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Thread The Verge: "Google tries shaming Apple into adopting RCS with #getthemessage campaign"
The thing that has always confused me, and I'm really not trying to engage in wars, is that I would think that more iPhone users would want Apple to adopt RCS backup. It would put them in a position where they had to compete on the software side. I've switched from Android to iPhone and back again on 3 separate occasions, and each time I went back to Android running. I would never shit on the iPhone experience, iOS is beautiful, smooth, less layers so a lot simpler to use, and still has the top ecosystem. But as an OS, Android is just way more functional to me, and with Microsoft and Google being chummy the gulf is only widening. But every time I've returned to Android, every single time, the ONE thing I miss is iMessage. When we talk about Android shame in the US, what does it always come down to? iMessage. I would say iMessage IS iOS's killer feature more than anything. The thing that's so good it allows them to not compete feature-for-feature in any other area. I would think people would want to see Apple put into a position where they have to compete, so folks don't have to pretend to be excited about getting widgets and pip...in 2022.
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Thread The Verge: "Google tries shaming Apple into adopting RCS with #getthemessage campaign"
My Favorite was Google Allo. Allo was Google really giving iMessage and FB Messager a run for their money with "fun" chat features, and in a few ways it was a better app than both. Problem is, again, Americans are not conditioned to download a separate app just for messaging versus what comes with their phone. Even if that experience has been inferior for years.
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Thread The Verge: "Google tries shaming Apple into adopting RCS with #getthemessage campaign"
... They did? "Google Messages" is their iMessage equivalent. Whenever I text someone else using Google RCS, the experience is virtually similar to iMessage. This is purely about the quality of messaging when users of both platforms
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Thread The Verge: "Google tries shaming Apple into adopting RCS with #getthemessage campaign"
This is already happening anytime you send text to someone using Android via iMessage. So I'm not understanding the hostility here to Americans wanting to push Apple to adopt a newer, feature-rich, more secure, standard.
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Thread The Verge: "Google tries shaming Apple into adopting RCS with #getthemessage campaign"
Nobody is denying that this is an American problem. And again, the issue isn't an app. Google's tried this with several apps over the years. The reason Americans at large won't download an app is because the incentive to download an app like many other countries faced simply didn't exist in the US. This comes up in every single one of these threads: US carriers nixxed pay-per-text plans years before a lot of other countries did. That's really all there is to it. I remember being in college and being introduced to WhatsApp by friends abroad...as a way to get around paying for texts! By that point, that had all but ceased to exist in the US. So whereas many other countries had monetary incentives to adopt alternative P2P messaging apps, for Americans there wasn't much reason to not use that app that came with the phone... and until just a few years ago they weren't wrong! You have to understand that cultural context to understand why this conversation plays out like it does in the US. It's not just Americans...American-ing
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Thread The Verge: "Google tries shaming Apple into adopting RCS with #getthemessage campaign"
But this is a convenience, not a necessity, as that twitter thread is arguing. Yeah, through my carrier service and Google's implementation of RCS, I can also access most of my phone's features through the My Phone app on Windows or a web browser. Yes, my carrier service is involved in that, but that's not a problem because I have carrier service, as do millions of other Americans. And those who don't, but for some reason want to be able to send pics and videos to phones, have access to other services to do so. RCS isn't a perfect solution, but in many ways neither is iMessage. But that's not a strong argument for Apple not adopting what is increasingly becoming the modern global standard for texting, and keeping the texting experience between iOS and Android logged somewhere between ICQ and Aim.
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Thread The Verge: "Google tries shaming Apple into adopting RCS with #getthemessage campaign"
Google has created 173,528 iMessage alternatives, and I would argue that 173,527 of them were better than iMessage, and I say that as a user of both platforms. The problem is Apple had the leverage to strong-arm carriers into adopting iMessage functionality from very early on; Google did not.
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Thread The Verge: "Google tries shaming Apple into adopting RCS with #getthemessage campaign"
The issue isn't iPhone users; they can stay on iMessage just fine. RCS isn't a competing platform, it's a standard. It's essentially the successor to SMS/MMS. Apple refusing to fall back to RCS instead of SMS at this point would be like Verizon throttling my internet speeds to 56k whenever I used a service owned by Comcast.
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Thread The Verge: "Google tries shaming Apple into adopting RCS with #getthemessage campaign"
Shame. Them. RCS has come a really long way in just the last few years since Google started going around carriers in implementing it. Now most Android users I know have RCS/Chat features even if they aren't aware, regardless of carrier, at least in the US. No reason for Apple to keep iPhones walled off at this point.
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Thread Beyoncé - act i - RENAISSANCE - July 29
Oh -- Apparently Beyonce's not done collaborating with legends. The Isley Brothers just teased a collaboration with her on a remake of their classic R&B song "Make Me Say It Again": And even though it doesn't officially premier until the 12th, it was playing every hour on the hour on the local R&B station today, so I've heard it. It is very old school; it is very R&B; it is very Black. If you know The Isley Brothers, and it's a pretty straight-forward cover of their older song, you already know what it is. And she sounds amazing. She's serving Debut era "Me, Myself and I" vocals. Here's the classic Isley Brothers song, too: EDIT: There's rumor that this is a tease of what vol. II is going to sound like and excuse me!? If Beyonce gives us an album of Classic 70s Baby-Making R&B I might be more here for it than vol. I.
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Thread CNN: The FBI just raided Mar-A-Lago
I will say, the Dark Brandon stuff is a little cringe to me personally. That said, this is the first time I've seen Biden positively meme'd by a large swath of the left since that time he dragged some poor Ayn Rand fanboy up and down the VP Debate stage. Their name was...Tim Ryan, or something? I don't know her. So while I don't engage in it much, if the Dark Brandon stuff gives stuff gives some people on the left the permission structure to talk positively about the Biden Administration's achievements, I won't hate on it.
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Thread The Senate Democratic Majority has just passed the Inflation Reduction Act
The thing is we might never actually know. This is the type of shit we tend to not find out until somebody writes a tell-all or an HBO docu-series that comes out years after the fact. What we do know is that Manchin went from a hard no to a champion of the legislation in literally weeks. And that type of switch is usually the work of near GoT's level behind-the-scenes maneuvering. It's hard to imagine a scenario where Biden heavily involved, though.
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Thread The Senate Democratic Majority has just passed the Inflation Reduction Act
And this is all before grappling with the fact that, in this hypothetical, you're firing the Parliamentarian to replace them with a yes-man who'll do what you say (who exactly is you? Nobody knows!), even if it goes against Senate procedure or, hey, the law.
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Thread The Senate Democratic Majority has just passed the Inflation Reduction Act
Are we attacking the Parliamentarian again? Just a reminder that, traditionally, both the Senate and House Parliamentarians are apolitical appointments, despite being appointed to their positions by the Senate/House Leaders, respectfully. The current Senate Parliamentarian, Elizabeth MacDonough, has been in the position since 2012, appointed by Harry Reid. The role of the Parliamentarian is simply to explain and interpret the Senate rules which, considering how many Senators can't even keep track of this, seems like a necessary and important job! As someone who works one of these apolitical government jobs, it's extremely concerning to me to see so many on the right left go after apolitical government officials simply for doing their jobs. You have a problem with the Senate rules? Place your ire at the feet of the . Going after the Parliamentarian is like going after a fucking librarian.
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Thread The Senate Democratic Majority has just passed the Inflation Reduction Act
I think it's also important to remember that, not even a month ago, this bill was thought dead. Not just gutted. . As in a few weeks ago Biden had stronger odds of beating Megan Thee Stallion in a twerk contest than getting this legislation on his desk to sign. (You're welcome for that mental image, btw) So the amount of wheeling and dealing it must have taken behind the scenes to turn Manchin (and Sinema) from a firm no, to openly championing the legislation is...well, I hope someday somebody writes a book about it, because I'd read it. Politics is cumbersome. American politics especially.
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Thread The Senate Democratic Majority has just passed the Inflation Reduction Act
Something that's really hilarious to me is that this bill has passed the Senate, but everyone is acting like the bill's already law. ...and because nobody is questioning Pelosi's ability to get her caucus in line. She's probably already sent every D in the House an edible arrangement and a card with a thinly veiled threat attached.
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Thread Sinema agrees to Reconciliation bill. Likely to pass this Saturday.
People drag Manchin and Cinema on this site daily. Daily. If you have to resort to the extreme level of dishonesty that those two assholes are somehow protected on this board in order to shield Bernard from any sort of criticism, just save the word count and cut the crap because you're fooling nobody. What Bern did last night was dumb, completely ego driven, and helped nothing
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Thread Giancarlo Esposito (Breaking Bad, Better Call Saul) confirms he's spoken to Marvel Studios; says he wants to play Professor X
He'd be fantastic. Mostly because I think he does chilling/sinister very well, and I'd love to see him bring a little of that to a portrayal of Professor X.
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Thread Sinema agrees to Reconciliation bill. Likely to pass this Saturday.
It's not that we can't hope for something better. A frustrating thing about these conversations is that it really shouldn't be some sort of revelation that most Democrats hope for better. I'm a proud Democrat. I volunteer with other proud Democrats. Teachers, and hairstylists and waitresses. We're all hoping for better. But we're not going to volunteer to trip ourselves on the road to better because we couldn't teleport there. Progress is progress. And that really should be clearer now, in climate, than ever before.
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Thread What’s the absolute mildest food/sauce a friend or family member has said, “had a little kick to it?”
I have to echo all the black pepper posts. I LOVE black pepper in my food and use it liberally, but mostly because I don't even register it as being spicy? I use black pepper more for its smoky/bitter qualities. I'm Cajun, so if I'm wanting spicy, I'm reaching for the hot pepper sauce and jalapenos/chipotle/cayenne, and I'm not even a "heat" person! The aforementioned peppers just have the best mix of heat/flavor in my opinion. But the number of times my friends have asked me to ease up on the black pepper? What???
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Thread Sinema agrees to Reconciliation bill. Likely to pass this Saturday.
That part. Despite the shitty state of our union, I really have to commend the Biden Administration, and the Democratic Party, for keeping their head down, their feet to the ground, and passing some of the most Progressive legislation this country has ever seen. Is shit perfect? No. Could Dems be better? Absolutely. But the doing of the work continues.
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Thread Sinema agrees to Reconciliation bill. Likely to pass this Saturday.
And ain't THAT the gag!?!? To this day, the thing I say about Biden, is that when he announced his candidacy and we knew what the primary field would look like back in 2018, Biden wasn't my first or choice. Only one person I knew had it down from the start that Biden would win and deliver. And that was my The second Biden announced he said, "Biden's got it" and never wavered. I said. I said. Like, I'm not still trying to be eating crow from the man in my 30s.
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Thread Sinema agrees to Reconciliation bill. Likely to pass this Saturday.
Y'all really shouldn't be surprised that Bernie "Marched With King and That's All I Got" Sanders is like this. Some of us knew it. Saw through the okey doke from Day 1. And tried to tell yall.
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Thread Sinema agrees to Reconciliation bill. Likely to pass this Saturday.
I mean, really. It's like, I don't understand how anyone who claims to uphold Democratic principles, fan or not, can overlook the fact that that was legitimately his strategy. It's like people who turn around and try to defend caucuses.
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Thread Sinema agrees to Reconciliation bill. Likely to pass this Saturday.
Sanders was never there, because he never addressed his fatal flaw: Black folks seeing right through his bullshit and not giving a shit about him. South Carolina was always destined to be his downfall.
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Thread Anchorage cops criticized after selfie with Filipino woman who flashed "white privilege card"
Hey y'all, You know how it's a fact that legit, not-funny-funny-haha white supremacist organizations/militias exist and operate in all 50 states of this shithole union? I can absolutely picture some of those groups printing dumbass cards like these for their dumbass members, thinking it's funny. I just never want to have common cause with them or their sense of comedy.
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Thread Racist Karen demands Black Man show her his Home Lease outside his own Home
Ding ding ding. Sometimes these conversations can be frustrating, because I feel like a lot of leftists understand, on paper, the history of police in this country being rooted in slave catching. But when it comes to applying what you know academically to what you see echoed in real life and in the present, both in how the police operate and how white people weaponize them against Black folks, there's still way too much, And it's like, white folks, come on now...connect the dots. You're almost there.
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Thread Is androgyny considered attractive?
I think androgyny is incredibly attractive. For me, it has a lot to do with the fact that we live in such a binary society that for a lot of people (not everyone) it takes a lot of to present androgyny. And, to me, intention in itself is very sexy. Very similar to confidence.
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Thread are Android tablets still a thing? If someone wants to buy a tablet, should they default to the iPad?
Honestly, I think Windows Surface stole the non-iPad tablet market from Android. Especially when cheaper/used models became more available.
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Thread Vaginas, pheromones and TikTok: what is the strange new trend of ‘vabbing’?
Um. So, I spent the entire evening after having read this thread trying to imagine what my response would be to someone who confided in me that they did this. "...love that for you."
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Thread Mario got dat WAP, and other fly remixes.
So this all started back in 2020, when the world was going to an end, and I was fucking around in the BCC Discord. linked me to this WAP x Mario 64 mashup, and I legitimately loved it. I have since ripped it and added it to multiple playlists. It just WORKS so well, particularly with Megan's flow: So now I want more. Know of any popular song x nerd mashups? Link them below.
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Thread WNBA star Brittney Griner convicted and sentenced to nine years in prison by Russian judge for drug possession and smuggling
Needs be reminded that Brittney has a whole ass wife waiting for her at home. Sending up prayers for her entire family. Hopefully the US can negotiate her safe return home.
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Thread This #%^
Thank you for posting this. Confession: this song makes me emotional every time I hear it. The first time I heard it, something in my brain just connected the vocals to the idea of a mother mourning the loss of a child, and since then I can't hear it any other way. It's not even the first half of the song, when Clare's vocals are at their most bombastic. It's the end, that quiet. That feeling of sobbing when everything has already been wrung out of you. This song is gospel. And not a single word spoken.
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Thread I made a mistake of donating money to political candidate without using a burner email address. Good god at the spam.
As annoying as it is, I think it's worth noting that this is relatively new behavior from Dems. Meanwhile, Republicans have always been like fiends after their constituents money. So while my initial reaction is to find it unsavory, part of me understands the necessity of Dems playing the money game. Democrats being the party of elites is a smear, in truth Dems tend to be borderline broke compared to Republicans.
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Thread It's been years but one plot point in Twilight bugs me too no end....Edwards choice to stay in highschool forever...
The first book is actually OK. The rest of the series... Well, I mean, it's not high literature, but the same can be said about a lot of shit that didn't get the hate Twilight did.
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Thread VICE: Lady Gaga is an icon, up there with the likes of Prince, Bowie and Madonna
Since this thread as become at least partially about Madonna, a reminder that NO POP GURL has been able to match the sheer audacity of this somg/video: This song is still SEX. To this day.
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Thread VICE: Lady Gaga is an icon, up there with the likes of Prince, Bowie and Madonna
Saying she's "Madonna" is a bit much - although to be fair, we may never see another single Pop act hit Madonna/MJ level. Gaga is still young, but her accomplishments thus far definitely put her closer than anyone not named Beyonce (or Rihanna, should she ever return to music). Gaga's work is timeless and undeniably influential. (except for Joanne)
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Thread VICE: Lady Gaga is an icon, up there with the likes of Prince, Bowie and Madonna
I think people might be misremembering how titanic Madonna's reign over Pop was. Gaga, unless things change, is kind of a legacy act atm. But when Madonna was Gaga's current age, she was just releasing Bedtime Stories (1994, and iconique album). We hadn't even gotten Ray of Light yet.
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Thread So Katy Perry throwing whole ass slices of pizza into her audience is the best example of Chaotic Neutral, right?
It's so strange to me, because for a time I truly thought Katy had hit "too big to fail" status. But now she serves as a cautionary tale. There was a time when even Katy knew it was time to evolve her sound, instead of chasing the same tween market when she herself was pushing 30. But then she released Prism.
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Thread How old were you when you lost your virginity?
I was 18, they were 21. My Resident Assistant. A mutual friend gave me the link to their Xanga, where they had apparently been writing about me all first semester. Got to the entry about them liking me more than their favorite cheese, and I'm telling you the draws off.
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Thread Did Neil Patrick Harris just out Ncuti Gatwa?
No, it's the choice of words I go with. I don't understand the hostility here. I'm not saying sadly because it's scandalous. I'm a queer person. I'm a little offended that I have to reaffirm that. I'm saying sadly because we still live in a world where threads like this are necessary.
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Thread Will Smith Breaks Silence: “Deeply Remorseful” For Oscar Slap
Like, Chris "You can say nigger" Rock is going to be hugging his white audience harder than ever, because most Black folks (even Black folks who like him), saw this shit for what it was.
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Thread White people give glowing reviews to an 1830s slave cabin put up on Airbnb
I wouldn't want these historical relics and landmarks to be destroyed. To me, that's just another form of erasure that whites are engaging in. I want historical landmarks like this to be preserved, and as the solemn memorials they are. My ancestors were brought here and held in captivity in huts that looked a lot like this. I come from a mixed-race family. Being mixed race in the US (or an island that formerly functioned as a slave colony) means that your history can likely be traced back to a slave woman who was "visited" in a hut that looked like this. Mothers had babies ripped from their arms in huts like this. Slaves tended to their whip scars in huts like this. Slaves prayed silently to their gods in huts like this. This history is painful, important, and real. The level of callousness and ignorance it takes to look at something like this. This slave dwellings...and think I would slap the shit out of every single one of them.
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Thread Will Smith Breaks Silence: “Deeply Remorseful” For Oscar Slap
At this point I need to know what thread some of y'all are reading. Because there's this dogged attempt going on to paint everyone who's the slap as "defending" it, when I actually see very little of that, especially at this point in the thread. And that's another problem with how topics largely involving Black people get discussed on this board. Nuance is never, EVER allowed.
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Thread Will Smith Breaks Silence: “Deeply Remorseful” For Oscar Slap
You're thinking in absolutes. The point in bringing up this documentary on hair that Chris Rock made isn't to paint him as a "worse person." It's the point out that He knows the struggle women, in particular, Black women, have with their hair. It's not something he can play ignorant to. He made a bad, hurtful joke regardless.
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Thread Will Smith Breaks Silence: “Deeply Remorseful” For Oscar Slap
And Jada continues to be erased (unless she's being portrayed as the villain). Jada didn't assault Chris Rock. Why do Will's actions absolve Chris of his responsibility to do right by her?
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Thread Will Smith Breaks Silence: “Deeply Remorseful” For Oscar Slap
Maybe it's because it's late and I ain't got time for the okey doke, but I'm tired. We've just been over how Jada Pinkett Smith has been made the villain in this situation despite not saying a word: Jada Pinkett Smith has not been afforded an ounce of victimhood in any of this. And this isn't unusual. Black Women are RARELY afforded victimhood. And so, you ask why Jada didn't just "speak for herself and demand an apology." And my obvious counter to that is But one would think Rock would feel some obligation to initiate an apology, seeing as he initiated the entire situation in the first place with his piss-poor joke.
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Thread Will Smith Breaks Silence: “Deeply Remorseful” For Oscar Slap
Yes. Jada has a talk show where she's spoken about this. But besides that, I would expect the "comedian" who made a documentary on Black hair to know that, or at least display sensitivity. I wouldn't expect you to know that; you haven't demonstrated a prior interest in the topic that I'm aware of.
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Thread Will Smith Breaks Silence: “Deeply Remorseful” For Oscar Slap
Who established the negative? I'm not being pedantic. People love to conveniently forget that Rock started this whole thing with a crude, adlibed joke. So where's the responsibility he bears to the person he wronged?
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Thread Will Smith Breaks Silence: “Deeply Remorseful” For Oscar Slap
And, just to reiterate, let's sum up the actions of all involved: Chris Rock: Made fun of Jada Pinkett Smith's physical appearance, knowingly or not poking at a health condition. Will Smith: Slapped Chris Rock in retaliation. Jada Pinkett Smith:...nothing. And yet who NEVER gets the victim treatment in all of this? In fact, not only does Jada not get seen as a victim here, she gets -- up to and including multiple insinuations, in this thread even, that Jada is psychologically damaging her husband. Claims that she needs counseling. Claims that she emasculates Will. All without saying a word.
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Thread Will Smith Breaks Silence: “Deeply Remorseful” For Oscar Slap
If you don't understand why Black people, particularly a lot of Black women, might find catharsis in Will's actions while also not condoning what he did, then there's a lot of cultural context you're looking over in this conversation.
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Thread Will Smith Breaks Silence: “Deeply Remorseful” For Oscar Slap
Yep. Every time this topic comes up you have a handful of people, usually Black, trying to have a discussion about the deeper forces at play here. But that conversation always gets snuffed out by an adherence to absolute surface level.
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Thread Vice: A Chick-fil-A In North Carolina Asked for 'Volunteers' to Work for 5 Chicken Sandwiches Per Hour
I'm pretty sure we've had conversations before on how easily exploitable volunteer labor is, especially in the US. But if people want to go up for this over Chick Fil A, don't let me stop you.
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Thread If Instagram wants to become TikTok so hard, apparently TikTok’s owner ByteDance is making what people want: creating a new Instagram.
But why is that? I've said this before, but this is the thing that I really don't get. Because recording and sharing video has gotten a lot more accessible, all of these apps are now acting like video is "replacing" photos. Like, videos are the future. That may be true -- it's nice having a halfway-decent camcorder in your back pocket -- but that doesn't mean photos are the . People still take pictures. In fact, I'd wager the majority of people have more photos in their camera rolls than videos. Certainly, this is the case for everyone I know, including the younger people I know! The bar for whipping out your phone and taking a cool/cute picture of something is just way lower than doing the same for video, and that's still going to be the case for a while. In fact, this has led to a really annoying trend I've noticed on TikTok (and IG) of people taking video of some static thing and having someone dance/point in front of it simply to justify it being a video. It's like, people didn't stop reading books and graphic novels because motion pictures became a thing. To me, this is just leaving a huge blindspot for another app to take advantage of. I and just about everyone I know have all these photos sitting in our camera rolls. Only difference now is we feel less compelled to share them.
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Thread Vice: A Chick-fil-A In North Carolina Asked for 'Volunteers' to Work for 5 Chicken Sandwiches Per Hour
So, this lucrative Chick Fil A is exploiting people (likely young, likely BIPOC) for their labor and compensating them in under-the-table and untaxable food? ...and we're supposed to be ok with that because it's a bland ass Chick Fil A sandwich? Am I missing something?
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Thread Instagram decided it does not want to be Instagram anymore
This is a good point. Facebook ushered in monetization in a way that no social media platform before it managed to. I've recently returned to Flickr in a big way, after being away from the platform for years due, largely, to IG. I wish Flickr were in a better position to capitalize, because I love everything about the latest version of their app and how they treat photos.
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Thread Instagram decided it does not want to be Instagram anymore
Yes, I go between both "Following" and "Favorites." Problem is, Instagram won't let either be my default view. If I close the app and come back, I'm in the default feed. This is on Android, if that matters. That seems like a minor problem, but it's absolutely tedious, which I would wager is why they have it set up that way.
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Thread Instagram decided it does not want to be Instagram anymore
There truth to this. But I do often wonder at what point solid adherence to data trends becomes myopic. Because we've been here before. Friendster, Myspace, Snapchat, Vine, even Tumblr to a degree (because Tumblr was going downhill well before the adult content ban, that was just the final nail). All these platforms had their moments of crash, and I bet you all of their execs would say the same thing: At what point do you listen to what users are saying, versus what analytics tells you they're Because, if you never do that, if you never listen to the user because you're so sure you know what they really want; you basically set yourself up to have your lunch eaten.
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Thread Instagram decided it does not want to be Instagram anymore
Hardly any of the videos I get are from people I follow, which is another problem. Despite what Instagram is peddling this isn't actually about more meaningful connections between the people you follow. It's about broadening the content reaching every user -- whether it's content you want to see or not -- so that they can more effectively sell ads. It really is a redo of the failed Facebook experiment. I switched to the "Favorites" feed a long time ago, because while not a good solution to the problem it's better than nothing. But it's still a feed you have to actively set up, and even then it will force you back to the default feed...which has effectively become a wasteland of ads and content from people I don't follow, all to pad those numbers...to sell more ads.
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Thread U.S. Rep. Glenn Thompson (R-Pa.) toasts his gay son's wedding three days after voting against the Respect for Marriage Act
I'm digging at the bottom of my purse for sympathy for the groom...and I'm fresh out. That boy knows exactly the man his daddy is, and invited him anyway. Says a lot!
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Thread Pink Sauce trend sending some users to the hospital
I can't speak to other countries, but here in the US farmers markets are regulated by their state, including what they're allowed to sell. Here in PA: This is just somebody making mystery food in their kitchen then shipping it. But I do understand what you're saying. This social media version of buying prepared foods from individual people seems like an offshoot of something that used to be a lot more common: the neighborhood sharing and commerce of food. I'm thinking of the few people I know (including one who's a trained chef) who made a decent chunk of change during lockdown preparing plates of food and delivering them to people.
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Thread Pink Sauce trend sending some users to the hospital
I think this is getting a lot of (deserved) attention because of how completely this is, but this also isn't new. People selling prepared food items and ingredients, made in their kitchens, then shipped for days at a time has been a thing on social media for a while now. There was a point on Instagram not too long ago where I couldn't scroll without someone trying to sell me their special Cajun spice rubs and smoothie mixes. I'm not well-versed in this section of law, but it's giving . It's giving .
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Thread My grocery store thought that Cream of Wheat was a suitable substitute for Grits
I mean, no lie but...grits do serve as a great vehicle for oils and fats. The absorbent, creamy texture of grits; the natural lean towards savory flavors...mmm It's why sausage and grits are one of my favorite ways to prepare grits. See all that oil? Gotta get a little bit of that in every spoonful. lol EDIT: and lets not start with grits and crab gravy. I know what I'm cooking this weekend.
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Thread My grocery store thought that Cream of Wheat was a suitable substitute for Grits
Also, while a lot of people might not have had grits before because they're a Southern US dish (which is true), if you're familiar with Italian cuisine, you've had "grits" before. Polenta. Polenta and grits are pretty much the same thing. Grits are made from white corn, and tend to be ground more finely than most types of polenta, so there's a creamier texture. But incredibly similar -- even down to the types of dishes made with them. (Cornmeal is even closer to polenta, but that's a tangent. Besides, y'all ain't ready for a conversation on my hot water cornbread. That might be a little TOO Black)
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Thread WHO declares highest alert over monkeypox
What? The problem isn't just how they're limiting resources to vaccines. The problem is how they're disseminating this information. The CDC is trying to target a stigmatized, at-risk group with seemingly little thought to how the public is going to target that group. We've been here before.
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Thread WHO declares highest alert over monkeypox
Ah, yeah. This is likely just Philly because national rollout seems to be a shitshow, but here, even if you sign up for the vaccine, they're only contacting people who are identified as being part of an at-risk group. So, the scared straight suburbanites can add themselves to the list all they want; they're not getting called. At least, that's how it's to work. Who knows. Still, a valid angle I didn't consider as strongly is exactly what you and echo said: how Queer people could be further stigmatized if those same suburbanites come to believe you can get monkeypox from someone sneezing.
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Thread WHO declares highest alert over monkeypox
Because even though MSM make up the majority of these early cases (and let's put a pin in that!), it is not inherent to MSM: . And not just through sexual contact. Monkeypox is starting to pop up in children. Yes, it's important to let certain demographics know when they're at an increased risk, but the international health community absolutely has a responsibility to consider not just the information they put out, but they put that information out and the public is likely to receive it. Because when you have the CDC, and the media, and influencers/pundits, all shouting "GAY SEX! GAY SEX! GAY SEX!" you drown out and monkeypox gets seen as a "gay virus," which not only further stigmatizes gay people, but it also indirectly aids and abets in the further spread of the disease among populations of people not being made prepared for the reality that And because people already love stigmatizing Queer folks whenever they can, and this country is ass-backwards and highly selective when it comes to how it chooses to apply "Christian" values, you end up with a government slower than usual to respond to a potential health crises because too many people in our government still believe that any calamity that can be portrayed as "targeting" Queer people is God's holy retribution and our own damn fault. The CDC does not just have a duty to our health, they have a social responsibility. And they fail this again and again and it has cost of lives in this country.
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Thread WHO declares highest alert over monkeypox
But this isn't really what I'm saying. I'm not arguing that vaccines at this time should not be focused on MSM populations. They absolutely should! I currently have it! But I'm not seeing why we can't do both -- both target at-risk groups for vaccines and be more considerate with how we present this information to the public. I wasn't just thinking about the AIDS epidemic; I was also thinking of COVID, particularly when the data started showing that Black people were more at risk for serious health complications. The conversation in the US never focused on the finer points of that. No, the conversation became "What can Black people do about COVID?" and non-Black people began engaging in more reckless behavior...which drove COVID numbers up. In Philly, for example, you still have to get an appointment for a vaccine. The only reason I have the vaccine today is because I was on a list of being an at-risk person and was contacted by the city health department. As of last I checked, you're still not able to just walk in and get a shot. For me, the issue isn't just "homophobes are going to target us." My fear is who is going to be left behind by how we talk about this: people who engage in at-risk behavior but don't want to be associated with "gay" either because they don't view themselves as gay, are closeted, or don't view the activities they engage in as being high risk, because they're not gay. And from my vantage point, it's always the same people getting left behind. Still, informative threads you posted, . It's calming me down somewhat. It can be triggering to grapple with something that so much like history repeating itself.
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Thread WHO declares highest alert over monkeypox
Hello. That person was me. I'm not about getting it at work. I was merely acknowledging that, via the nature of my job, which I have not disclosed in this thread, direct and physical contact is not unusual. More to the point, I was contacted by my city's health department as a candidate for the vaccine because I qualify under multiple high risk factors.
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Thread Nothing prefaced with "You know what the funny thing is, though..." has ever been funny, or even interesting.
Actually, in some contexts it literally does mean funny. I've heard it used to both preface something funny and ironic. Often both. Also, I love me a good preface, so OP would hate me.
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Thread Nothing prefaced with "You know what the funny thing is, though..." has ever been funny, or even interesting.
This is so true. And usually whatever's "sad" is usually so goddamn hilarious the person can't even get that part out without cracking themselves up. (Me, 'person' is me)
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Thread Pastrami Sub or Philly Cheesesteak?
I have not had a good experience with cheesesteaks, and I live in Philly. You essentially have to make what is more a "grilled steak sandwich" and less a "traditional cheesesteak" for me to like one. Because basically I'm not fucking with cheese whiz. Period. And I can barely stand provolone. But a basic, by-the-book pastrami? Oh, can't beat that.
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Thread Avengers Kang Dynasty (May 2025) and Avengers Secret Wars (November 2025) announced
Understand, we live in a society where one of the most picked apart aspects of the Black appearance, besides our hair and skin tones, are the shapes of our lips and our noses. So, when you make your criticism of a Black actor's ability to play a ...please rethink the micro-aggressive nature of your criticism.
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Thread WHO declares highest alert over monkeypox
Just got the vaccine for this on Tuesday and, yeah, it's definitely being treated like a "Gay Thing." Which...why are we still doing this? (ALSO, I've gotten the COVID vaccine 4 times now, only the first shot really gave me symptoms....THIS ONE!? Oi, take off work the next day if you can)
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Thread I have Monkeypox...
Get well soon, OP! I got the monkeypox vaccine this week. Got an email from the city health department that was essentially "Hi Gay!" and booked myself the soonest appointment. I'm not even sexually active right now, but I do find myself in close contact with a lot of people via work. Queer people, particularly msm, keep an eye on your email. Once the vaccine becomes more available and starts rolling out, the email you provided for the COVID vaccine will be one of the first ways they attempt to contact you.
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Thread Karen assumes woman didn’t pay for her Panera order, berates her until she cries
But it's not a caste system, because we see, routinely, again and again, white people forgo rights and privileges that would uplift their social standing, so long as they can be convinced that being in support of said rights would benefit racial ethnicities even a little bit. I understand your point though; there is a hierarchy in who is subject to the brunt of racist treatment, largely based of nationality, colorism and phonotype. Definitely not wrong about that. I just subscribe to the belief that, at its core, all this shit is inherently illogical. Too often the "I don't understand why they act like this!?" tears from "allies" ring hollow, and like the cries of people not actually interested in combatting racism versus enacting the same exercises of fruitless surprise over, and over, and over, and fucking over.
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Thread Karen assumes woman didn’t pay for her Panera order, berates her until she cries
Stop looking for logic in racism. Racism is inherently illogical. It's 2022, when are people going to stop falling for the Okey doke of trying to figure this shit out? Stop looking for logic in racism. Racism is inherently illogical.
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Thread House to vote on same-sex marriage in an effort to push back against court [UP: Passed house with bipartisan support]
Stop wishing for the day the right wises up and realizes they're voting in monsters. That they're monsters is the point, and those of you still wanting to get into a war of logic with them has me concerned. Babies, you're better off throwing paper balls at glass hoping it'll break. Also, leave "Do Something!" Twitter alone. That battle is pointless as well.
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Thread House to vote on same-sex marriage in an effort to push back against court [UP: Passed house with bipartisan support]
This is the part where I remind you that there are Democrats in office who do this. Who routinely call Republics treasonous, nazis, literal "demons". But they're Black, so not only do they get no attention, the Left will regularly join in with the right in attacking them! If it sounds like I'm being petty... Yes! Yes I am. I'm bitter as fuck about this because I've noticed this trend for years. Y'all don't actually want what you're asking for, because you'd rally behind them Dems already doing it.
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Thread House to vote on same-sex marriage in an effort to push back against court [UP: Passed house with bipartisan support]
I see you. I really do. Shit pisses me off. There are Black Dems up and down the party who STAY lighting Republicans up. STAY on their asses. Shit, not even Justin the party! Shout out to Professor Bridges!
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Thread House to vote on same-sex marriage in an effort to push back against court [UP: Passed house with bipartisan support]
Just got an alert on my phone that the House just passed the bill. See, y'all can say what y'all want about Nancy Pelosi... But she stays handling HER part of the business, while eating a pint of ice cream. Get on Schumer's ass.
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Thread House to vote on same-sex marriage in an effort to push back against court [UP: Passed house with bipartisan support]
For the same reason exit polls going back every election since I've been alive show that most people didn't prioritize abortion rights in how they voted. People thought Roe v Wade was settled. I mean, there are a ton of basic rights and liberties not coded into law because our government functions on gentlemen's agreements and that idea that, once gained, a matter is settled. But ain't shit ever settled in this shithole country. Important to keep that in mind.
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Thread World of Warcraft: Shadowlands |OT| Anima Crossing: New Prison
IMO, the Kul Tiras zone storyline with Jaina in BFA is some of the best storytelling Blizzard's ever done. I damn near shed a tear during the finale cutscene. Also, shutout to Drustvar for delivering on the spooky. Drustvar is kind of its own thing, it doesn't really fit it with the rest of the BFA story, but it's just so cool on its own. If you don't want to level through BFA entirely, at least play through that zone. Actually, now that we're about to be two expansions removed, I think it's time for a BFA retrospective. Because, yeah, in light of Shadowlands, I do think we were harder on BFA in some areas than it deserved. LOL Case in point: the sheer amount of content we got in BFA.
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Thread GOP Nominee Herschel Walker in '19 falsely claims he was an FBI agent, threatened to kill a man, heard voices, and casually played Russian Roulette
Have you seen the average Republican at a podium?
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Thread GOP Nominee Herschel Walker in '19 falsely claims he was an FBI agent, threatened to kill a man, heard voices, and casually played Russian Roulette
So, this is the tree that apple fell from.
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Thread The Battle to Replace ‘Game of Thrones’: The network researched Martin’s collective works and compiled about 15 possible prequel concepts
I'd be interested in more Westeros stories. Not the prequel, though. Have absolutely no interest in a prequel story.
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Thread What are some iconic, generation-defining franchises from your childhood that you just never liked? (Ex. I was never a fan of TMNT as a kid).
Transformers. Tried so many times, and just couldn't get into it. Bored to the most absolute of tears. (except Beast Wars. Beast Wars was lit)
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Thread Panda Express’ orange chicken changed the game for American Chinese food 35 years ago
Saying "someone did this before" and providing receipts is researching a topic and keeping the record straight. Saying, "someone did this better and before" while providing no receipts and leaning on your own unsubstantiated assertions is...being a hater. Don't be a hater, fam.
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Thread World of Warcraft: Shadowlands |OT| Anima Crossing: New Prison
I agree with this to an extent. Blizzard has been making a lot of good moves lately to promote a less toxic community, but at the same time they still continue to reach out and give oxygen to a lot of people who not only drive that toxicity, but have monetized it and so have no real incentive to change. I've had to unfollow a few commentators in the last few years. Not because I can't handle harsh criticism of a Blizzard product, but because some of them have gotten to the point that their criticisms are so nakedly disingenuous you have to wonder if they even like the game they're playing.
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Thread DeSantis' Anti-Sex/Anti-Race education message is winning in battleground states, teacher union poll finds
I know "it's too early" is an unpopular response because it feels dismissive. That said... It's too early for this shit.
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Thread World of Warcraft: Shadowlands |OT| Anima Crossing: New Prison
Whew, some folks gonna be mad at this: But I agree. At a certain point, Blizz can't balance for the game-within-the-game that some of the community is invested in. That just results in less interesting gameplay for everyone. More fun abilities and interesting styles of play. Less worrying about players' Raid IO score.
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Thread 7 teens in Philadelphia assault elderly man on camera; victim dies following day
for reminding me about the flash mobs. I've lived in Philly damn near 2 decades and I almost forgot all about them. Teenagers used to get together in large groups and violently harass people. Folks walking down the street. Homeless people seeking shelter in the subway tunnels. . And before anybody fixes their fingers, it wasn't just the inner-city Black kids doing this. There are people wanting to insist that this violence is unusual. Um, welcome to living in a city nearly overrun with poor conditions in modern times, because it's not. This is what these kids are steeped in. The only thing that makes this story particularly unique is a) this poor man died from his injuries; and b) Republicans are seizing on this moment to try and oust Krasner. And look, to talk about this shit you have to be able to carry multiple thoughts in your head at once. Nobody, especially nobody who's let it be known in this thread that , is trying to make excuses for these kids or trivialize the death of James Lambert by painting an accurate picture for you all of what this city is like right now.
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Thread 7 teens in Philadelphia assault elderly man on camera; victim dies following day
I'm not sure why people in this thread insist that they watched the video....then go on to describe events that aren't shown in the video. It's happened a few times in here.
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Thread 7 teens in Philadelphia assault elderly man on camera; victim dies following day
No need to link the video that's in the OP. I've seen it. Before this thread existed even. I see a group of kids. Some aggressive, some conflicted, some appearing to actively try to stop the continued violence. That's what I see in that video. So we'll just have to agree to disagree.
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Thread 7 teens in Philadelphia assault elderly man on camera; victim dies following day
I'm not seeing the "they" chased him down, and I'm not seeing the "enjoying every bit of it." That's the type of editorializing you supply when you're going for a maximum sentence.
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Thread 7 teens in Philadelphia assault elderly man on camera; victim dies following day
Actually, going by the tenor of this thread and the conversations that are happening, it's not clear at all. Hence why, "we need to be really careful about the language we evoke when we talk about these things," has been the point of most of my posts in this thread. You call it being obtuse. I call it erring on the side of caution for a demographic of kids who are rarely ever afforded that grace.
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Thread 7 teens in Philadelphia assault elderly man on camera; victim dies following day
I need to know why a 10-year-old was out on the street at 2:30am. I need some interviews with parents to wrap my head around this shit. My whole office was buzzin about this right when I saw the bump in here.
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Thread 7 teens in Philadelphia assault elderly man on camera; victim dies following day
Because when it comes to abortion, LGBTQIA+ rights, and even gun control in how the discussions take place, and a host of other issues, it's much easier to have those discussion divorced from how they intersect with Black people and "Black issues". And so, they often don't (and this is why Black people often get lost in these discussions, but this is a problem much, MUCH bigger than Resetera). It's much harder to do that with prison reform and restorative justice, because we live in a country that has built those systems such that you're having to talk about Black people, because we're who those systems were largely put in place to keep at heel. It makes it much easier for people's biases and the ways they've been conditioned to be exposed. Nep put it plain: people weren't even reaching to call the Uvalde killer an animal here.
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Thread 7 teens in Philadelphia assault elderly man on camera; victim dies following day
Based on? I actually think Krasner is doing a damn respectable job despite operating in a city government where he's pretty much alone. The person who takes his place will not be anywhere near as left as him. Like, y'all realize Republicans are seizing this opportunity to attempt impeaching Krasner because of his leftist approach and because they've , right? Like, nobody even slightly on the left should be saying "Excellent" to the idea of Krasner successfully being impeached. Y'all wanna get rid of somebody get rid of the freaking Mayor; useless.
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Thread 7 teens in Philadelphia assault elderly man on camera; victim dies following day
I mean, I live in Philly, too. Just saying. And not in a cushy part. But this post...is Republican propaganda right down to the period. Krasner was elected (with a ton of minority support) because of his promise to lower prosecution rates and curtail corrupt police and DA practices. That he's largely been successful at that is the precise reason Republicans are trying to impeach him, and it's why they leap at opportunities like this. But don't get it twisted, Republicans aren't trying to impeach Krasner for the good of the city. They want Krasner impeached so the Philadelphia PD can go back to the business of throwing niggas in jail, then when that doesn't stop the crime problem, petitioning for the ability to throw niggas in jail. This was the reality before Krasner. Like, Philly's crime problem didn't just pop up in the last few years. The harsh truth about Philly right now, that I'm surprised is so surprising to people, is that Philly doesn't just have a crime problem, it has a problem; a conditions problem that's only been exacerbated by COVID. I feel like everybody lived in this naive place in the last few years where they thought that just curtailing the police alone was going to make crime go away? It needed to be done, but it also needed to coincide with more resources and attention to address the of too many areas in this city, and that's what hasn't happened. I don't think the response should be impeaching Krasner to likely be replaced by someone who's going to go back to kissing PPD's collective ass. But it's also as you said; we don't have to agree.
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Thread 7 teens in Philadelphia assault elderly man on camera; victim dies following day
Again, is saying this? Nobody whose posts I've read is arguing this in here. Y'all realize that "rehabilitation" is a consequence, right? If prisons were ideally reformed to be rehabilitative with the goal of making people productive and less harmful members of society, they'd still be .
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Thread 7 teens in Philadelphia assault elderly man on camera; victim dies following day
I would say that here is where we actually differ. Because I look at this video and I just don't see the signs of a premeditated murder, or the idea that they discussed this at all beforehand. First off, these are teenagers. It's frankly going to take a lot for me leap to the assumption that this particular group of kids met at night to kill this particular man. To me, there are just too many signs of otherwise. Why are there several kids who look surprised, aren't participating, or just visibly shocked by what's happening? Why are the actual aggressors' weapon of choice a set of traffic cones? I also have to point out my own lived experience; I'm born and raised in South Central/Inglewood California. I know what a group of kids hanging out after hours and looking to get into trouble but looks like. This looks more like that, and to be clear pointing that out is not erasing culpability. If their intent were just to roughhouse this old man that's still fucked up and wrong. These kids are going to feel the consequences of what they were a part of for years to come, both legally and (hopefully) within their own conscience, as they . And I feel so sad for James Lambert, his family, his community and anybody who knew him. I think you and I agree with that part. But if your thought process is that this was premeditated, then it's not surprising to me that you arrived at the conclusion that they're irredeemable. I can't honestly say I'd arrive at myself if my thought process were the same...but I'd be pretty close. Respectfully, I can't agree with this. Of course, we cannot gloss over the fact that a man is dead. No matter how much anybody (including myself) tries contextualizing the actions of these kids, there can be no ignoring that their actions resulted in someone's murder. But even still, I can't in good conscience compare this incident to, as has been mentioned, the Uvaldi killer. That's an animal, that's barbaric to me. The man who got into a car, drove to a Buffalo NY grocery store, and shot down elderly black shoppers with an AR15 that had the word "Niggers" written on it, that's irredeemable to me. We've seen what it looks like when people intentionally set out to kill, and that does not look like this. That does not look like a group of kids who all jump with shock at whatever happened at 0:59. And making that distinction is no small deal, imo. Because we have evidence that when we allow language that should be reserved for actual cold-blooded killers to be passed down, it continues to be passed down. And that's not a toothless slippery slope argument. I know what it's like to be a young Black kid afraid to slip up because you'll instantly be compared to the worst society has to offer, because so many people inherently see that potential in you. It's why it's so damn hard to prioritize true criminal justice and prison reform in this country, because too many people (including people on the left as this thread has gloriously demonstrated) fail to understand why we should throw resources behind measures that are only going to help "animals" in waiting. If we want solutions, we have to constantly be vigilant about how we engage with the problems. I think a useful change would be to stop looking for reasons to call these kids monsters. Stop looking for reasons to lump these kids into one group, and start treating violence of the sort we see here as a symptom and owning our part in how we've failed these kids. Because if we don't do that, then the prison reform debate won't ever matter, because prison will continue to be the place we're sending inner-city kids by truckload. I wish I had a better answer for you. I just know how we shouldn't talk about it.
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Thread 7 teens in Philadelphia assault elderly man on camera; victim dies following day
Yes, but you're arguing hindsight here. Hindsight doesn't matter to the point. The point PrivateWHudson was making, if I'm not mistaken, is that he also engaged in dumb, reckless behavior as a kid that
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Thread 7 teens in Philadelphia assault elderly man on camera; victim dies following day
This is actually not that different at all. The rocks those kids were throwing could have shattered a window or in any other way distracted the driver, causing them to lose control of the car and cause a collision. And if you don't think that exact scenario has occurred, oh, it has: The major difference here is people continuing to want to see these kids as intentionally setting out to kill a man.
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Thread 7 teens in Philadelphia assault elderly man on camera; victim dies following day
I can't get down with this. I want to be clear: I'm a Black person living in Philly. Everyone I know is talking about this, and everyone I know is aghast at the entire situation. These kids absolutely deserve consequences, , and pretty harsh ones, at that. But I can't get down with this language (and not to single you out, Addie, you're not the only one in this thread talking like this). I've watched this video, and that these kids set out with the intent to kill a man. I don't even see evidence in this video that these kids thought what was happening would result in this man dying (this before anybody gets me fucked up). I see one overt aggressor; I see one poor girl who looks horrified from the start of the video until the end. I see the boy in the white shirt who's filming stop filming and look shocked when whatever happens when the girl with the cone runs off-screen happens. And then I see a group of other kids who look a mix of entertained, then complacent, then confused/shocked. I watch this video, and I see a moment in real-time. What I don't see is the same ragtag group of murderers set out with the intent to kill that so many in here are insistent on seeing. And so, the same language to describe these kids that I would use to describe a ragtag group of murderers set out with the intent of kill. Because THOSE people exist. They're not a fictional archetype. There are cold-blooded killers in this world. We see evidence of this in threads posted on this site damn near weekly. This language should be reserved for them. Because when we use this language, and we start to see these kids (who went too far in some shit they shouldn't have been doing in the first place, which resulted in the death of a man, and yes THEY DESERVE CONSEQUENCES I will repeat) as no different than people who truly do revel and gloat over the idea of killing people, then we create the environment for every kid (and it is not inconsequential that these kids are Black) engaging in any level of illegality to be viewed and thus punished in this same light. We see this same language used to describe the origin of the fear of Black boy shot for stealing a soft drink from a convenience store. This language, used so wantonly, trickles down and becomes the reason it was OK for a bunch of white people to watch a police officer step on the back of a Black girl for acting rowdy at a public pool. The fear and hate that this language spawns becomes the reason why a Black boy in a hoodie, carrying nothing but skittles and an Arizona iced tea, doesn't make it home. This shit is all connected. This language is not just inaccurate, but it bears down on the lives of all of these kids. Not just the kids involved in this crime; ALL of kids. It crushes them down and then reshapes what they see to be the expectations of their lives. It affects the opportunities afforded them. It robs them of the benefit of the doubt so many kids get when, like most kids, they inevitably do something wrong. And that's not to trivialize what happened to James Lambert -- his life was stolen by a group of kids who absolutely deserve to be brought to justice despite the hand society has dealt them. But when it comes to kids, we have to stopping at the violence. We have to stop running away from our collective responsibility in how a world was shaped where shit like this can happen, even down to how we about it.
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Thread CNBC: Rihanna is now worth $1.4 billion–making her America’s youngest self-made billionaire woman
This is the first Fenty Beauty ad: Like, if you don't realize how transformative this was for the industry at the time... Give that Black girl her coins.
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Thread CNBC: Rihanna is now worth $1.4 billion–making her America’s youngest self-made billionaire woman
Nah. You can say what you want about Rihanna, but her makeup line had a legit impact on the beauty industry. Fenty Beauty normalized inclusive shade ranges. Before Fenty very few lines prioritized foundation tones for dark and deep-dark skin complexions. Like, she really did that.
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Thread Really do not understand cross necklaces made of gold or flooded with expensive stones like diamonds.
I mean, at the end of the day, we're still arguing myths. I'm not arguing what's correct; I'm arguing what people believe and pass down.
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Thread Really do not understand cross necklaces made of gold or flooded with expensive stones like diamonds.
OK, sorry for that then. I'm speaking as a protestant. I'll correct my language and say that most protestants don't believe in depicting Jesus as still being on the cross. This still doesn't disprove what a lot of protestants believe about depicting Jesus on the cross. It's sacrilege.
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Thread Really do not understand cross necklaces made of gold or flooded with expensive stones like diamonds.
Yeah, in the denomination of Christianity I was raised the only guideline on crosses were that they were to feature a figure of Jesus on the cross. It could only be the cross itself. Crosses with Jesus still on them are purely Catholic symbology and are considered sacrilegious to many protestant sects, because it presents defiance to the idea that Jesus resurrected. Other than that? Bling your crosses out however you want. lol
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Thread World of Warcraft: Shadowlands |OT| Anima Crossing: New Prison
I think the difference between then and now is that Blizzard has significantly increased the size of both their dev and QA teams with regards to WoW. I'm fully convinced at this point that keeping the community in the dark for as long as possible is the point. And I can't say I blame them. But, also...Ummm, we have known each other for years. Why haven't we played together yet? ...is it because you're a Horde scoundrel?
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Thread I think I just provided a formative sexual experience for someone else - and it was kind of surreal (Warning: descriptions of gay sex stuff)
Ummm, bumping this thread because a) it's a long weekend; and b) lord knows I don't give a shit about the associated holiday. So, I signed up for this app, and upon initial review... This app is very...potent. I'll never look at my neighborhood the same way again. Down boys. .
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Thread Everyone calls my 14 month old daughter a boy and it's kind of funny, but also kind of annoying.
Well, to be fair, "are they a boy or girl?" is a prerequisite first question where I come from. Not weird to ask first at all. That said, I do agree that newborns look largely look like genderless blobs.
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Thread I’m drunk and Im feeling down
OP Stop what you're doing, and immediate put on any type of music that makes you irrationally happy. Have a favorite movie? Watch it. Watch it now. A favorite game you've beaten 100 times? Beat it again. These are temporary solutions. I'm not capable of telling you whatever it is you need to make you truly feel better. But, the best advice I have ever been given, is that when you get hit with moments like this, there is no shame in retreating to the things that bring you joy.
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Thread Rolling Stones Top 50 Superhero Movies List
In regards to Black Panther, I think it deserves its spot, but I get the adverse opinions. For me, is BP is a great movie? Not quite, although this isn't a controversial take for me because I don't think of the MCU films are great movies. The MCU sits at around a C+ average for me, grading the films. Most of the films aren't that great. BP is helped, though, by the fact that it was a creative departure for the MCU at the time. And, without it, there are several films on the list that wouldn't have been made. BP signaled to Feige that there was a market for MCU films that branched off from what was the hardened formula at the time. That's my hot-take, at least. ymmv
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Thread For all the awful shit of the last few years, it’s really cool and good that remote work suddenly became widely normalized
Oof, you just described the exact type of issue that regularly affects my office. It's always trivial things that pile up. Something that affects me, and that I recently had to put my foot down on, is "Oh, you're going in? Can you do me a favor and..." And I had to find polite ways to say . And before anybody gets too upset, I do want to reiterate the very first sentence of my post in here on that class divide: I think it is understood that WFH has been a boon to people on a variety of fronts. Costs of travel. Costs of childcare. Mental health. But I think more often than not in these threads (and we've had a few of them now) it gets lost that not everyone has access to the benefits of WFH. Nor is WFH without its cost to people. A lot of offices didn't smoothly implement WFH as a response to COVID, and you better believe more often than not, that's burdening . For example, in my office, I'm part of a recently established task force to make sure that the people who HAVE to come into the office aren't taken advantage of. And one of the proposals is a financial incentive to people who work a certain amount of time in the office. But guess who's fighting that.
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Thread For all the awful shit of the last few years, it’s really cool and good that remote work suddenly became widely normalized
Yes, and it's already starting for some industries (not ALL, . I work in an office that implemented WFH sloppily as a result of COVID, and unfortunately there's been a noticeably clear and visible line between who can work from home and who can't. It's a divide that people were always aware of; it's just really stark now. It really affects my office because there's so much sensitive work that be done remotely. So, the people who are stuck coming into the office find themselves leaned on more than ever before. Meanwhile, all the cries of, "I'm just as efficient at home!!!" are starting to fall on deaf ears. As far as my department is concerned, I'm flat out telling people saying this that they're full of shit at this point.
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Thread New York government says screw it, swings for the fences.
NYC really has been on another level lately. Just this week: For anyone who may not realize what a big deal this is: the current Democratic Mayor of NYC has asserted on television, and , that former Mayor Rudy Giuliani should be probed by the NYC DA and prosecuted. Him just going on TV and saying that is a pretty big deal. I don't know much about Eric Adams other than he was extremely unpopular among the left when he was running for Mayor. But y'all, pay attention to this moment, because this is the exact "Do Something!" energy people beg for from Democrats, but when they do deliver it...crickets.
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Thread New York government says screw it, swings for the fences.
...uh, I don't if I'm praising him exactly? Am I? lol I'm woefully behind in NYC politics; I really don't know much about Eric Adams or the job he's doing. I just saw this news story and thought, "Fuck yeah throw Rudy's ass in jail!" But, irrespective of the job he's doing, Adams' posturing here is notable because it's the exact type of thing people claim they want from Democrats, but they're never paying attention to the Democrats who regularly take the fight to Republicans. I've ranted about this before.
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Thread You have to sit and watch one of these in its entirety. Which do you choose?
I voted Star Wars. Mostly because I don't actually remember much about the Indiana Jones movies other than being incredibly bored by them as a kid when I watched them. Not bad movies. Just...meh. But Star Wars...I'm all about the peaks and valleys. A handful of the Star Wars films are truly great films. And then a handful of them are so bad, so tier trash, that I could dissect them for hours. Like Cats. EDIT: And I completely misunderstood Transistor's premise. Oh well, not changing my post.
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Thread Are you going to be doing anything for the 4th of July?
Well, for (I'm going to say ) Black people in the US, the 4th ain't never had shit to do with patriotism, and it damn sure ain't got shit to do with freedom. It's the day we cook outdoors and let off mild explosives. Which is what I'll be doing.
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Thread Christopher Eccleston (Doctor Who): Straight white actors are "new pariahs of the industry", feels his opportunities have shrunk "as they should do"
It's the Weinstein comparison that takes me out.
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Don't take this the wrong way because I also don't like this stank ass shit. Entering into sort of agreement with Mitch. Just smells stank. But, I didn't like it when just a page ago people in this thread were saying that Biden should be doing anything and everything he can, up to and including bribing a Republican. Didn't like that because, well, what form did people think was going to take?
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Thread Clarence Thomas wants SCOTUS to revisit libel laws to make it easier to sue the media
Clarence Ruckus Thomas has always been like this. He's just got his marching orders now. Don't nobody be fooled into thinking that he's just out here saying all this shit for nothing.
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Thread World of Warcraft: Shadowlands |OT| Anima Crossing: New Prison
It's really hard to believe that the next expansion is less than 6 months away and we still know so little about it. I completely get the anxiety over the readiness of the expansion but, still, I find the whole thing kind of thrilling. Imagine the community going into the next expansion largely blind, instead of already knowing for months what the meta is, what the story is, what specs are trash, and what professions are worthwhile. I kind of want them to keep us in the dark as much as possible.
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Look, in the interest of olive branches and whatnot, I understand where you're coming from. I will insist though that I don't follow Twitter really, I don't know what's happening on Twitter or who's tweeting what. And we're not on Twitter right now.
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This is great, really. (So, the following is not aimed at you.) And, for other people who may be following along, another good thing that you can do is, when you do look these words up, don't assume that the group of Black people you're observing don't know what you may have just learned about their fucking language. Even if this group of Black people aren't agreeing among themselves about how it should be used. ...oops, I just realized I used the word "fucking." Apologies for getting aggro.
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Well, the thing is, we're having this conversation via the internet. So, it's quite impossible for you to say that Nep is shouting to begin with. But hey, if we're going to think shouting in "net speak," usually what clues me to that is exclamation marks, Caps Lock, etc. And, looking at Nep's post, I don't see any of that, either. What I do see, though, is someone who's only contribution to this portion of the discussion is to repeatedly insist that a Black mod is being belligerent and "aggro" over the word coon. This jumps out at me, personally, because Black people tend to get this critique a lot whenever we express ourselves in a way that's not in accordance with The Chicago Manual of Style or . Either way, dissecting your interpretation of Nep's "tone" is completely beside the point. But, go off, I guess.
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Thread What do you consider the recommended amount of RAM in 2022 for non-gaming laptops?
I use Lightroom/Photoshop pretty heavily for my photography work, and 16 GB is still enough for me in 2022. Don't feel like my ram is a bottleneck yet. I don't do anything video, though. Might feel differently then.
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It isn't this simple. It's true that "Defund" is more popular with younger Black voters, but not by much. That's not explained by age-gap alone. A more accurate thing to say is that "Defund" was only a among younger Black voters. Among older Black voters, it was ineffective as a slogan from the jump. This shouldn't not be taken as a reflection of my own politics (which tends to happen in these discussions), but assumptions shouldn't be made merely on demographics.
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The funny thing about these threads, every single one of them, is that if you read my posts in them, it's entirely understandable how you'd come away thinking that I don't have any issues with the Democratic Party. And whew chile would you still be so wrong. It's somewhat sad sometimes, how in spaces in my real life it's so easy and available to me, the ability to have substantive conversations where I'm ripping the Democrats a new asshole over their faults. I have organizational issues with this party. But so often, it's so difficult to have those conversations here (and online in general), because so much time is spent combatting the demonstrably false bullshit that just gets regurgitated. I can't talk about the ways I feel their messaging really feels stilted. I can't talk about how their occasional over-reliance on data can really ignore the grassroots, because these threads become so quickly flooded with "Dems had 30-40-50 years and they DID NOTHING!" and having to pull up data showing that, no matter how upset you are, that tweet you keep spamming is just fucking wrong. No amount of anger I ever have with Democrats is going to give me permission to peddle sus shit making the rounds on Twitter. No amount of frustration with the party is ever going to allow me to pretend I don't know how this shit works just because ragging on Dems will make me feel good. Because you know what makes me feel better? Shitting on Republicans and organizing them the fuck out of office.
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Exactly. As somebody who was more invested than I should have been at the time, I too was pissed that so much money was flooding the SC and Kentucky races (as opposed to smaller, urban adjacent races, which is always my bag). But that was the fault of hype, the Democratic Party. People saw an opportunity to take down Lindsey Graham and Mitch (why they saw that??? I don't know...), and got loose with their wallets. If anyone can or should be blamed for shit like that, it's the media who has an outsized influence in taking "dramatic" local races and blowing them up into national stories.
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I personally don't want to address the frustration, because frustration can often lead to poor arguments, of which that is a sterling example (not to mention, again, the historical inaccuracy). There are a lot of people frustrated right now. A lot of people experiencing real fear for both themselves and the ones they love. A lot of people right now facing difficult choices. A lot of those people are choosing to donate. Are they wrong? Are they bad? Are they part of the problem? Should Democrats reach out to those people? If you don't want to donate, then simply fucking don't. Nobody's shaming anyone for not donating. So why do they reverse? Why shame Democrats for doing what they in this capitalistic election system we prop up in this shithole country because, every single time we've had opportunity to gut money in politics, too many on the left sat on their booties looking for other reasons to not vote. Because while there's nothing wrong with holding Dems accountable, people don't check their sources. And now, at a time when the enemy of progress and bodily autonomy couldn't be more clear, we're spending more of our time and energy shitting on Dems . I swear, Republicans love this shit.
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Thread Westworld Season 4 | Official Trailer | HBO
I've been pretty open about the nosedive in quality this show took (I don't think S2 was as bad as it's remembered, but S3 was a hot mess). But still...part of me thinks that the 2 year breaks between seasons does a show like this NO favors. Because even when it was riding off the high of a well-received S1, I still remember there being a lot of "Oh, I almost forgot about that show..." when S2 premiered. Westworld just requires so much of an investment, and there's so many shows competing for our attention already, not to mention the US market isn't really prepped for 2-year breaks in the first place. I think 2 years between seasons really hobbled Westworld's chance to build a big invested audience, and you factor in dip in quality and...yeah. Pretty sad, because I still think Westworld deserves bigger fanfare than it gets, flaws and all. But yeah, I hope HBO ditches the 2 year release cycle after this show.
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Thread I think I just provided a formative sexual experience for someone else - and it was kind of surreal (Warning: descriptions of gay sex stuff)
I'm still reading your post, but just wanna say that I really want to take that "warning" out of your thread title (not going to, just saying). Because anybody who has a problem with a thread about "gay sex stuff" can kiss my ass.
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Thread I think I just provided a formative sexual experience for someone else - and it was kind of surreal (Warning: descriptions of gay sex stuff)
Sniffies? What's Sniffies? ...For the curious? Oooh...Oh my.
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I literally have friends on the road to DC to protest tomorrow as I type this response to you. Seriously. Do I know that the protests will reach the millions? No. But considering that Philly City Hall looked like this not even two hours after the rulling today: tells me that tomorrow may be a big deal. So, what's the point of this post? What are you encouraging or discouraging? Why wax poetic about how Democrats and Americans aren't doing anything before they've had a chance to anything? You're literally talking about how something that hasn't even happened yet wasn't enough. I will say this for a third time in this thread: One breed of post states an unfortunate reality; the other breeds apathy. Interrogate which side you fall on.
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I wasn't talking about you so apologies for that, but I also didn't mean that as a personal attack to anyone. There's a lot of outright ignorance about how the US government works just flying willy-nilly in this thread; and, honestly, I don't know how to sugarcoat that.
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Seriously y'all, about the calls to violence I'm going to say this: There was a point in the day when the tenor of this thread sunk lower than what could be found in the comments section of The Shaderoom. And, seriously, when the quality of discussion has sunk THAT low, you ALL need to take a step back and reevaluate. Stop it with the calls to violence. It's not giving what you think it's giving.
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I don't disagree with you, but now you're arguing about something different. It's one thing to say that Democrats prioritize the wrong candidates and allocate money poorly. It's another thing to say that Democrats aren't asking people to run and are just sitting on their hands. As I have said twice now in this thread: one statement is an unfortunate reality; the other is promoting apathy. Literally one page ago I was agreeing with another poster that if there is one bone I have to pick with national Democrats, it's that they don't listen enough to local parties. So you will find no disagreement with me here
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Do y'all? Again, no shade. Because honestly, outside of Nep the only people I'm responding to are the people who are demonstrating that they don't. I think more attention should be paid to the posts being responded to instead of the intent of the people responding. Because I personally don't like feeling like I'm explaining the government. That's actually not a good feeling, and I'd much rather have deeper, more solution based conversation.
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So here's where we come back to my money-making argument, and it's good that you picked an article from the year 2017, because look at the Democrats' funds compared to Republicans: It takes funds to do a lot of this shit, which is why, again, it never has and never will make sense to me why we shame Democrats for asking for money. Comparatively, Democrats are fucking broke. What's also useful about you choosing an article from 2017 to make your argument, is that I can point out that even now, in 2022, Democrats still face the issue of uncontested seats even after diagnosing the problem themselves. Now, of course, you can counter that you think Democrats are just that noncommittal. The only rebuttal to that I would have is I just am not that cynical. Democrats can until the cows come home. We can ask. We can beg. We still need people to to run. And to that I would ask, if you're a young upstart watching how young Progressives demonize the party, why the fuck would you run?
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What's gagging me right now is that you seem to think that local Democratic parties aren't already doing this! Have you ever volunteered for the Democratic Party? Attended an event? Shit, given up your email or, heaven forbid, your phone number to a canvasser!? If you have, then you would know that most state parties spend a LOT of their time and resources BEGGING and PREPPING people to run. I don't mean to shade you, but it really is that drastic. If you truly don't know how high a priority sourcing potential candidates is for Democrats, then I don't know how to continue this conversation with you.
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Come again? Dinosaurs like Schumer and Pelosi are "Party First" and, look, I DON'T always like that. I especially don't like it from Schumer, because at least Nancy occasionally proves her competence. But it is what it is. If you're not in the party, they won't support you. If you are, they almost always do.
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I feel you, friend. And I have to say, I honestly don't know the answer to this. If I did have a bone to pick with the Democratic Party, it's that the national apparatus really does have a hard time listening to the local grassroots. And I don't just mean progressives here when I say grassroots, even local lifelong Dems have issues communicating with the party at large. I will say, the Democrat who has come closest to answering this question hails from Georgia. And people need to shut the fuck up and let that Black Woman speak; she's saved democracy once already.
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So, is this the fault of the Democratic Party? That is, the establishment? Or do we actually need people to run in these races? Because don't get me wrong, I share your frustration over uncontested seats. . But we can't make people run. We can only encourage people to run and support them (with MONEY , they will need MONEY, hence why it doesn't make a shred OR lick of sense to shame Democrats for asking for MONEY) when they do. Other than that, there's nothing that my ass can do from where I live. All the seats I can have direct influence over are covered. Uncontested is not the same as abandoned. One is an unfortunate reality; the other is you looking to assign blame.
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Why do you all shame the Democrats for asking for money, while also acknowledging that we live in a capitalistic society and that includes our politics and the ability to get anything done? Like, y'all bemoan the Democrats' ability to get anything done, then bemoan their attempts to build the funds...to get shit done. I will never understand this. Decrying money in politics does not require hypocrisy.
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No, if you're going to criticize the actions of the President in a thread where people are discussing actionable steps, you don't get to lean on "I dunno, I'm not the President" when people call out your seemingly directionless apathy. You're either participating in the discussion, or you're not.
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I have yet to see such an astute summary of the Real Shit advice I give my family and friends. Mind who you let whisper in your ear. Mind your sources. Be wary of anyone who only seems to want to keep you in a combined state of angry and inactive.
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I really don't like the keyboard calls to violence when we have tweets in here showing BLACK WOMEN stepping to the front lines to save y'alls asses. Again. Like, some people really don't think about who is being expected to enact this violence, and who won't be protected from this violence.
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The biggest lie some of the left have allowed themselves to be duped into believing is that voting is a power that only have. And that the right only represents stasis. No; Republicans are very much the reversal of progress.
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What it always was. To anyone who has ever lived with the comfort of believing that the United States was was not capable of this? Was better than this? Then truly, I envy you. And that's the thing that always gags me about the "vote!" conversation. Proponents of voting sometimes get treated like we're naive. Like we believe in the "goodness" of this country. And, no. Many of us vote because we know how batshit awful this place is, and how much worse it could be.
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Are you paying attention to the streets out here? You and I might know that Trump has the capacity of a lukewarm pot of spaghetti water, but that's no excuse to play blind to the reality that Trump keeps half this country convinced of his inane bullshit at any given point. Trump had Republicans eating out of his hands his entire damn presidency, and it still amounted to most of his agenda being doa. That we have to go that far back to the concept of the "bully pulpit" being effective is testament to that. That idea should be considered as effective in modern politics as the President winning votes over beers and a gentlemen's game of cards.
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Thread Lil Nas X and NBA Youngboy are dropping a track together on Friday - Late to da party
Random aside, but can someone explain Homophobic Dog to me? I don't know where this meme came from but I swear every time I see it on my timeline I crack the fuck up.
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Thread World of Warcraft: Shadowlands |OT| Anima Crossing: New Prison
Keep in mind that this happened earlier this year: So, I don't think Blizzard needs to rely on an extended beta period this time around. Which, fine be me because hot take: I think WoW's beta periods are way too long and leave the game way too exposed in the first place. Maybe it's because COVID left way too much time on my hands, but I don't think I've ever been so spoiled on a WoW expansion as I was Shadowlands (and to a lesser extent BfA). And not just on the lore. With so much time between patches, it really felt like you knew the lore, knew the meta, and had content creators screaming at you about what choices were trash and which weren't for months before patches would even launch. And this did contribute to my (lack of) initial hype for new content. I think Blizzard should dial back on their players doubling as their QA. I kind of like that Dragonflight is dropping this year and there's still so much we know about it. 'Bout time.
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I think accepting pre-orders adds an extra complication, though. Aren't they legally obligated to release the expansion within the fiscal year once they start accepting pre-orders? If they push it back now they'll have to give refunds. Which...is exactly what happened with Shadowlands, but Shadowlands released peak pandemic, and I doubt that even Blizz would make that same flub two expansions in a row. Anything can happen, sure. But, they must be pretty confident they can get it out. Which, when you think about it, isn't too surprising? They pulled resources off of Shadowlands early...
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Thread Texas GOP officially adopts platform to repeal '65 Voting Rights Act, vote on secession, adult trans ban, declares homosexuality "abnormal"
The irony that this comes out on the weekend of Juneteenth.
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Thread White Parents Rallied to Chase a Black Educator Out of Town. Then, They Followed Her to the Next One.
The thing I always notice immediately in these incidents of white people losing their shit over anything Black is how quickly these crowds turn . This is . Imagine the very real fear Black people faced doing this work of crossing bridges in 1965.
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Thread Belief in God in U.S. dips to 81%, a new low
He did! LOL - again this is not a gotcha. There is literally a passage in the Bible where God the Father has a conversation with God the Son about how he knows everything he's setting in motion is going to require Jesus to go down to earth and sacrifice himself to create a pathway for humans to enter heaven.
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Wow, you've missed the part in the Bible that goes over the conversation that God the Father had with God the Son, where before He even created the universe he knew that ultimately he was going to have to sacrifice God the Son to abstain humans from sin.
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The "how can God be all-loving and allow suffering in the world, even to His believers?" question is one that gets tackled by Christians as children. Like, it's one of the first Bible study lessons you get. Usually, the story of Job is used to illustrate this. I'm not recounting that tale because it's especially depressing, but tl;dr: God works in mysterious ways, and our little mortal human brains cannot possibly begin to comprehend how an all-powerful being who is responsible for the creation of the universe operates, mmk? Another answer to this question is usually the creation myth itself. When God created the Garden of Eden, and within it Adam and Eve, He originally conceived a world that was inherently without evil or suffering. Until one day, when that vile, woman Lilith -- oops, forgot she's not canon anymore -- was conned by Snake!Satan into eating fruit from the Forbidden Tree (now why this tree existed in the Garden in the first place, along with its cousin the Tree of Life, who knows? But they're great plot devices). Eating the forbidden fruit not only gave Adam and Eve awareness of good and evil (and their own nakedness), it introduced sin into the world, and with that suffering and death. This is what is known as the Original Sin, and that shit is genetic. Every human born of Adam and Eve (so, everyone...carries the original sin and is tainted by it. And so it goes that God is all-loving, He loves his children, but He is inherently incompatible with sin. So God allows suffering to both test and cleanse the souls of humans, so that we may be made pure and able to enter the Kingdom of Heaven when we pass on. It is why, to the Christian, suffering is to be rebelled against but it is also . It is the reason why one of the most positive traits a Christian can be associated with is These are fascinating stories that Christians learn as kids; and you don't really have to accept these stories as valid or as answers (I no longer do, outside of their narrative value). But the important thing to keep in mind is that, for a lot of Christians, So, the "how does a benevolent God allow bad things?" question isn't really a gotcha. Devout Christians make their peace with that at a very young age. So, it's funny to me how that question is always posed as some sort of brain breaker, especially in media. These numbers aren't surprising to me, as a former devout Christian. But I will say that I don't think the cause of the demise of Christianity is one that athiests who've circled to gloat will be all that satisfied by. Because at the end of the day, religions don't die when their inherent contradictions are exposed. Religions die when they no longer serve the populace that sustains them.
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Thread What state do you think epitomizes the south the most?
...the really sad thing about this thread is that if you wanted discuss more associations with Southern states, there's so much you could highlight. Like cooking, for example. Not only could I tell if you were Black or not, but I could tell what region of the South you were from with decent accuracy, purely from the plate of food you made me. But I suppose we see the word "South" and immediately think incest and conservatives. EDIT: for my answer to the question...the Southern state that my family hails from isn't even on the dang list (while Texas is?). Louisiana.
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Thread Kim Kardashian permanently damaged Marilyn Monroe's iconic 'Happy Birthday' dress
Literally no. A dress is literally not just a dress, nor has this ever been the case. A huge insight for me, following this thread, is how so many hobbyists and people who respect mediums to the point of valuing their artifacts absolutely, refuse to see fashion as anything other than a completely utilitarian endeavor. As though the only value clothing can possibly have is to prevent you from being naked in public. This thread has more than once made me think of this iconic monologue from The Devil Wears Prada:
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Thread DeSantis on Elon Musk saying he would vote for DeSantis if he ran for president: “I welcome support from African Americans. What can I say?”
And I sure as hell did forget that just as I was typing the post. Still, as a figure... I'd look out for the American version of a Musk.
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Thread DeSantis on Elon Musk saying he would vote for DeSantis if he ran for president: “I welcome support from African Americans. What can I say?”
I mean, we'll see. But I'm not seeing the ability of DeSantis appeal to move beyond the hard right, and that's what got Trump elected.
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Thread DeSantis on Elon Musk saying he would vote for DeSantis if he ran for president: “I welcome support from African Americans. What can I say?”
He's not another Trump at all. These "Who's the next Trump?" threads always downplay what was Trump's greatest asset: he was a household name. Decades of being a New York "mogul" name dropped in movies and years more of The Apprentice gave Trump a mythos that the right gravitated to and that prevented the left from taking him seriously until it was too latr. Desantis has none of this, and he has the charisma of a soggy roll of toilet paper to boot. Unless you follow politics (which the average person does not) or live in Florida, you likely don't give a shit who Florida's governor is. If y'all want to know who the next Trump is, he's staring y'all dead in the face:
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Yep. And that's why the B is capitalized.
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Thread Why was Disco so hated in the 80s through to the 00s in the US?
Exactly. Disco came to symbolize what was, at the time, the frontlines of the Queer/Sexual revolution. Once that happened, the religious right targeted it, and those sentiments just kind of bled into the general perception of Disco over time. I mean, Disco gifted us Sylvester, Disco/Queer icon and singer of the Bop "You Make Me Feel (Mighty Real)"
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Thread Kim Kardashian permanently damaged Marilyn Monroe's iconic 'Happy Birthday' dress
I hate takes like this. Oh, you can't afford a home? Boo fucking hoo, neither can we! You clearly care enough to comment. Can't stand when people use following pop culture as a means to shame people for not having their priorities straight. Guess what, I can care about Kim K damaging Marilyn Monroe's dress and still find time to be poor just like you. It's actually not hard at all.
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Thread Lana Del Rey's discography is impressive, what's your favourite song of hers?
Whew, hard to pin any one song down. My favorite Lana song changes with my mood. Right now I'm feeling Gods and Monsters and Groupie Love. West Coast is top tier for sure. I also love Shades of Cool and Brooklyn Baby from that album. Also... Lana doesn't get enough credit for her ballads. Ride is such an epic song that really shouldn't have worked with her voice, but she pulls it off.
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Thread Kim Kardashian permanently damaged Marilyn Monroe's iconic 'Happy Birthday' dress
Wow, I just looked up more info on this dress, and the original sketch of it was produced by Bob freaking Mackie, his first gig out of college too! There's so much fashion history in this dress.
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Thread Kim Kardashian permanently damaged Marilyn Monroe's iconic 'Happy Birthday' dress
Notoriety isn't a statement on JFK's "goodness" as a person. He was POTUS. She was one of the biggest celebrities in the world. Their affair was the scandal of that decade. The dress itself is one-of-a-kind and impressively constructed.
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Thread Kim Kardashian permanently damaged Marilyn Monroe's iconic 'Happy Birthday' dress
A one-of-a-kind dress, crafted by hand using techniques passed down literal generations, for arguably one of the most famous people of all time. Nope, not a cultural artifact at all.
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Thread Kim Kardashian permanently damaged Marilyn Monroe's iconic 'Happy Birthday' dress
She wore the actual dress to walk the Met red carpet. She changed into a replica for the rest of the event. So all of this and she only actually wore the dress for an hour at most.
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Thread Has Instagram gotten worse?
That's a shame. I recently redownloaded the app after being away from Flickr for a few years and, after I was assaulted by my old photography work (which...talk about ), I actually came to really appreciate what the app has turned into. It's pure photography. They don't seem to share posting photo groups in a single post, but that's it. I wouldn't mind bringing my photography work back to Flickr; the 1000 photo limit is kind of a bummer, but the amount of pruning I do of my photos on Instagram means I'm never above 500 photos at one time anyway. Sad thing most photographers I know who are calling it quits on Insta aren't going back to Flickr. They're going to Twitter.
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Thread Has Instagram gotten worse?
For photographers, Instagram has gotten a lot worse. Pure photo content is just not prioritized at all anymore. A total mistake in my book: they're clearly trying to position themselves against TikTok, but they're not going to be able to eat TikTok's lunch on video content like they did Snapchat. TikTok reigns and, ironically, the thing Instagram had against TikTok was being the premiere place to share photos, and video will never complete supplant photos. My Instagram feed over the last year has just become a steady stream of videos, recommendations and ads that I didn't ask for. It's starting to feel like Facebook which... Oof. Speaking of Photography platforms... What happened to Flickr? Why did we let that platform wither?
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Thread I just got insulted by a college student for liking Ghibli/Miyazaki movies…
Well... 1) Lets watch our language here. There is no "the adult" in this situation. They're both adults. Period. I'm in my 30s and I wouldn't even in the direction of a 20s something at this point, but there's an implication being pushed by some posts in here that's making me more uncomfortable than anything in the OP. 2) I was going to say this earlier, but it's strange to me that people aren't seeing how "But, OP, he's from is kind of patronizing? Truth is we don't know this person, or what his cultural knowledge is. That didn't stop him from insulting OP instead of just saying they don't watch anime.
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Thread I just got insulted by a college student for liking Ghibli/Miyazaki movies…
It would be one thing if the 21-year-old expressed a dislike of anime and OP reacted this way. But 21-year-old didn't just do that. He expressed a dislike of anime while implying the OP (and those who do like anime) isn't an adult or is immature. I feel like a lot of people in here are missing that part. I get why OP was taken aback. I'd have just blocked them though.
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Thread I just got insulted by a college student for liking Ghibli/Miyazaki movies…
I mean, there's something to be said about dating people who have similar interests as you (or, at the very least, aren't actively repulsed by the things you're into). It's strange to me how so many couples I know who break up don't have this one core bit of foundation. In that sense, it's not so much about anime in itself. OP, maybe I wouldn't have taken it as personally (at my current age, 20-something Roy definitely would have), but your feelings are valid. And they're not strange. Remove "anime," you expressed a "like" for something, and this potential romantic(?) person expressed a revulsion for it, and in a way that was ironically quite childish. And besides, this was the initial stages of a meeting. This is the. time. to weed these things out. To answer your question, I don't get picked on for my likes very much; but that might be because my online profiles are pretty detailed, so if it gets to the point where we're talking, you generally have a sense of what I'm about. The few times it has happened though, especially in the last few years, these people are usually met with a block and not a second more of my mental energy.
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Thread NYT: Should Biden Run in 2024? Democratic Whispers of ‘No’ Start to Rise.
"Start" to rise? If by start they're referring to the line the media's been pushing about Biden not running for a second term since before he was elected. This article is a joke.
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Thread 85% of New Yorkers (91% of black voters) favor more police in the subway and 60% support homeless encampment sweeps
Didn't you know? It's because we're the nation's mammies. The foot soldiers. We're expected to be down for, and ride out every progressive movement, every person, everywhere, everytime. It's just assumed. Expected. And so when something breaks this illusion--that Black people, despite being the most consistent Leftist voting block in the country, aren't necessarily monolithic and need to be it really throws people.
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Thread In Celebration of Pride, Postmates Releases an Ad for a "Bottoms friendly menu"
I mean, we're kidding ourselves if we don't believe a lot of bottoms (and people who engage in anal sex/play as the receptive partner) talk about and have questions about this sort of thing. I certainly did when I first became sexually active. That said, did we need this from Postmates? lol The times, they really are a-changin I guess.
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Thread In Celebration of Pride, Postmates Releases an Ad for a "Bottoms friendly menu"
Honestly, is the starving yourself for sex thing new? Because I swear when I was coming up I don't think I ever heard of anyone going to that extreme. Incorporating more fiber into your diet? Yeah. Being aware of your digestive schedule and planning around it? Ain't failed me yet. Having the discipline to not hook up because you know your stomach is feeling a little irritated but you're that damn dickmatized? Friend, I know the temptation is strong, but DON'T. But starving yourself? I don't know anyone who did this, and these days whenever I hear someone talking about it it's always someone really young.
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Thread 85% of New Yorkers (91% of black voters) favor more police in the subway and 60% support homeless encampment sweeps
These numbers shouldn't be shocking and the issue is a lot more complicated than "Black Americans are a lot more conservative than you'd expect." I've said this before and I'll keep saying it: Black people have been the driving force behind the largest successful Progressive movements in this country's history. Like, this circle ain't squarin. Then again, I've also been ringing the "Progressoves, actually TALK to Black voters instead of expecting shit," for years now.
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Thread The COVID death rate for white Americans has recently exceeded the rates for Black, Latino and Asian Americans.
I will never forget the Summer of 2020, when after the news broke that Black people were disproportionately contracting and getting sick from COVID 19, within weeks you started seeing white folks flooding parks in NYC, violating social distancing rules, with cops graciously handing out masks and not citations. This virus has never racially discriminated.
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Thread [ F.D Signifier ] - Dissecting the Manosphere
Watched this last week. Great video. I think conversations like this are important. It's clear that much of space available for men to talk about social issues as they pertain to men and boys have been hijacked by toxic MRA types, misogynists and the "manosphere." But sometimes it can get lost that men and boys do need a safe space to have these conversations, in good faith, among each other and devoid of that toxicity. I appreciate F. D. Signifier's channel for this reason, and I especially enjoyed the "group conversation" nature of this video. Some surprising faces, too.
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Thread Arizona GOP Senate candidate Blake Masters blames America’s gun problem on “Black people, frankly”
Slavery. The GOP is obsessed with the idea of rewinding this country back to the past "glory days", and indoctrination of their base into wanting the same. You bet your ass going back to a time when this country was able to aggressively expand and build massive wealth thanks to slave labor is on the docket.
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Thread Diablo Immortal |OT| Phone of Jordan
But...Diablo 4, the true successor of the series, is still coming out, right? Diablo Immortal, a prequel F2P mobile game developed by an independent developer that specializes in mobile games, does not have to represent the direction of Diablo as a series. In fact, all signs point to it not.
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Thread Diablo Immortal |OT| Phone of Jordan
Same! This is my first Diablo game, and I'm actually having a great time with it so far. Makes me want to give Diablo 3 a try (which seems to be the game most people are comparing the combat to). I'm just not understanding the outrage...or, why the outrage surrounding this game seems to be different from the general debate over monetization in mobile games in general. Immortal doesn't seem to be doing anything different from most other mobile games; hell, it's not doing anything different from other (y'all wanna talk about monetization schemes? Try playing Hearthstone competitively). So far, for me personally, I see Blizzard's attempts to get me to pull out my wallet, but I just breeze right past them, because I still feel like I'm getting a full gaming experience without paying money. Which, again for me, is a steal. Honestly, while not trying to paint with too broad a brush, a lot of this feels like residual bad blood that's been swirling around this game pretty much since it was announced.
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Thread Diablo Immortal |OT| Phone of Jordan
Can someone explain to me why the controversy around microtransactions in this game is particularly pointed? Because Bellular is going on a tirade and...I don't get it? One, the second this game was announced as a mobile title (made by a developer who specializes in mobile titles), I expected this. But two, so far this game seems to be very feature-full without making me feel pressured to buy anything. So, I'm not going to.
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Thread Woman interrupts Roland-Garros tennis match, ties herself to the net with a string around her neck, to protest climate change
I actually don't have much issue with this, at least in comparison to the other recent protests I only remember because they got threads. But I also hope these people are getting involved, especially after having just worked a very big deal primary that was woefully short on volunteers.
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Thread Deadline: Mariah Carey Sued For “All I Want For Christmas Is You” By Louisiana Country Songwriter
Not only is he not going to win this... Mariah just might turn around and counter sue as an "inconvenience fee." She's done it before (look out up).
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Thread Johnny Depp Jury Finds That Amber Heard Defamed Him in Op-Ed
The staff message is encouraging everyone to be sensitive of each other. We should be able to do that, regardless of our stance. I followed the trial in full. I sympathized with Depp, and expressed that repeatedly in the previous thread. I'm not the only mod to do so. You really don't need to dig for underlying meanings in the staff post.
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Thread Kate Bush reaches #1 on the iTunes charts after song appearance in Stranger Things
Yes, everything about this correct. And when you're all done listening to "Running Up That Hill", hop on over to her 1989 classic EP, "The Sensual World". "The Fog" from that album is probably top 5 for me. Some of her simpler lyrics, but an absolute melding of lyrics, vocals and sweeping production.
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Thread A Man Tries to Crack the Mona Lisa, Settles for Smearing Cake instead... seemingly in the name of protesting Climate Change.
Setting aside that "this person is afraid" is oftentimes not a good justification for a person's actions (especially if they directly impact and cost people), I do think there's an issue here that's worth talking about. Because while my position on this particular stunt is pretty resolute (I think it's a waste of time), I tend to not wade wantonly into the discussion of "what is valid protest?" because while I think there's an answer to that question, that answer can be pretty personal and murky. It's not clear at all. For me when I think about that question, I think about most of the impactful and resonant protests in human history (particularly US history), and how you didn't really have to ask what they were protesting. And this is not to be confused with stirring interest in what you're protesting, because what I've found over time is that if people have to ask what you're protesting they tend to just not. So, if I have to ask, if your goals aren't clear to me, then a natural follow-up question for me is And depending on how those questions shake out, we might edge closer to my personal threshold for thinking your efforts are pretty flaccid. And what can be particularly frustrating for me, as someone who does do a lot of activist and pro-Democracy work (to the point that I now do it in an official capacity and sustain a living off of it), is that I don't understand why we use these moments to set up a false choice. That if you're a Real Progressive who's afraid for our Democracy and the state of the world, then these are the things you do or are in support of. And if you it's because you're as progressive as you you are. You're actually a road block to change! You're a centrist fraud who doesn't actually care, a Yadda yadda, the greatest hits. And what's frustrating about that false choice is that, and I'm pretty sure I've said this before, there are people already doing this work, and would love to see you there! I guarantee you if you live anywhere near a city, there are organizations near you, having meetings right now, championing these causes and hoping that the 25 people who clicked "interested" on the Facebook invite show up but being grateful when 6 actually do. There are organizations right now that need help stuffing envelopes, making phone calls, making big obnoxious signs for their visible demonstrations where you can show up and be . Real changethis is often what it looks like. But too often it is so hard to get people who claim to want to do something...to do something. And why? Because oftentimes the work for real change is boring as all fuck, that's why. Chances are you're not going to end up on TV. You're not going to go viral. You're not going to make any money. You're not going to inspire a bunch of copycats and unfortunately you won't even get discussed on Era. It doesn't look a damn thing like V for Vendetta. There's no glamour to it at all. It's thankless, and invisible, and oftentimes dispiriting. And hardly anybody wants to do it. But this guy. He's fighting for his life! So, you're angry! You're frustrated and afraid! Yes! YES! So are we! Here are some things you can do to channel those feelings of helplessness into the push for real, substantive change and progress!
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Thread A Man Tries to Crack the Mona Lisa, Settles for Smearing Cake instead... seemingly in the name of protesting Climate Change.
I mean, sure. Yeah. In much the same way that when the class clown of my senior year got up in the middle of a pep rally and mooned the principal, and then ran around the gym with his pants at his ankles until he was caught, yeah we were all talking about that for a while, too. And sure, when he was threatened with not being able to walk the stage at graduation, if not outright expulsion, I heard he came up with some excuse about protesting the price of school lunches or some shit. Even though I don't think anybody ever heard him talk about that before, or could make the connection at the time to him running around the gym, pants at his knees, big ol' kool-aid smile on his face and cheeks just a'clappin. I mean, And it was a valid topic; those school lunches pricey. This could have been the plan all along! Or, he could have just wanted to show his ass.
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Thread I went to In and Out for the first time.
Same. It was strange to me when I moved to PA and was exposed to how deified In-n-Out is elsewhere. They're not bad burgers by any means. But they're nothing special either. The impression I got from them when one opened up near my high school was that it was a fast food burger for people who didn't want to feel like they were eating a "fast food burger." I saw it as very "aesthetic" at the time. Especially because, and apparently this is still a secret, but Southern California has a shit ton of local (and very fucking good) hamburger stands. Especially in the hood. These places are basically in shacks, half the lights in their sign don't work, and you have to pass the money through bullet proof glass...but this only speaks to the of the burger. So back when I lived in Cali, the idea that I would go out of my way for In-n-Out when I could go to the spot a few blocks down and get a burger with grilled onions and a fried egg was crazy to me. AND chili cheese fries.
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Thread How did you cope with your first breakup? Have you ever reconnected with that person?
My first romantic break-up was easy (high school sweetheart). It was the second break-up that was painful. The guy I dated mostly all of college. We broke up right when I was leaving the city to move to Philly. The break-up itself was kind of messy, we'd been arguing nonstop for months before we called it quits, but god did it hurt like hell when I moved away and he was just no longer For the first few months I called him all the time just to fight with him. He did the same. Must have blocked him and unblocked him a dozen times. Had a good friend finally convince me that the shit just wasn't healthy. One night when we were out I let her take my phone and completely wipe it of him. Erased his number. Texts, pictures, "his" friends...all gone. And I hate to say it but it really helped. Oh it hurt like shit, and it was honestly years before I stopped comparing every new guy I went out with to him, but it eventually it happened. Years later I was hanging out with friends, and one cracked a joke about "that goofy dude you dated in college," and I looked up and realized I couldn't remember the last time I thought about him, and that I had long since stopped comparing guys to him. I was over him. I'd moved on and didn't even realize it. Honestly, OP, the best thing I can tell you is honestly the hardest. Time and distance. It's going to hurt. Like any sort of withdrawal your brain is going to try to rationalize why a little bit of reconnection won't hurt. Just one phone call. Ok, she's going through something with her family right now, just one day date won't hurt. Liking her pictures isn't really a big deal. But, in most cases you're only delaying the inevitable. Cut it off, and allow yourself to feel it. Allow yourself to mourn the loss of a relationship, no matter how it ended, because at one point it was important to you. And one day you'll look up and realize it happened, you moved on. Moved on and didn't even realize it.
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Thread Do you like when the cashier makes small talk about your purchases?
The only time it bothers me is if I'm actively being held up for prolonged conversation, which has happened, but is rare. But small talk while we're going through the motions? Doesn't bother me at all.
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Thread Tyre Extinguisher’ climate activists ‘disarm’ 100 SUVs in one night across Edinburgh
Wait. So, somebody lets the air out of my tires overnight and I'm supposed to go to www . youtube . com to find out why they did it?
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Thread Johnny Depp v Amber Heard's defamation trial is underway
MeToo shouldn't end. But the concept of believing anyone uncritically and shaming the idea of male victims should absolutely end. The most horrifying thing to come out of this trial for me, by far, is this heinous idea that men can't be the victims of DV at the hands of women because of patriarchy. THIS is a misuse of the movement, imo.
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Thread Culture shock: How you're going to eat without inviting your friend?
Ooph! LOL Where I come from the only thing just as bad as not offering hospitality is refusing it. I've been the kid multiple times over at a friends place for dinner thinking, Yes ma'am! This all looks so wonderful, thank you so much!
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Thread Latest White House plan would forgive $10,000 in student debt per borrower
The "minimum" as determined by what and/or who, exactly? Polling? Precedent? Ability? I hate to give the impression that I'm trivializing the conversation by drilling down so much, but so often these conversations require a drilling down. Because people just love to toss out words and unsubstantiated conditions. Which then leads to my next question: what is the motive for constantly portraying "cheering this on" and "wanting more" as fundamentally incompatible?
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Thread Latest White House plan would forgive $10,000 in student debt per borrower
I think it's important to keep in mind that the "average person" is not thinking about political gamesmanship and "how things look" going into the midterms. This will all boil down to how Biden, Democrats, and further down the line, the politically engaged left choose to champion this. Because what the average person cares about is being convinced of one thing: "are you giving/saving me money?"
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Thread Latest White House plan would forgive $10,000 in student debt per borrower
I mean, these are all wonderful ideas, particularly what I put in bold which is, imo, one of THE largest problems facing the US job market (along with the fact that , but that's for another thread). Thing is, these are a bunch of separate ideas, which is how these conversations tend to go to shit. Because we're watching the conversation shift in real time now. It went from forgive student loans, to partially forgive student loans, to cut interest rates...to implement this comprehensive package directly targeting the cost-of-education vs. job market disparity. With the only connective thread being, seemingly, 'pivot to the thing that makes Biden and Dems seem the most flacid, corrupt, and ineffective.'
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Thread Latest White House plan would forgive $10,000 in student debt per borrower
Who is stopping the push? Who is defeated? who you're talking about. Because we're not wallowing in despair? Because we dare to progress we are a defeated population? I reject this outright and completely. The left (I'm including liberals AND progressives here) have a celebrating or at the very least positively uplifting any victory we achieve if it's not the exact victory we wanted. If the problem isn't solved in one fell swoop. Meanwhile, back at the alt-right ranch, they bring out the BBQ grills and celebrate any opportunity they get to hurt us . And then, gee, we wonder why they stay more engaged.
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Thread Latest White House plan would forgive $10,000 in student debt per borrower
I gotta get something off my chest. Is this GREAT? No. Should it be more? Absolutely. Is anybody expecting anyone to worship at the Temple of Biden over this? Not that I've seen, and certainly not my ass. But the people genuinely arguing that "nobody's going to feel this," "this is worthless," etc? I'm thrown. Honestly. Because I don't have to look very far at all, at to see people who are going to be helped by this.
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Thread World of Warcraft: Shadowlands |OT| Anima Crossing: New Prison
Ooh, lore talk! My favorite talk. You know, controversial opinion but...I actually don't mind the the faction conflict. I understand what the narrative team means when they say they feel that the heart of WoW is the faction conflict, and I even somewhat agree. My with the faction conflict is that instead of really exploring the wealth of stories they could be telling with that framework, they keep pulling from the same well over and over again. Every conflict goes something like this: --Horde has crises of conscience/identity --Horde lashes out at the Alliance --Alliance is caught flat footed and left scrambling while Horde leaders get several expansions of in-depth and character development justifying/explaining their actions. --Alliance responds, but before they can deal a truly retaliatory blow, whichever character is functioning as the narrator for that expansion jumps in and preaches the importance of forgiveness, the of revenge, bla bla bla and the Alliance turns the other cheek. --Rinse and repeat There are so many compelling stories Blizzard could be telling with the faction conflict (the "uneasy truce" and "alliance of convenience" that could easily facilitate cross-faction play in a way that fits the story), so I don't think that's the issue. The issue is the story just feels uneven. As an Alliance player who actually pays attention to the story, you just constantly feel like you're at the whim of whatever the Horde wants to do. And I'm pretty sure there are a lot of Horde players who are tired of feeling like the bad guys all the time (...because you are the bad guys all the time). Like, I know a lot of Horde players, and around the time of the BfA pre-patch event, the feeling was surprisingly mutual: it just didn't feel good to play through the burning of Teldrassil on either side.
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Thread Kathleen Kennedy: We are focusing on setting future SW movies in the sequel era and beyond
I don't think he'd do it even then. I haven't followed interview Boyega has given on the movie since the trilogy ended. But if his social media at the time was any indication, Boyega didn't just have some for the directors; he was over the fanbase. And I don't blame him.
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Thread Kathleen Kennedy: We are focusing on setting future SW movies in the sequel era and beyond
After the last trilogy of films I need, at the bare minimum, the next Star Films flagship film to be completely divorced from Skywalker before I even begin to believe this. Because Star Wars' main problem for me right now as a narrative universe is how small it feels, especially considering...you know, it's an actual universe of stories allegedly.
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Thread Sky Ferreira releases new single "Don't Forget"
That was really good. Sky Ferreira is such a strange act to me. Because everything about her screams "I'm bored and white and don't give a shit so I guess I'll make some pop songs or whatever." but what little body of work she's put out has been remarkably consistent, and speaks of an artist who really has a specific vision for their music. Like, this is a Sky Ferreira song if you've ever heard one; I'm actually surprised Blood Orange didn't produce this.
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Thread Hey Boomers. Don't y'all miss 90s R&B ballads?
Speaking OF...what happened to the R&B boy group!? We just like...DON'T HAVE ANY anymore. (And this is not to be confused with Pop boy bands; those are more or less still around). I'm talking the group of 4 guys (sometimes 5...sometimes 3) crooning about love with church vocals. ALL the boys could sing, ALL the boys knew their vocal parts! The sexuality was more lyrical, not just blatant:
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Thread News: White supremacy exists, Buffalo shooter is racist. Conservatives: LIES or You have insulted my honor!
Racist white people with a desire to propagate white supremacy continue to act like their racist desires for a white fascist state aren't real. Uh...news at 11? This isn't shocking. And I've entered the stage of my life where I'm more annoyed by the white people who continue to be shocked by . Y'ALL annoy the shit out of me.
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Thread People just looked a lot older than they were back in the day
There is some truth to this, of course. But we're forgetting the advancement of one particular bit of technology in the years between these photos: Retouching. And that's no shade! I'm a portrait photography as a side gig. Retouching is not some outrageous thing. That said, I see a fair bit of retouching in a lot of the more recent photos.
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Thread People just looked a lot older than they were back in the day
I'm sure somebody has pointed it out already, but this has less to do with them looking "older" and more with style, and these older actors being associated with very specific styles of their time that younger generations will naturally associate with "old." For example, its been commented before that the Golden Girls, for how old they look to us, were actually styled to be very contemporary for women their age at the time (especially Blanche). This is how the cast of And Just Like That are being styled today -- but they look more contemporary to us because the styles are of our tastes. It's the story behind how high-waist jeans became known as "mom jeans." What was considered a very trendy and figure exploiting style for girls growing up in the 80s became known as "mom jeans" to the children those trendy girls would eventually grow up and have. (Funny how "mom jeans" are in the middle of a renaissance with Gen Z...only they're not being called that.)
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Thread Plot to Blow Up Democratic Headquarters Exposed California Extremists Hiding in Plain Sight
Californian born and raised here: this did not start with Trump. Trump amplified them, gave them visibility. Provided an air of ridiculous so that they could fly their flags proudly and people wouldn't take them too seriously. To think this started with Trump is to really underestimate the threat. I mean, to date, every single state in the US has at least one active white supremacist militia operating in it. That didn't begin in 2015.
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Thread Black guy "proves" racism isn't that bad in infamous white American town
Well, that's the age old question, isn't it? Why would Black people, with the lived experience of anti-Blackness, go on to parrot or amplify attitudes antithetical to what they know is true? It's a multifaceted conversation, that has its very roots in the Black identity. But, quick, let's find out what thinks. I'm reminded of what F.D. Signifier said in his video on the Will Smith slap: "if I had to choose between talking to Candace Owens or a white leftist about Blackness, I'd chose Candace Owens."
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Thread Black guy "proves" racism isn't that bad in infamous white American town
I dunno... I also didn't watch the full video, but I did just watch a snippet of it, and it's not so much that Jideon is saying his identity gives him more knowledge of racism than Hasan than it is him being peeved that Hasan, a non-Black person, is trying to tell him how to feel and/or how to respond to racism. Things get a little murkier there, when one tries to substitute acquired knowledge for another's lived experience. I think Jideon is...ummm, well, he has a lot of growing to do. But he is Black, and he has a right to respond to and perceive anti-Black racism how he wants. Also, in the bit I watched he went into a mini rant about how conservative racism don't look much different from liberal racism in the day-to-day and...I mean...
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Thread Johnny Depp v Amber Heard's defamation trial is underway
Ummm, yeah... As someone with experience with make-up, I'm glad someone else caught this. No commercial makeup brand I know of sells a "bruise kit" as Heard describes... Because how macabre would that be? If you're using make-up to cover a bruise, you use your normal make up, and go heavy on the foundation/concealer. Maybe some color correcting, but you'd still get that out of a normal palette.
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Thread Had to leave early because his boyfriend was calling…..
My only issue with this is that, unless you have a personal or professional (in matters of health) relationship with someone, Because it still comes down to a base assumption: "You're having what I deem to be a lot or too much sex, so I'm going to assume you are unconcerned with your sexual health and inquire accordingly." But hey, a question is a question, so go ahead and ask. But some questions are rude. If I'm having sex with you, or if it's even a possibility, oh I definitely am going to ask about your sexual history. If we're having a general conversation about sexual health and all that entails, then yeah absolutely an environment should be fostered where people feel encouraged to share . But in this context, when what's stirred the discussion is the call being made that someone's having a lot of sex, then it's iffy for me. Because the judgement is being implied. Because, frankly, most people who are sexually active should be getting this question then. But pay attention to who tends to get asked "...do you get tested?"
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Thread Had to leave early because his boyfriend was calling…..
I don't think the number of threads MIMIC creates has much to do with my point. This is an issue bigger than MIMIC. There are just so many ways all of us, in any number of situations, can project sex negative and/or invasive attitudes without realizing it.
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Thread Had to leave early because his boyfriend was calling…..
The problem is in where are you getting the idea that because MIMIC (or anyone, really) has a lot of sex, that they must not know about STDs/STIs, getting tested, and overall guarding their sexual health. When you're not the person they're having sex with, or their healthcare provider, this can be a more invasive and condescending question than it appears when reading it online, and is one of the ways that people who genuinely mean to be sex-positive can sometimes reveal sex negative attitudes through the veil of For example, if you were at a bar and somebody was telling a story about a recent sexcapade, most people likely wouldn't cut in to say "sounds like you have a lot of sex...do you get tested?" Because you'd likely get cussed out. Obviously MIMIC answered so they don't care. But, it is something to think about.
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Thread I’m going to an Orgy party tonight.
I've never been to an orgy before. But I'm fascinated by them. Specifically, the planning of one. Like, what about the food? Is there food? Who brings the food? Are there little finger foods? Or are we talking entres? What about parking? Dress code? Theme? I feel like Hollywood defaults to red lights and leather; but I would want to shake the table with a Gilligan's Island theme. *Opens OneNote and Pinterest*
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Thread Mr. Morale & The Big Steppers | Kendrick Lamar
Alright..."Rich Spirit" done zoomed to the top for me. Listen, y'all love you some "Real Deep Shit Kendrick" and I RESPECT IT. But all I asked is for Kendrick to give me at least one track that make me wanna pop it a little bit. And "Rich Spirit" did that.
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Thread Mr. Morale & The Big Steppers | Kendrick Lamar
One thing I've always loved about Kendrick is the way he experiments with his delivery in a lot of his music. He has that neutral voice he uses in most of his delivery. Then he has that "reading a textbook outloud in class" voice that he's giving now in track 3. But then he ALSO does that high-pitch whiny voice (track 2)??? I fucking love that shit.
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Thread "Succession" actor James Cromwell super-glued himself to a Starbucks counter as part of PETA's vegan milk protest
I mean, that may be true in the UK. But here on the East Coast of the US, I use to manage one of those shops. The numbers were part of my job. There's just no other way to slice it: non-dairy is more expensive, and not just by a few cents. And that in itself isn't really a -- most cafes have items that they're willing to "take a hit" on for the sake of quality. But, it is something that you have to calculate. You have to know the price of the goods you're sourcing, versus what you're selling them for. Most businesses have to make the choice where they're willing to take a hit, and where they're not. Who knows, obviously I'm speaking anecdotally and from my limited experience.
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Thread "Succession" actor James Cromwell super-glued himself to a Starbucks counter as part of PETA's vegan milk protest
Funny enough, a good friend of mine owns a coffee shop that I worked at for years, and this came up. The fact is, non-dairy milk options, especially oatmilk (since it's so trendy right now), are significantly more expensive to carry than regular dairy milk. That may be a cost that Starbucks can stomach, but smaller/local coffee shops (where you're also likely to get a better cup of coffee)? Not so much. So it ultimately came down to do we add a surcharge for non-dairy milk options, or do we raise the cost for milk-based drinks? We eventually went with the surcharge and, outside of 1 or 2 people, nobody really cared.
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Thread Young Thug and Gunna, as well as 26 others, arrested and charged with RICO
Yoooo... I don't know if y'all have read this indictment, but I'm skimming it right now out of boredom. It is SHOCKING how much of this is lifted right off of Instagram. Damn...some fuckin' dummies.
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Thread Talk shit, get hit...by Mike Tyson
Well, I think there's a lesson to be found in all of this. Somewhere. If you get on a plane and see a former heavyweight boxing champion sitting in a seat, minding his own Black ass business...maybe don't invade his personal space and be a belligerent asshole. I dunno, just seems like pretty good life advice.
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Thread What's up with all the conspiracy people? How do you deal with people like that?
Dealing with conspiracy folk... The most effective tactic that has worked for me can also be the most difficult: Don't engage, but at the same time be unwavering in your belief that their conspiracies are fucking dumb. In my experience, folks who fall for conspiracies aren't just falling for the communal aspect of conspiracy theories and confirmation bias; they're also drawn to being the special snowflake in the room. They want to believe that they're surrounded by sheep while know . And they want people to fawn over them, to dissect them, to try to understand them, to try to reason with them, to focus on them, to "Debate me bro!" them. Trying to reason with them, 9 times out of 10, is futile, because that's want they want you to do. Speaking anecdotally, the most explosive reaction I've gotten from conspiracy folk came from me ignoring them.
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Thread Y'all remember season 1 of Jerry Springer?
Don't forget Ricki Lake. She was good for a skinhead episode every now and then. 90s daytime talk shows in GENERAL were a trip. Believe it or not, the early seasons of Jerry Springer were TAME compared to what that show would turn into by the late 90s. Early Jerry was still pretending at being legitimate.
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Thread Westworld Season 4 - Teaser Trailer (HBO, June 26th)
Season 1 remains one of the strongest single seasons of television for me. And a masterclass in being confident in your storytelling, and not caring if some of the audience figure out the plot twist. If you construct a competent and compelling mystery, then it won't matter if some people figure it out. Stop trying to fool Twitter/Reddit. Season 2 largely forgot this lesson, but still had some great standalone moments. "Kiksuya" was fantastic and, fuck it, I LIKED Shogun World. Season 3...outside of showing us the human world I honestly don't know what story they were trying to tell. But still...I'm in.
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Thread Avatar: The Way of Water - Official Teaser Trailer
I think a lot of it is a holdover from when the first movie came out, and a lot of the convenient criticisms that existed at the time but, imo, were pretty surface level. But as I said in the other thread, it's really hard for me to hold on to some of those criticisms in a world where the MCU (and the DCU to a lesser extent) exists. And then you realize, , when the first Avatar came out the MCU as we know it wasn't really a thing yet, as the first Iron Man film had only come out the year before. We're really getting the sequel to one of the biggest Blockbuster films of all time over a decade later and in a much different cinematic landscape. That alone is crazy to me. The standard for a big blockbuster action film is so different now (I'd argue in some ways the standard was higher circa 2009). It kind of reminds me of all the crap Watchmen got, but I'm not opening can of worms...
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Thread Avatar: The Way of Water - Official Teaser Trailer
But it can't be an adopted kid, right? Humans can't naturally breathe Pandora's air. If I remember correctly, Jake's DNA was used to grow his Na'vi host body. If that's the case, it's likely that some traits of his human phenotype exist in his sperm (?) and can be passed on. Which means some of his offspring can be born looking pretty close to human (especially because in one shot it looks like Jake has two kids, the other looking more Na'vi). EDIT: Oh wait, I just looked again. He's wearing one of those oxygen things.
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Thread (NSFW) Loving relationship, some sex issues. Any advice?
I tend to think that therapy, and couples therapy, is a net good. But, not really in the way that's being suggested here? The tone of the suggestion in a lot of posts sounds something like, "Partner doesn't want to do thing I want to do. Therapy will make them want to do thing I want to do." And that's not really how therapy works. Some people just don't like giving head. Can you connect it to a larger problem in the relationship? Did she used to give head, and now she doesn't? Does she express a desire to give head, but then backs out when it's time to commit to the act? Does she express disconcerting views about oral sex that you're afraid may inform other aspects of how she treats the relationship? These, I imagine, are ways that the lack of head might inform larger issues in your relationship that are worth talking through with the guidance of a professional. But, absent that, she just might not like giving oral sex. Especially, if she's being resolute with you even after you've communicated with her how it makes you feel. And then the onus is on you to respond accordingly. That is, how much does this matter to you? For me personally, at this stage of my life, it would absolutely matter to me. And hey, it might still be worth it to try the therapy route. EDIT: Also, something I haven't seen brought up yet, but seems very obvious to me: If she's so far been clear and resolute in not wanting to engage in oral sex, to the point that she gets angry when you bring it up... the suggestion that you two seek couples/sex therapy (the implication being , is likely not going to go over too well. This is not to dissuade you from talking to her about this or suggesting therapy. Just...be very sensitive and considerate about how you go about this. In my opinion, it would be helpful if you connected this to larger issues you want to work through with her.
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Thread Johnny Depp v Amber Heard's defamation trial is underway
The question here is the extent to which Johnny Depp may or may not have committed DV against Amber Heard, for the purposes of this defamation suit. What is , is that Johnny Depp himself a victim of DV at the hands of Amber Heard. There is photo evidence of this, there are witness accounts of Heard's violent outbursts, and audio admission that Amber Heard was physically violent throughout their relationship, even in instances where Depp was trying to get away from her, and berating him for this. This can understandably be a triggering trial and conversation to watch unfold; and people should absolutely be sensitive to sides of this conversation (within reason). But it's also important to understand that this is a discussion of a trial setting. And that is important to keep in mind, because if you are ever seated on a jury, it will be your civic responsibility to check your biases, and objectively view the evidence and testimony as presented to you. And people following the trial and watching it live are likely to do the same. That can be uncomfortable, because it can seem like you're rallying against the victim. But one of the questions at the heart of this "who is the victim?" Just some of my distilled thoughts, because as I was saying to my roommate just yesterday...this is incredibly uncomfortable, from many angles.
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Thread Karine Jean-Pierre to become White House press secretary, the first Black and out LGBTQ person in the role
Very happy for Jean-Pierre! I've followed them for years, and they're always a class act on the podium. Very quick and easy to understand with their answers.
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Thread Johnny Depp v Amber Heard's defamation trial is underway
I feel gross even listening to this and trying to give credence to Heard's words versus what we're seeing. And I'm really struggling. This was Heard's testimony. "He pummeled me." "He dragged my by the hair up the stairs." "You could find my hair all around the house." "He hit me in the face with his casted hand." That is what she said. That is how she described the violence. These photos do not show those injuries. I...feel like I'm going crazy watching this and trying to make sense of it.
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Thread Johnny Depp v Amber Heard's defamation trial is underway
I absolutely believe that Johnny Depp was at the very least verbally abusive in this relationship. He admitted it in his own testimony. And I want to believe Heard here. But those photos. I almost would have preferred not seeing them.
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She's being specifically asked how she felt when leaving the resort. If I'm on the jury, I'm listening for one description of the physical pain she must have been in. And I would find it strange that we haven't gotten one yet.
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Thread Johnny Depp v Amber Heard's defamation trial is underway
Literally less than 2 minutes ago Heard was in absolute hysterics. When I'm anywhere near that upset it takes me at least an hour to recover. My voice is hoarse, my eyes are puffy and red, and I typically have difficulty breathing. There is not a single sign on her face right now, the emotion she was displaying just 2 minutes ago. I'm scared.
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Thread Johnny Depp v Amber Heard's defamation trial is underway
The one time I stepped on a piece of glass large enough to cut into my foot, it left a cut about a quarter of an inch in my heel and I was walking with an limp for about two days. I'm not saying that she couldn't still be telling the truth here. But the intensity of the violence that she describes, but without giving any of details, would leave me really if I were on this jury. But maybe that's the point.
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Thread POLITICO: Madison Cawthorn photos reveal him wearing women’s lingerie in public setting
A Bret Kavanaugh type? I dunno...that's a different type of despicable asshole, from my lived experience. I'd be surprised if we saw pictures of Kavanaugh in what is essentially drag. But I do agree that cis straight men participate in these types of behaviors all the time...jokingly. But I'm also not that interested in parsing these people's mindsets to that degree,I'm going by what I saw in a video.
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Thread POLITICO: Madison Cawthorn photos reveal him wearing women’s lingerie in public setting
It's also because it's easy behavior to . It assumes, correctly, that people are going to fall back, and quite smoothly, on other biases. There are so many ways in which we see that Republicans are racists, liars, charlatans, hypocrites and adulterers. And not only Republicans, but even a lot of people on the left, will handwave it under the pretense "Yeah yeah Republicans are bad everybody knows this whatever." So it's been interesting to watch this unfold. Because it's not just a matter of a Republican being hammered down for stepping out of line. It's they stepped out of line. Cawthorne's behavior is That makes it a story. Would it have happened to someone who's less a piece a shit, it might have stirred a conversation about why this behavior is seen as particularly salacious.
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I don't know why I'm surprised that Depp would be such an intimate person with his language in private. That email was like a romance novel, and not a bad one. I'm waiting for the rage, the violence. It's hinted at, it's alluded. But so far the only concrete evidence we have is of Heard's violence.
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I'm really uncomfortable with this portion of her testimony. I mean I get it, she's laying groundwork. But so much of this has nothing to do with him abusing her, and more him dealing with opiate addiction. Showing the picture of him slumped in his chair just makes me feel bad for him.
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Thread POLITICO: Madison Cawthorn photos reveal him wearing women’s lingerie in public setting
Hold the phone y'all! I just made a post. It feels like y'all are digging for some nefarious intent here. Slay this white bigot. I was just commenting on what I saw.
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Thread POLITICO: Madison Cawthorn photos reveal him wearing women’s lingerie in public setting
One, I did not refer to this as a prank. I said . I AM sex positive, so I want to leave room for the possibility that this was consensual and that we net sleuths who don't know these people might be wrong. But I've been very intentional with my language that if this were nonconsensual then it's not acceptable. I literally say that in multiple posts. So please miss me with this narrative. I just think it's weird to highlight me, while being intentional with my language, in the same thread where people are sharing dog reenactments.
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Thread POLITICO: Madison Cawthorn photos reveal him wearing women’s lingerie in public setting
Why is this weird? It seems pretty accurate to me. The evidence is in that Cawthrone lives a life incompatible with the politics he preaches.
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Thread POLITICO: Madison Cawthorn photos reveal him wearing women’s lingerie in public setting
Not "forgetting"...I never knew! Shiiiiet. I just saw the video and said, "...I have friends who are into that type of freaky shit. I'll be in my seperate hotel room, preferably on another floor, watching Netflix and eating pizza." I don't follow Republicans like this.
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Thread POLITICO: Madison Cawthorn photos reveal him wearing women’s lingerie in public setting
The impression I get from Cawthorne is that, in his real life, he's a generally sex positive and gender neutral person (in addition to being an asshole, if this video is indeed a prank). So that he's engaged in a politics that encourages monstrous beliefs and the persecution of other people is both sad AND unforgiveable.
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Thread POLITICO: Madison Cawthorn photos reveal him wearing women’s lingerie in public setting
I mean, at this point I don't really care. Cawthorne's hypocrisy has been firmly established at this point...and so long as everything's consensual, seems like a nice way to spend a Saturday night. But whew, it's the HYPOCRISY for me...
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Thread NASA to launch naked pictures of humans to space in hope of ‘attracting aliens’
Ummm... Leading with nudes is not a turn on. My friends, do not follow the advice of...*checks notes*... the National Aeronautics and Space Administration.
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Thread Politico: Supreme Court has voted to overturn abortion rights, draft opinion shows
That's not how this works. Seriously, an idea prevalent in this thread that is so frustrating, is that if a President gains a trifecta, that Congress just gets together and passes a "President's Agenda Bill" and it gets signed into law. And that if that happen, it's because the President was lying the whole time. That's not how this works. A President enters office, even with a trifecta, with a limited amount of political cache. Because they still have to build support. They still have to herd votes. they still have to persuade their party, many of whom are operating under a different set of priorities to please their specific constituents. It is not a hivemind. That's not how this works. And we just saw this with Trump! Trump ALSO had a trifecta! And guess what!? He didn't repeal the ACA. He didn't build a wall. He didn't get an all-sweeping muslim ban. Because he TOO had a limited cache, and had to prioritize and spend that cache. Such is the nature of American politics. And you can have a problem with Plenty of people do. But you're trying to make this emblematic of specific politicans, and that's not how this works. That's not how any of this works.
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Thread Politico: Supreme Court has voted to overturn abortion rights, draft opinion shows
I actually agree with this. I think people DO need to understand that the party backs incumbents . This is why The Squad, who campaigned on being agitators of the establishment, got establishment backing in their reelections. This is not inconsistent behavior. But if there was ever a time to break consistent behavior, I would say it's now.
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Thread Johnny Depp v Amber Heard's defamation trial is underway
I think the biggest issue I'm having with this testimony is that the framing goes so against what we . Heard is describing these events as her being this young, hopelessly-in-love partner to this enraged violent drunk who also happened to be one of the biggest stars in the world. She doesn't go into her anger issues or violent outbursts at all. And, in most cases, I would completely understand her lawyers wanting to skirt around all that. But the big problem with that is... We've heard the tapes. We know Heard was prone to angry outbursts. We know Heard instigated a lot of the fights. We know Heard was physically violent on many occasions, and that Johnny's response to those occasions was to leave. This isn't speculation: it's on tape. So to not have Heard talk about this in her opening testimony feels like an odd choice. Because Depp's lawyers are definitely going to talk about it (including replaying the tapes). Such a glaring omission can make your entire testimony feel dishonest.
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Thread Politico: Supreme Court has voted to overturn abortion rights, draft opinion shows
I understand the frustration here, but at the same time... Jen Psaki is the White House Press Secretary. It is literally antithetical to her job to spout her personal opinion or emotionalize her response. She's acting as the voice of the administration when she's at that podium. Look to the statements that Biden and VP Harris have made personally for an indication of how the administration feels. Blaming Psaki here is almost like bitching at the register person that the price of a coffee is so expensive at a coffee shop. Like that's their job. EDIT: Also, lets check unconscious biases here. It's noticeable to me in this post that Joe Biden is "Biden" but Jen Psaki is "Jen."
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I am so confused. They show the picture of the bruise on her arm (that's been on the net before). They ask Heard to describe how she got the bruise. She says in an argument, Johnny grabbed her by the arm (thus, the bruise), but then threw her on the floor and began hitting her repeatedly in the face. ...but you see her face in the photo. There's not a mark on it. Emily Baker just commented on that on her feed, as well.
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Interesting narrative choice... When she first brought up at the beginning of her testimony that she and Depp had to hide their relationship in the beginning because Depp feared she would be blamed for his divorce, she described as being exciting. (And it kind of rings true. She likely would have been blamed...) She brings this up again right before they went on break, only she recontextualizes it as being an obvious sign of Depp being an abuser. I would be really confused by this testimony if I were on the jury.
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It honestly does. That picture would be more corroborative of the scenario we hear in the audio (Johnny restraining her while she repeatedly strikes him in the face), than the scenario she just described. Seriously. I've not been following this case OR the Depp/Heard drama in general too closely. I'm trying really hard to check my biases. But..so much of what she's saying right now makes no sense.
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Thread Politico: Supreme Court has voted to overturn abortion rights, draft opinion shows
Can Dems do anything to directly appeal this? No. This fight was lost in 2016. But you're going to see a lot of blue states rapidly move to codify abortion rights into state law (those Blue states that haven't done so already). So, in the immediate short term, you're not going to see much. Blue states are going to continue codifying abortion rights; red states are going to continue to pinch them out of existence. In the long-term? This sets the stage for a federal ban on abortion. That's the next point.
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I'm not saying that Heard is lying or that I don't believe her. But she's answering these questions in a very weird way. My housemate just commented that it feels more like she's trying to get the jury to feel a specific way about Depp than just answering the question. It doesn't feel natural.
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Oh yeah, I get that. What I'm finding interesting/strange is where she's going into detail and editorializing ("he made me feel like the most beautiful woman in the world") and where she's rushing through her responses. Will say she's not as difficult to follow as Depp was, though...
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Thread Politico: Supreme Court has voted to overturn abortion rights, draft opinion shows
Warren isn't the only one who gets it. Sanders isn't the only one who gets it. Black Democrats have been screaming about these very issues for decades. I'm not just saying this because I'm Black. I'm saying this because it's relevant.
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Absolutely not. Voting is slacktivism. A retweet is slacktivism. Attending a protest to get juicy content for your Insta is slacktivism. Dunking on someone on an internet message board is slacktivism. Engaging in your civic duty is slacktivism. Like...wut? People are confusing "slacktivism" with "bare minimum." Voting is the bare minimum, and nobody is suggesting that all you should do is vote then go back to bed.
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I'm going to be very blunt: I'm not going to treat you like a kid here. I'm a Queer Black person who lives a hair's breath above the poverty line their damn selves. I take issue with the idea that I would frame argument as justifying the suffering of people who are like me. For this reason, there is a hard limit on how far I'm willing to engage with what you wrote. I will only distill my point further: I don't buy the motivations of a lot of people who are advocating violent revolution while downplaying voting. I don't.
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Thread Politico: Supreme Court has voted to overturn abortion rights, draft opinion shows
I want to be clear: that post was not me attacking people who don't vote. I have smoke for that group, but that wasn't the point. The point of that post that was quoted was this: If you can't be bothered to vote, when you KNOW the stakes!? Then spare me all your posturing about violent revolution. You can't even get off your ass to do the bare minimum. I don't buy it. I don't believe it. I don't respect it. Spare me the . Trying to convince me you're about this life. Spare. ME.
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What's wrong with that? You always have the option to...not give money. Another misconception about how politics works when it comes to Dems is that people buy into the Republican framing that Democrats are the party of the rich coastal elites. 9 times out of 10 Democrats are fucking broke. If they weren't taking these obvious opportunities to fundraise and build an opposition, then we'd be criticizing them for
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Thread Politico: Supreme Court has voted to overturn abortion rights, draft opinion shows
Have you signed up for firearms training? Where are your molotovs? The thing that bothers me the most about all this ideation of violent retribution isn't the idea of violence itself; it's that it's being perpetuated by people who wouldn't do shit themselves.
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This doesn't respond to yogurt's central point, which is that when a politician campaign on what they could realistically do, they are near universally for it. "Not aspirational." "Good things AREN'T possible!!!" This is the part where I remind y'all that Hillary Clinton actually released a book on her policy proposals and how she planned to accomplish them: But a bit less than half the party went in for the guy who's M4A proposal up to that point was a whopping...2 pages long. 2 pages.
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But we don't know this. This is convenient thinking. Contrary to what was established in the Trump years, we don't live in a society where the President negotiates via aggressive twittering. We're seeing this now with the Biden Administration. With how they lobbied Simona for BBB, with how VP Harris was deliberately sent to WV to pressure Manchin. The stories about how aggressive the administration was moving behind the scenes in coordinating a diplomatic response to Russia invading Ukraine. This is how Presidencies typically work; you don't find out until it's done.
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The President cannot codify anything into law without a bill from Congress hitting their desk. Blame Congress. Some of y'all really need to watch this. Then watch it again: (I'm not even being shady. This is iconic.)
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And again, blame Congress. Unless you believe Obama was lying and have signed a bill codifying Roe v. Wade into law if Congress had the courage to actual produce said bill. A candidate campaigning for President can only campaign on their intent and what they intend to do. But again, a President is not a King/Queen. They need Congress to actually play ball.
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What is this? Republicans didn't actually implement half of their agenda. The ACA still exists. There is no wall. There is no all-sweeping Muslim ban. The only legislative success the Republicans had was the tax bill. Everything else was approving judges and eroding government institutions. Which, not to downplay the seriousness of that, but Sirota is deliberately lying here. Which is par for the course with Sirota.
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So you really think that if Congress had managed to pass a bill codifying Roe v. Wade into law, that Obama wouldn't have signed it? I mean, ok. You're entitled to that.
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How does this make sense considering how Florida has voted in every election since? Y'all, 2016 was 6 years ago. We have data to debunk these talking points now.
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Thread Politico: Supreme Court has voted to overturn abortion rights, draft opinion shows
I'll reiterate a conversation I just had with a friend irl about this, because I find it relevant here: It's good that people vote regardless, and I understand that a lot of the people in here did vote regardless of how they feel about the party. And , I will reiterate that I don't think anybody is asking anyone in here to be active cheerleaders for the Dems. I do (and I'm one of the BIGGEST Dem ass-kissers here, let this forum tell the story). I'm going to reference Black voters as a block again, because something I've encountered often is this belief that Black voters vote the way that we do out of "blind loyalty" or because we love the Democratic Party. And it's like...lol, Black voters don't like HALF these assholes. Did y'all miss 2016, when BLM had smoke for EVERYBODY? Nobody escaped. And sit in a town hall in a majority Black district and try to tell me Black constituents don't hold these candidates feet to the fire when they get the opportunity. Ol' Homeboy Fetterman right now because of this. No, Black people vote how we do, prioritize how we do, and , because we live with the constant understanding of what's on the other side. And it's through that lens that view these conversations. Look, I don't have the most concrete data, so a lot of this could be 'Tales from Royalan's Succulent Ass.' But what I do know is that, regardless of if and how you voted, if you spent every minute up to stepping into your polling place (and every minute after) shitting on Dems, and amplifying blatant misinformation because it makes you feel good because it shits on Dems, and attacking anyone you perceive to not be shitting on Dems enough and calling them shills/establishment/sheep/etc.. Then yes, this is a form of that you are engaging in. And people are allowed to be upset about that. Great that you voted; how many people did you convince not to? In this thread there are people posting blatant false shit right out of the Alt-Right misinformation playbook. In thread! And the solution to that is not blind loyalty to the Dems. The solution to that is due diligence.
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Thread Politico: Supreme Court has voted to overturn abortion rights, draft opinion shows
The unfortunate thing I've learned, in my 36 years on this planet as a Queer Black person, is that the guiding hegemony in American politics is race. Of all the identities I claim. Black, Queer, poor, disabled. I am most reminded, again and again, that I am Black first. Until this country truly wrestles with its original sin, I feel that will always be the case.
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Thread Politico: Supreme Court has voted to overturn abortion rights, draft opinion shows
And what can the party do? RBG is a person. One person with autonomy in the life she lived. The analogy does not work unless you think that there wasn't a single (single!) Democrat pressuring her to step down behind the scenes.
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Thread Politico: Supreme Court has voted to overturn abortion rights, draft opinion shows
This analogy doesn't work...because we're not talking about fucking tigers. Republicans are not animals and Democrats are not zookeepers. Think about that. Think about the space you're giving to Republicans to continue to be heinous, the blame you're shifting to Democrats for not being able to tame the untamable, and the space you're giving Independents to just not engage. People really want to engineer this to be Democrats' fault NO MATTER HOW IT GOES, and that is so exhausting. Because in so many demonstrable moments we're the only lot who give a shit.
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Thread Politico: Supreme Court has voted to overturn abortion rights, draft opinion shows
This implies that people don't the shortcomings of the Democrats just because we don't waste time focusing our shots on them. Oh, yes, we know where the Dems fall short. For a lot of us, that is so not the point right now.
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Thread Politico: Supreme Court has voted to overturn abortion rights, draft opinion shows
Remember the pink pussy hats of 2017? The Woman's March that year was, and continues to be, the largest single demonstration the world has ever seen. What was the result? white women voted for Trump in 2020.
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Thread Politico: Supreme Court has voted to overturn abortion rights, draft opinion shows
This is technically true. As someone (sorry I'm forgetting who) said earlier, the Judicial doesn't actually have the power to enforce its opinions. Congress, especially in coordination with the Executive, could easily render it irrelevant. Good luck getting that type of cooperation these days, though.
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Thread Politico: Supreme Court has voted to overturn abortion rights, draft opinion shows
The grand irony for me continues to be that we on the left arguing that we can't do what we see the right do literally every fucking election. This is why I'm so protective of Black voters. Not JUST because I'm Black myself, but because Black voters are literally Leftist voting block that operates this way. We take our asses out and vote for the D candidate no matter WHO that fucker is.
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Thread Politico: Supreme Court has voted to overturn abortion rights, draft opinion shows
Y'all, the machine responsible for this was set in motion before RBG ever lined her robes with that iconic white lace. Stop looking for simple scapegoats. It's basic behavior. We're talking high concept shit here.
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Thread Politico: Supreme Court has voted to overturn abortion rights, draft opinion shows
There are so many women, fathers, birthing people, and folks with just plain and simple on the mod team. This is a message for anyone who reads: Stop being so quick to retreat to the idea that mods aren't human and intentionally allow this shit. So many people, mods I interact with, that I'm thinking about right now. They don't deserve to read posts like yours.
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Thread Politico: Supreme Court has voted to overturn abortion rights, draft opinion shows
Stop. We mods may not be perfect. Things might slip through the cracks. But if you think we'd be tolerating people defending this decision? The only question I have is why are here?
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Thread Politico: Supreme Court has voted to overturn abortion rights, draft opinion shows
Well, then, speaking candidly...I would just urge you to consider time and place. As someone who does a lot of activist work and GOTV work, I will say in my experience this has been an extreme failure of the far left? Simple and basic tact? Not every moment is an opportune one to shit on Democrats.
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Thread Politico: Supreme Court has voted to overturn abortion rights, draft opinion shows
I too wondered about the political timing of all of this, but then I realized... A Black woman was just appointed to the Supreme Court and has yet to take her seat.
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Thread Politico: Supreme Court has voted to overturn abortion rights, draft opinion shows
Hopefully this begins in earnest the conversation that began in the last Dem primary (driven mostly by, yeah I'm about to say it, Pete Buttigieg)... This needs to signal the end of the Supreme Court. I might not ever see it in my lifetime (likely). But this needs to be the moment that the concept of the Supreme Court goes down in history as inherently unhealthy and antithetical to the concept of a functioning democracy.
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Thread Politico: Supreme Court has voted to overturn abortion rights, draft opinion shows
Heads up: If in a moment this perilous; a moment where the "Bad Guy" has never been clearer...you can still only fix your fingers to talk about how much the suck? You need to step away from your computer, or your mobile device...and find the nearest mirror to take a long hard look in.
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Thread Politico: Supreme Court has voted to overturn abortion rights, draft opinion shows
And that's exactly what they want. This is heartbreaking. Made utterly heartbreaking by the fact that this is the end. Republicans will roll us back to the Stone Age. Republicans will rob me (and people like me) of my personhood multiple times over until my Black ass is back in chains. This is not hyperbole. Bit by bit, this is the end-game. And Black folks know it. Been knew it. This is why you fight. This is why you do what you can to protect as much of your peace as you can. Because the last thing you have to give up is your will to fight. To dance with the devil. To vote it's just to stop the other person. Voting for the lesser of two evils has never been the weak thing. It has always been the valiant thing. Because no matter what, no gain is permanent and it can always get worse. This is the very thing many of us have been fighting for people to understand. Tonight I'm going to drink. I'm going to commune with my friends and love ones. Then tomorrow, I'm going to continue fighting for Democracy.
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Thread Black Anime Fans Reclaim Would-Be Slur With Positive Social Media Movement
No. Because, at least in my opinion, to say this term created by racist dummy ass anime fans holds that much weight now only gives them power (and credit), it cheapens the seriousness of...the n-word. Just, if you do use it, know that you're using a term that some people will know has been used to refer to Black people. The typical rules apply.
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Thread Black Anime Fans Reclaim Would-Be Slur With Positive Social Media Movement
I have always loved the "Japanese animators aren't even THINKING ABOUT ENTHNICITY" argument that pops up in just about any conversation about Black inclusivity. Because, well, if that were true (it's not)...then why are you so mad? Why do you care at all? Anyway, "Nightskin"...yeah, that's ours now.
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Thread Avatar: The Way of Water HD Stills Leak Online
I can attest to this. I'm reminded of something Lindsey Ellis said in her video on Titanic, specifically about why none of the copycat films that came out after could replicate its success or cultural relevance (...Pearl Harbor): Cameron made you care about the ship. I feel that Avatar, as a visual film, is just as much about showing us the world of Pandora and getting us invested in , than it is about even the characters. It's why having such a simple story with beats most audiences would already be familiar with was actually a choice, in my opinion. I remember leaving the theater after my second time seeing the movie, still not caring much about the characters...but absolutely by the world, and wanting to spend more time with in a way that I, until that point, had mostly only experienced with Fantasy novels. To me, the triumph of Avatar.
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Thread Avatar: The Way of Water HD Stills Leak Online
I know the Navi are a hodgepodge of "native/tribal" cultural artifacts and references audiences would recognize, and aren't representative of any real-world culture or racial group (because...well, they're aliens)... But, I don't think I've ever seen microbraids rendered like this before. Neytiri, sis, who's your braider?
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Thread POLITICO: Madison Cawthorn photos reveal him wearing women’s lingerie in public setting
I have a lot of friends who make a living via sex work. Online/offline, and across the sexual spectrum. INCLUDING in the DC area. The coke orgies are real. Like.... It's always surprising to me that these stories are to people. Because we get these stories all the time, across industries, constantly. It seems like people are always hesitant to connect the dots. lol Any time you have an environment where bro-like behavior is encouraged, and there is the fine mixture of money, power, privilege, and a noted lack of accountability...just know in your mind: The coke orgies are real. You see it in politics. Hollywood. Religion. Law Enforcement. TECH.
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Thread World of Warcraft: Shadowlands |OT| Anima Crossing: New Prison
Speaking canon, there really shouldn't be that much scourge left. But imo the bigger question (that I would be surprised if WoW actually tackled)...is what even is the point of Forsaken now? Why would/should anyone be OK with creating more Forsaken?
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Thread SCENARIO: You and your significant other are held at gunpoint....
This person has a gun. Pointed at the two of you. Some of y'all are acting like the partner knows that their running is only going to result in you getting "roughed up." This thread has been fascinating to me. So many different dynamics and expectations at play. I'll go into detail later if this threads still going when I get home. But even after sleeping on it, I'm even more certain: oh, I'm hardcore breaking up with you. The only thing I disagree with in the poll is labeling this "trust issues." To me, trust has nothing to do with it. In fact, I do trust you...to abandon me to danger. Oh believe, when the going gets tough I now have FULL FAITH in your ability to and abandon me to fate. I think a better word here is compatibility. Compatibility issues.
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Thread Hip-Hop ERA |OT2| I Put the Fish in My Glove and I Freaked It.
Wassup, y'all. It's . The one and only. So listen: this OT has been without an active OP for quite some time. For many reasons, large and active OTs work best when there's an active OP to oversee them, and Hip-Hop Era is no exception. I've been in contact with somebody, , to take on that role. However, there is a question I thought best to put to the community itself: In the event that someone accepts the role of "OP" would you all prefer to keep this thread (OT2) going, with all 614 goddamn pages? Or would you all be ready to roll over to an |OT3|? Comment below.
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Thread SCENARIO: You and your significant other are held at gunpoint....
This is the thing a lot of people miss/forget when they (stringently) reference flight or fight instincts. Besides the fact that humans aren't programmed robots ruled by fight or flight, it's lost that...as much as there is adrenaline coursing through your veins in this moment, so is the case for the other person. ...oh, and they have a gun.
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Thread SCENARIO: You and your significant other are held at gunpoint....
This idiot. This idiot right here. Because you running could have gotten killed. Like, no judgement to anyone who leave their SO, but I would hope running would not be something in a scenario even remotely like this. Can't emphasize it enough. Maybe it was just how I was raised, but this scenario wouldn't even trigger my fight or flight instincts. It would trigger my "Freeze!" instincts.
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Thread SCENARIO: You and your significant other are held at gunpoint....
The thing is... If I were to answer this prompt seriously, one of the worst things you can do in the event that you're robbed at gunpoint is anything . That includes running. So, if I didn't break up with my boyfriend (and I still would, I'm real about mine), I'd also be enraged at them for doing something that in reality only increased the chance that harm came to them OR me (because the robber is pissed, and the partner running is likely WHY I got fucked up and not just my shit taken). EDIT: I mean, this is hood/self-defense 101. You don't run from someone pointing a gun at you unless you KNOW they're planning to shoot, in which case you take your chance.
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Thread Do you plan to leave Twitter after the Elon Musk takeover?
It does feel like Twitter has reached a point where it's too big to fail. But then I remember, in my Auntie Millennial age, that we've seen this before. I remember when MySpace felt like it would always be around. I remember when Facebook felt like it would always be socially relevant (now it's just my family address book. Literally the ONLY reason I'm still on it). I remember when everyone thought Snapchat would be the next titan, and almost was. Hell, the only reason I'm even on Twitter is it's where my artist friends went after we all left Tumblr. As embedded as a social platform feels, all it takes is a combination of a few factors. Dissatisfaction, a slate of bazaar and highly publicized decisions, and a waiting alternative. Other words, yeah, I'm out.
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Thread Its Official, Elon Musk has bought Twitter
I actually think so! It's much quieter than it's pre-2014 years. But the quality of content and community interaction, at least in my little corner, is way better. They've also loosened up on the adult restrictions and censoring (although, the policies are technically still there). Obviously, this is good for more than just porn.
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Thread Its Official, Elon Musk has bought Twitter
1) The cult of personality around Musk among even a large segment of the group of folks who are talking about eating the rich any other day of the week will never not be strange to me. 2) Funny enough, I've been browsing Tumblr more lately than I have in years. 3) "Authenticate all humans" sounds strangely foreboding.
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Thread World of Warcraft: Shadowlands |OT| Anima Crossing: New Prison
I just want a moment where, through some contrivance of the Dragon Isles, Malygos comes back, learns about the state of things since we killed him, gives us one good: And then goes back to bed. #MalygosWasRight
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Thread Where do you go to potentially hit it off with the opposite sex other than bars & clubs (no apps/social media suggestions please)?
I'm going to answer OP here via their no apps/social media framing...although I will say that they should probably reconsider this. The "no apps/social media" conditional feels like a hold-over from the early stages of the internet, and for some still seems to be considered an invalid way to meet people. But the more connected we are online and disconnected irl, the less true this is. The guy I'm currently seeing I met through Instagram. I model, he's a photographer. Sure it was an app, but we connected primarily through a shared interest, and the disconnected nature of social media insured that by the time we actually met, we'd already had dozens of interactions. Anyway, to answer OP...the BEST bit of advice I've seen posted in the thread so far is volunteering. I don't think there's anything wrong with meeting people at bars or clubs either BUT, in lieu of that, you should put a interest/passion of yours at the forefront in terms of where/how you want to meet someone.
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Thread RuPaul´s Drag Race Season 14 |OT| You´re The One Bombing
Symone is a legit fashion gworl. I'm not at all surprised by what she wore. lol I remember during season 13, my ONE criticism of Symone was that her drag was too "wearable." That if you grew in Black urban neighborhoods, you SAW Black girls dressed in pretty much EVERYTHING Symone wore on the runway. I appreciate it more now, but still...it's always been her aesthetic. lol
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Thread RuPaul´s Drag Race Season 14 |OT| You´re The One Bombing
I've come to love Symone for the same reason I have always loved Shea Coulee. Their drag is a love letter to Black Women. You just see it in every aesthetic choice. Black women have long (LONG) been a dominant force is not just pop culture and fashion, but DRAG culture specifically. It is so refreshing to see young Black queens unashamed to pay homage. And nobody does it better than Symone. Also, the skin. The SKIN is half the look with Symone.
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Thread Shaquille O'Neal says his daughters can stay home as long as they want, but his son's must move out at 18
It's sad to me that not even a full page after my post my point has only been proven. This conversation is now about Shaquille O'Neal and his perceived goodness. And now I see we've entered the "lets dig up every bad thing Shaq has ever done" portion of this oh-so-predictable exercise. I'd say some of you should be ashamed if I thought you capable of that.
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Thread Shaquille O'Neal says his daughters can stay home as long as they want, but his son's must move out at 18
Oooh! This is THAT interview!?!? I've seen this clip on the blogs the last few days. Yeah, y'all got Shaq fucked up. If this is that interview, that dumbass Crowder tried to get Shaq to shit on his ex-wife Shaunie, and Shaq literally went out of his way to pause the interview to say, "Nah, Shaunie was a great wife and mother, did everything she was supposed to do. I'm the one who fucked up." Which...is a BIG FUCKING DEAL.
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Thread Shaquille O'Neal says his daughters can stay home as long as they want, but his son's must move out at 18
You don't understand? I'm sorry, but I just don't buy that. And to be CLEAR, I ain't defending Shaq! It's hilarious to me that I feel the need to say that. But again, so many people in this discourse are inserting a false shock to function as condemnation. Have a problem with how Shaq prioritizes sheltering his daughters versus sheltering his sons. I do! But some of y'all are acting surprised at this gender dynamic, like this comment from Shaq is the first you ever heard of it. And...I'm...I'm shocked at THAT.
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Thread Shaquille O'Neal says his daughters can stay home as long as they want, but his son's must move out at 18
Something I tend to dislike about when celebrities become the "face" of these larger social conversations, is that the more famous they are (and if they're a minority? Chile...), the more they dwarf the larger conversation, and it becomes ABOUT them. We make it about the celebrity, and lose the fact that the celebrity is a person...oftentimes exhibiting largely accepted social attitudes, because fame or not they were raised on this same planet. Like, do not mistake me as defending Shaq here, as I think his words deserve criticism. But there are a lot of people in this thread treating Shaq's comments as some uniquely toxic behavior he's displaying. And, frankly, I wanna know what version of Earth y'all were raised on because I want to be teleported there. Because, the idea that is an idea as old as time and transcends any specific culture. There's a reason why Shaq talks about his boys this way: because that was likely how he was raised. There's a reason why he felt comfortable saying this in an interview: because he assumed (likely correctly) that most people hearing this would understand and sympathize with his viewpoint. Most people will understand and sympathize with his viewpoint, because unfortunately this lopsided expectation we as a socieTEA have of boys versus girls (when it comes to self-reliance) is normalized. Shaq likely believes that what he's saying about how he treats his boys is an example of good parenting; and we live in a society that will largely affirm that.
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Thread Shaquille O'Neal says his daughters can stay home as long as they want, but his son's must move out at 18
This is what your post was about? Because what I read was a pretty simple and basic statement about how Shaq is a bad parent who shouldn't be allowed to raise kids. I read that because that's what you wrote. Because, you know, there's no such thing as gray in this world. If you express an admittedly antiquated but widespread viewpoint on the preparedness of boys entering adulthood (and thus the world)...clearly, the problem is you being bad! Bad! Bad Shaq! I would happily extend more nuance to your point, because I don't agree with what Shaq said and I do feel that even if he was joking (which, he could have been!), this fend-for-yourself mindset we force onto young boys is antiquated and I do believe harmful long-term. But I can't do any of that! Because what you wrote was very basic, and frankly seemed to be more interested in being spiteful than offering any nuanced perspective. Also, I wouldn't be The Black Mod Named Royalan if I didn't point out that this accepted lack of nuance and mean-spiritedness seems to be the default when the subject of criticism on this site is a Black person. If that wasn't your intention...Ok. But I'mma still point it out.
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Thread Shaquille O'Neal says his daughters can stay home as long as they want, but his son's must move out at 18
Yeah, you're not wrong. Absolutely stomach churning, made especially worse by the fact that you KNOW this is some performative bullshit. Which then forces you think... And I don't like the conclusion I'm always forced to come to.
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Thread Shaquille O'Neal says his daughters can stay home as long as they want, but his son's must move out at 18
You can just not. You always have the option to not. Something always on the menu, a HOUSE SPECIAL, if you will...is the Not. Over easy. With a side of fries.
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Thread Talk shit, get hit...by Mike Tyson
You know...throughout the course of following this discussion, and hell even just being a mod on this site, it's not lost on me that most of the people advocating for the white dumbass to have free reign with his words tend to be people who are very violent with their language themselves. Because Black people (I'm going to say minorities in general here) do have a "spicy" command of the English language. However, we're also raised with the understanding of "those are fighting words" and we govern ourselves accordingly, and we employ language accordingly. It's that so many of y'all are trying to run away from. The simple notion of consequences. Because I don't even have to do any searching of post histories or any shit like that. I can just look in THIS thread and see that a lot of the people who are upset at Mike Tyson here, also tend to default to very flippant and violent language themselves. And it seems like what you're responding to here is not just Mike Tyson, but the very idea that someone could take umbrage with your words, and proceed to knock your shit back. And that there could be a room full of people watching you get your shit knocked back, and the general consensus be "...friend, you had that ass whoopin coming." WELP, that's the world we live in. Watch how the fuck you talk to people. Because Mike Tyson ain't getting nothing from me for this but a beer, a pat on the back, and a "nigga, I get it." And I ain't ashamed of that. Sorry. And as an aside...you white folks LOVE adopting AAVE, and applying it wantonly in your own discourse. In the last year, I've never heard so many white folks say "fuck around and find out" with their whole chest. Well, what the fuck do you think the "and find out" means?
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Thread Talk shit, get hit...by Mike Tyson
The person constantly using the label ' while displaying a significant and demonstrated ignorance of the very culture they original pitched themselves to be somewhat versed in... Should probably stop. It's saddening to me that this has become yet another example of a topic on the Black American experience where people simply refuse to just listen.
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Thread Twitter Video: Girl blocking the slide, other girl tries getting past...Slide-Blocker Girl BITES!!!
Ha, funny story... So the first time I ever got into a fight, it was because of this. Only I was the asshole 5 year-old blocking the slide. Must have blocked it for 10 minutes before I gave in and went down. And when I tell you not 5 seconds after we got to the bottom, this boy walked up to me, popped me in the face one good time, and walked away. 5 year-old Roy was like and I never did it again.
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Thread POLITICO: Madison Cawthorn photos reveal him wearing women’s lingerie in public setting
I'm of two minds on this. On one hand, as a Queer person who has never cared about gender restrictions when it comes to clothing, I want to view this as a big old nothing. But, on the other hand, deplorables like Cawthorne would absolutely be using something like this as an example of the LGBTQIA+ "attack on masculinity" if this were ANYONE else. So, like, Cawthorne... I don't care if this is just you having fun at a party. Good for you, but you would NOT be giving this grace to any other man. So fuck you.
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Thread Washington Post: Bernie Sanders ‘has not ruled out another run’ for president if Biden doesn’t in 2024
Sanders has had a lot of influence over the younger/progressive wing of the party. I'm a hater and I'll admit that much. My point is that Bernie himself has not done the work to create a pipeline for his would-be successor.
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Thread Washington Post: Bernie Sanders ‘has not ruled out another run’ for president if Biden doesn’t in 2024
Nothing! You're telling on yourself. Progressives have and will continue to be elected to office! That you don't know about them unless they come up through the Berniesphere says more about you. Shout out to my good sis Lauren Underwood. Black nurse turned Illinois rep who has carved her OWN path and defined her OWN progressive ideals.
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Thread Washington Post: Bernie Sanders ‘has not ruled out another run’ for president if Biden doesn’t in 2024
Ummm... Do you mean what he wasn't able to do because his presidency was a shit show from start to finish? The only thing Trump was successful at was defunding shit and making the US look stupid. Trump had very few legislative victories.
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Thread Washington Post: Bernie Sanders ‘has not ruled out another run’ for president if Biden doesn’t in 2024
Bernie hasn't even been able to make his Senate chairship mean worth a damn. Seriously. It flabbergasts me that so many of y'all love Game of Thrones but cannot realize that Bernie is Ned Stark.
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Thread Washington Post: Bernie Sanders ‘has not ruled out another run’ for president if Biden doesn’t in 2024
So, in fear of this hypothetical we should pick instead the guy we watched get demolished, twice, and in 4k?
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Thread Washington Post: Bernie Sanders ‘has not ruled out another run’ for president if Biden doesn’t in 2024
No! Because that's not how this works. That's not how any of this works! For starters, y'all can get 2024 out of your minds. That ain't on the table, and shame on Bernie for even fanning the flames. But, at the end of the day, this is so much bigger than 2024 OR Bernie. This is about nurturing a young slate of progressive candidates to work for the party in the future...not have it be gifted to them; not taking it over out of "revengence." It's just so clear that so many of y'all aren't looking at the grassroots. At local races. At ground-up progressives who didn't make a name off the Bernie mediasphere. Because those Progressives were here, are here, and will continue to be here. BERNIE SANDERS DID NOT BIRTH PROGRESSIVE IDEAS. But what too many of y'all want is another kinging. You want another chosen one. You want another loud white man who'll "challenge the status quo" and give y'all an easy target to hate. Y'all aren't looking for fresh progressives making a name for THEMSELVES by doing the work.
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Thread Washington Post: Bernie Sanders ‘has not ruled out another run’ for president if Biden doesn’t in 2024
Bernie's central failure as a two-time primary candidate was precisely him surrounding himself with favoritists and yes men, and not...you know, good folks able to run functional campaigns and challenge Bernie on modulating his message. After reading the autopsies on how how his last campaign fell apart, it's frankly concerning to me that people still resort to believing that Bernie didn't fail, but was failed by a system/party that just didn't want him.
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Thread Syracuse's Finest arrest an 8 year old boy over a bag of chips
Why are we acting like this is a 10+ page thread when it's really only 2 pages? Like, it was less than 30 posts ago that we were just going over the "b-b-but the 8 year-old wasn't put in JAIL" ridiculousness.
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Thread Talk shit, get hit...by Mike Tyson
Why are you doing this? Why are you using situations from Tyson's past to imply he is deserving of extra guilt here? We live in a complex world of multiple truths: -Tyson's previous allegations and what he served time for are heinous and stand on their own. -It is disgusting on your part to apply those allegations for which Tyson served time in a situation where not only are they unrelated, but used to denigrate a scenerio not only faced by Mike Tyson, but by many Black men not guilty of Tyson's crimes throughout history.
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