Thanks for taking the time to make this thread, wandering. I know it isn't easy to share something vulnerable like this. I hope the community at large can become better at listening to concerns from Asian members, and not being instantly dismissive of issues. It would be a much more welcoming place to marginalised members if we stopped and listened to affected parties instead of speaking over them and rushing to get our hot takes in.
There's a lot that I relate to in what you said, being of a Muslim and refugee (but not Asian) background myself. From the identity crisis, to the feeling of shame and feeling othered. But there's a lot that is unique to the Asian and Chinese diaspora community as well. Thank you again for sharing this, I got a little emotional reading it. It's a complex issue, but that's all the more reason why we should listen to the perspectives of Asian members first and foremost.