Well, does buff guys do the same to you, asking her "do you want me to look like that?"? Just as an example too, I watch with my fiancée every day since quarantine began a very famous anime called Food Wars. I noticed it on cruchyroll and since we started cooking a lot by staying home, it was an easy pick to get some inspiration. Well, turns out it "objectifies" both men and women constantly (much more the women, sure, because... japan), in every single episode - Xenoblade 2 is sooo tame next to it it's almost cute. But she laughs her ass off, loves all the girl cast and we even cringe together when it gets too rauchy, then laugh and forget about it - but oh well, it's not like we feel insecure after any of that. And every night she asks for us to watch it. It's funny, it's sexy and gives excellent culinary tips. We started to love it. We even say "shokugeki" to each other when we cook now (a term from the show meaning a contest to see who makes the best dish). The problem (and only problem) I see here is the imbalance between male and female objectification. There's lots of naked men there, but that's dwarfed by the amount of girls. That's the problem, imo. Not the girls, but the lack of men. Other than that, insecurity problems do exist. I just don't think eliminating all that's sexy and juvenile solves that. Oh, well. We both live in Brazil, and scenes like these are common from birth here, so maybe that's that. Very similar to many JRPGs designs.