The blackmail into dating is so gross, even if people were the same age. Imagine a colleague trying to coerce or blackmail you into dating/sex. That would be rape. Weird that the word pedophile gets thrown around in this thread though. Hell, I got a friend who started dating his wife when she was 16 year old and he was 21. He got the occasional remark or joke thrown at his head at the start but that's about it. Different culture I guess. Different culture I guess, but still I feel it kind of undermines what a real pedophile is when people start using it for situations that are totally okay in other western cultures. The word loses its real meaning. A pedophile who acts upon it is an actual monster and should be locked up forever.