I think it's important to realise that there's clear blue water between 'not actively caring for trans people' and being transphobic. Not everyone on Era has to be an activist, nor does everyone have to contribute to every thread about trans issues to demonstrate loudly that they support the prevalent view. That kind of attitude leads to groupthink. Some people will just have other priorities, which is fair enough. Maybe their priority will be another issue they regard as very important, which you don't particularly campaign on.