ThreadMy totally unscientific opinion about men based on the responses on my last thread.
Yeah, arrogance is no good either. But I think there's a big difference between being kind to oneself and arrogance. Being at peace with your flaws and realising they don't define you as a person is a form of kindness as well.
When I was a teenager, I used to be really bad at accepting compliments. Part of this was due to me not liking the attention, positive or otherwise (social anxiety), but also because I didn't really believe them. I quickly realised that accepting the compliments got me less attention overall (as rejecting compliments sometimes gets you a poor reaction, e.g. people thinking you're trying to milk even more compliments), but it took me much longer to finally just start believing the positive comments I got, especially ones that were frequent. Eventually, it became easier to believe them, and my self image improved. This had a doubly positive impact in that it changed the way others perceived me for the better as well.
Sometimes we can be far more critical towards ourselves than we would literally anyone else, even to the point of being unfair. It's what I meant earlier when I said we aren't always our fairest critics. Sometimes all we see are the flaws, and we can exaggerate them. A more positive self image is also likely to help you improve yourself, too. As you feel like you're worth working on, and not a lost cause.