mine uses "faggot" in some insulting way in a private setting, I don't generally think twice about them saying it. If a stranger uses that word, I'm very uncomfortable around them because I don't know if they're actually a homophobic person. These distinctions may be meaningless to you, and to some extent you can argue that using racial/homophobic slurs in context should be off limits, and I'm fine with tackling those arguments. I generally don't like being called "racist" or "homophobic" because I believe my body of work (can u call a utube channel that tho) speaks for itself, but if you believe that my actions help to spread homophobic thought, maybe you don't care to make the distinction. I'm sleeping and I'll answer what I can when I wake up, and maybe even proofread/edit this if there are major fuckups. Stay safe my children.
If you're Kotaku, everything can be sexist. Even nature is sexist, it gave men penises and gave women vaginas so men can assert dominance women's vaginas with their penises. Everyone should have a penis, it's the only way to true equality.
Please don’t use sexualised insults like “fuck” and “ass”
Finally, some one had to call out Resetera for being such a toxic forum. The hive mind here instantly starts name calling when anyone expresses and opinion slightly different than theirs. By Resetera’s standards 99% of people in the world are a piece of shit, alt-right, racist, facist, white supremacist, nazi.
This place would be so much better if everyone would stop trying to out-woke each other and just talk games. Technical aspects, gameplay, story. Not, how offended can we get about anything. So very much better.
Nintendo's goal is to make good games, not political statements.
It has been entertaining. Four more years please!
Who gives a shit about GayEra or FagEra. Just ban me who gives a shit.
What if I told you the girls aren't real?
I never said either of those. Both sides are not bad, I fight for equality for everyone and don't have to resort to labeling a group and excluding them to do so. I am a woman by the way.
Probably because non-binary or whatever your want to call it isn't real. And now for the part where I get banned for having an opinion that isn't popular but is also the opinion of the silent majority
It's hilarious to me that so many people hate voice chat in online games. According to ERA, everyone online is a racist, homophobic, sexist bigot. Yeah, there ARE assholes online, but the vast majority of people are well adjusted folks. Hearing some dumb 13 year old white kid say "nigger" doesn't offend me. Id rather not hear it, but I'm not gonna lose sleep over it. I'll just mute his dumbass and keep on moving. Far more bigger things to be angry about honestly. I don't make excuses for shitty people. I just expect it. Not to sound mean, but some folks need a thicker skin. We shouldn't tolerate hatred. We also need to do our part to shape the world into what we want it to be. We can't be idle and complacent, just hoping it happens. But it sure as hell won't happen over night either.
Fuck this political correctness and all this shitty leftist agenda.
Xbox gamepass is better than both imo.
Well, you just verbally demeaned an entire class of people based on their racial identity. That's textbook racism. Doesn't matter if they're (or are) white, black, or any other color on the spectrum - when you bring race into it in an attempt to belittle: you're a racist.
Era is descending into the worst type of ultra-politically correct, don't dare offend anyone, ever culture. This isn't meaningful discourse and it's getting completely out of control. If people are unable to grasp the specific context of language and themes in a futureal dystopic video game and feel the need to overanalyse and disproportionately relate everything back to modern society and gender-identity issues (which are of course very real and scary), every one is going to have a bad time. It's a fucking video game, and a brilliant looking one at that. Move on.
Calling them monkeys is too low? If anything it isn't low enough. it doesn't take a genius to see why this was a disaster.
I put my daughter to bed and started to cry. She asked what was wrong and I said the world was ending. I apologized to her for not being able to keep her safe and said we'd be lucky to be alive tomorrow morning. I hugged her tight and said "Goodnight. FOREVER." Her birthday is tomorrow and I can't believe Trump did this to her.
The problem with Era specifically is that in an attempt to prove how woke they are, people often argue against points you never even brought up. They want an argument, not a discussion. More than once I’ve posted something and gotten a reply from someone arguing against shit I never even said because rather than engaging in an actual discussion, people on here just want to argue and prove how right they are and how wrong you are if you don’t share every single one of their beliefs. I always have and still do believe that I’m an extremely liberal and left leaning person but honestly this site just exhausts me and embarrasses me sometimes. It’s full of hypocrites who just want any excuse to “cancel” another human being who doesn’t live up to the impossibly perfect standards they’ve set. I’ve really grown to dislike this site over time. People here rag on NeoGaf, and while I’d never post there again, at least there simply having an opinion isn’t enough to get you banned. The moderation here is terrible, you can catch a ban for simply not being liberal enough, and as a liberal, that’s some bullshit. You’re not liberal at all if you feel the need to ban and exile everyone who shares an opinion you don’t agree with.
It's racism to not condone extreme physical violence in retaliation to words? That's cute.
They should just make Mario black for the next game, without explaining it, or making it a big deal or turning it into a gimmick. I don't see the harm; they should just go for it. Next Mario game, everything else stays the same, except that Mario is black and Peach can't stop smiling.
Funny you mention shutting down the discussion because every day there are multiple banning of posters who express contrary opinions to these, in fact it's likely not long before the mods come and have a nice little ideological purge of this thread. The fact is that shutting down the discussion is the modus operandi of ResetEra, I have never seen a forum so hostile to debate, ever. If you don't recognise the hypocrisy in claiming that the mere presence of a certain word is psychologically harmful whereas the depiction of mass murder is not then you are immensely short sighted.
jeopardizing your family's stability over a joke? you know that when you die you don't unlock acheivements for that shit, right
First, let me apologize for posting this thread in the wrong area at first, I posted in the hangouts by mistake. Now I shall copypaste what I said before. I haven't posted here for quite a while, but virtually every other gaming forum/community I have been on, has told me that Resetera has become ridiculous with it's moderation, and that you can get banned for wrongthink or expressing opinions that others do not agree with politically. I am a conservative, I am a Catholic, I am against abortion, I voted for Trump, I don't agree with a lot of things liberals and progressives stand for. I am not in favor of high taxes for anyone, I even oppose gay marriage. I have heard that if you express ANYTHING remotely opposing progressive views, that you will be banned, that there is absolutely no chance for anyone other than left-leaning folks to have discourse, and I have even been told that even progressives who don't agree with moderators will be absolutely unequivocally banned. I have also seen screen-caps showing people who want ANYONE with an opinion they don't like to be banned, and they also believe that staff isn't even harsh enough about it. Is this the case for Resetera? Do the rumors I hear ring true? We will find out, because I have pretty much just said everything I've heard you can get banned for, so if I get banned for this post, I suppose I will have my answer.
Now that my dad has recovered from kidney failure and that i put that last relationship fully behind me. I feel like in a state of trying dating again but i set some new rules to make sure i wont get fooled again by ppl lying about their true age. If i meet a foreign person online i wanna see id card. Cuz seriuously i aint going through that blind faith nonsense ever again turned out my last gf lied about her age that literally is the reason i am clear and fine she told everyone the truth and relationship ended and we blocked each other and moved on. So yeah thats why i make sure next time to ask for a confirmation of age sure it might sound silly but its better to avoid this ever happening again. And besides i dont think its that weird if the person is met online and lives far away. If they ask why ill just say the truth. Personally as i soon have a job again ill probably just go to local bars i prefer that way over dating sites those just feel a bit forced to me i prefer meetin someone irl. Thats why i am actually glad to have a job finally soon so that i put myself out more. It probably wont be that hard to find someone since i am quite good looking other people say so too. And i agree tbh. Yeah i am glad that rollercoaster got resolved and i ofcourse learned my lesson. To always freakin ask for proof of age with long distance relationships. She lied btw cuz she knew i would not date her if she told her true age so when after months she finally told the truth i was like sorry cant do this and made sure her family knew what happened so she would not try to get me back or anything like that and also can just move on with her life. I forgave her cuz young peeps do stupid shit all the time and i shouldve asked for proof of her age. Honestly my dad gettin a kidney transplant around the time of this drama happening was a good timing so i could focus on him and mentally sort myself out to make sure this wont happen twice as in another time. Its not like i am proud of it. And i am glad it got sorted out in a way both of us can move on. My dad jokes well next time squiddo make sure they are 18+ and while he makes light of the situation i agree like askin proof of age is not that crazy. I know that as a pretty good lookin fella teen girls could get interested too and ill make sure to never make that mistake again and be fooled by that age lie ever again. As i said earlier when in doubt ill ask for id or passport. Better be safe then sorry and end up in jail. This time i was lucky as ppl understood the situation and it was a eye opener to be more open eyed. No matter what never ever ill date someone under legal age again and drop my guard down. I have got it printed in my head "Squiddo ask proof of age before dating no matter what" and thats exactly what my dad told me he even said well if they are from anothrr country let them come to you or have em send a pic of their id before you start a relationship. Sorry for the rambling but yeah just wanted to be honest about what happened and i posted earlier about it on era so might aswell have a full post about it to clear it up incase it ever backfires me somehow. Random selfie of me since i dont like lying and talking bs. But yeah i promised myself to never make that mistake again and o am very glad the situation ended decently for us both. I am not mad tbh at all just dissapointed in myself i got fooled and shouldve been more carefull and just asked for her damn id or something. But tbh while i wont use it as a full excuse my dad was horribly ill at the time so i let my guard down a lil. My family and friends say shit happens and as she lied about her age your not fully to blame sure it was stupid of you but dont worry just make sure next time to check better and get that age proof and all is fine dont stress to much about it. While i agree with them i still feel shit about it all but tbh i think thats actually a good thing wich will make sure i am more aware next time with meetin ppl online. Its been like 6 months now and i finally can move on mentally and personally from the mess what happened. In that time i helped my dad with his recovery and made sure to think of things and how to handle things better and more adult like in the future. I also admire my family and friends and other peeps they were really supportive. I actually had suicide thoughts at first cuz i felt like i was a huge failure but words of my family and friends made me reconsider that thought. Sure it will always taunt me in a way but its not worth takin my life for. That taunt can actually work in a good way wich means being more carefull with dating. Tbh believe me even admitting this all is hard for me but tbh i dont wanna lie about it cuz thats worse. Tbh in the end both of us are too blame and i accept that. We both were really stupid and thats saying it nicely. Tbh i am thankfull for her and her family that they gave me a second chance basically cuz otherwise i could actually be in jail. Honestly thats why i am not mad at her or have hsrd feelings she told the full truth about the situation. And dw we blocked each other forever. A while ago she contacted me dispite that and wanted to be friends but i said its better to just leave this all behind us. Like i couldve said yes but this time i wanted to make a good decision and i think cutting of contact with this girl is just that. I ofcourse told her why its better and she understood luckily. Now im done rambling truly sorry xd but might aswell tell the whole truth as i posted earlier about it in this thread and on era. Personally i am really thankfull of the peeps that supported me i might have not be here without em. Believe me i am not proud this all happened and itll stick with me forever. Tbh i am crying a little now cuz tbh my dad kinda saved my life on this one while he was deadly ill he was the most relaxed about it all. And was like son dont fret it shit happens just make sure to be more cautiones nex time you are no pedo this could happen to anyone son dont let it consume you. Well thats all its my own burden to life with but yeah i can give it a place now and be a better and more carefull person. But yep squiddo ask for that damn id before you date online or long distance. And tbh even irl when in doubt while going out better be safe than sorry. Sorry for the big post but i felt like atleast fully typing this out especially since i talked about it earlier on era without much context wich actually can work out badly. But yeah not proud that i dated a minor. I truly shouldve asked for proof age. It was stupid as fuck of me. But its a very hard life lesson for me. Ill make sure it never happens again even not by being fooled or lied to. Like if someone doesnt want to show their id or passport or amy proof of age that should be a red flag and then immediatly be avoided. Now im done rambling but yeah thats the full story tbh. I really needed to get that out even if it makes me look bad. And i thank my dad for being there for me same for friends and some random peeps. Without them i might have actually ended my life but their support and words of wisdom made me reconsider any suicide attempts i had. Hopefully my post will make people a lil more carefull aswell its better to avoid this kind of situation at all. Its not worth it. Thank you for readin. Cheers.
This is why I have little more than apathy when I hear about pigs getting ventilated. Where are the good cops, pigs? Where are the "good ones" on the steps of the courthouse explaining why these low-rent fascist thugs they call their "brothers" are both making this country less safe for normal people and the cops? They're all fucking cowards, that's why they hide, whimper and then shit themselves with fear of their own shadows. Fuck the police
Gift like 10 million dollars to the most prominent socialists on ERA and see how they react to their immoral wealth Not enough money to give most away and live comfortably, and not enough money to ignore... just the right amount for never ending cognitive dissidence.
I don’t see an issue to be honest.
Isn't grouping an entire demographic (white) together and saying the entire demographic has earned its reputation inherently racist?
I think it's okay for Riot to fire someone who insults their customer base and makes them look unprofessional, yes. But your attempt to misrepresent what I said has been noted. I would like to have a productive and civil discourse on this, but I feel that the moderation policy on this forum stifles a lot of real discussion, as opinions going against the prevailing wind are silenced and shunned from the forums. This is then followed by people bleating 'the GGers win again!' at each other, like preaching to the choir, because they already threw away their chance to change someone's mind and instead just pushed them away for disagreeing. With that said, I'll take the risk and share my full thoughts on the issue. Should I catch a ban for it, it will only serve to prove my point. Making this forum a safe space for people who only agree with each other will never result in a change amongst the majority of people who do not frequent this forum. I feel that the event itself had good intentions (increasing female/NB representation in the industry) but bad execution. If Riot wanted to make an panel that was open only to women/NB, specifically for women/NB, there would be no problem at all. The initial uproar stems from the fact that men attending PAX, who paid the same ticket price and should have the same access as everyone else, were losing access to presentations that they would be interested in. If you want to show the content to everyone, but have a specific room where women/NB can raise their concerns and receive feedback on resumes, hear women/NB oriented talks, then fine. But the list of talks on the women/NB only timeslot was in fact fairly generalised. The negative work environment within Riot was uncovered, and Riot responded by withdrawing access from men who had nothing to do with the internal structure or environment of Riot. Understandably in my opinion, these men felt that this was unfair (but according to a lot of people on this forum, it's okay because they're men and men already dominate the industry, so this was just a way of somewhat tipping the scales in the other direction, even if the specific men who were losing out from this action had nothing to do with the imbalance anyway.) As for what DZK said. I think it's pretty mild and I have thick skin so even as a man who disagrees, I'm not offended by it. But I think the point still stands - you represent your company and you can't insult your customers like he did. That's all there is to it. I think trying to represent who disagrees as a 'misogynist' or a 'GGer' is disingenuous and the 'if you're not with us, you're against us' mentality on this forum is stronger than George W Bush.
I mean, it wasn't professional of me. But she tells me to STFU many times. But I never cry. I'm still shocked by the way. Not feeling bad at all, just interested why she would cry and act all hysterical. She's 26 years old. My male boss says I have to be careful because I only work with females. And females are more sensitive to such things...