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Thread Halle Berry Says She Might Play a Trans Man in a Movie, Repeatedly Refers to the Character as a Woman (UP: Apologizes)
I'm glad she apologised and pulled out. Hopefully they hire a trans man for the role and don't just shelve the film.
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Thread Are you learning towards picking male or female Eivor in Assassin's Creed Valhalla?
I almost always pick female if I have the option (the only exception being if the female character(s) are so embarrassingly depicted that I don't see them as representation). So yeah, if I play Valhalla I'll pick the female character.
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Thread Suspect in disappearance of Pfc. Vanessa Guillen, kills self when confronted by police after remains are found.
This is so awful. Everyone who both tried to cover up the sexual harassment and disappearance need to face consequences.
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Thread Speaking of trans issues let's talk about racism and the general disregard of brands when we call them out for it.
This is actually how moderation was like at first. It did not work. Many people were happy to take a warning, or short ban, if it meant they could JAQ off or even overtly troll women and minorities (including the staff themselves, I've seen it happening in real time). Furthermore, I don't think you realise how absolutely daunting this shit is. Even for minority staff who have the power to ban members. Minorities are called minorities for a reason. The majority of this forum are white, cis het men. It's not fair to the minority and marginalised members to have to constantly explain things to the dismissive and often in bad faith privileged members. And yes, a lot of it is awfully dismissive. More often than not, responses to sensitive concerns are rude, dismissive and even hostile, when it doesn't need to be this way at all. It doesn't cost you anything at all to be more sensitive when approaching these kinds of discussions, even if you're ignorant. There are many issues that I am not knowledgeable on, but I sit back and read and learn in those cases. No one takes pleasure from banning people. I certainly don't, at least. In an ideal forum, these bans wouldn't have to happen at all. But this forum is far from perfect, and without the moderation, it would be far worse. So in short, your approach sadly just does not work in practice.
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Thread Speaking of trans issues let's talk about racism and the general disregard of brands when we call them out for it.
Thanks for making these threads, OP. I mulled over whether or not I should post, as I don't want to derail or shift focus as a staff member. But as it's something I care about, and I also see myself as an active member of this community who is affected by these issues, I wanted to say something. This might sound surprising, but even as an admin, I feel very dejected and even depressed by the attitudes displayed at times. As someone who's been on the team since very early on, I *have* noticed somewhat of a culture shift for the better when it comes to discussing minority issues over the years, but... that kind of just speaks to how bad it was before, more than anything else. I hope that in time that the culture will shift enough that it truly becomes a space where women and minorities can feel comfortable. That means staff have to continue to improve, but yeah, it'll take a conscious effort and empathy from the community as well. More than anything, I just want to say that I feel where you're coming from, that it sucks a lot, and I'm sorry.
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Thread Considering all the stories that have come out regarding the misogyny and harassment at Insomniac, will you buy their next game?
Nothing good ever comes from these types of threads, so we're locking this.
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Thread "Fuck Frank": A Lesson in Orientalism and "Whitemansplaining"
Yeah, this is right. A lot of people come to the UK to work, sometimes temporarily. I've never heard the term expat being used here, however... which does make it suspect to me. I have indeed only heard it being used for westerners, particularly white westerners, working in Asian or Middle Eastern countries.
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Thread 'Disclosure: Trans Lives on Screen' now on Netflix | "Having cis men play trans women [in film] is a direct link to the violence against trans women"
Yeah, it's mentioned in the quote in my post .
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Thread 'Disclosure: Trans Lives on Screen' now on Netflix | "Having cis men play trans women [in film] is a direct link to the violence against trans women"
A big recent one was Scarlett Johansson being hired to play a trans man, which she eventually turned down after receiving a ton of criticism. But there is another example in the clip in the OP. There have even been cases where a trans actress said trans actors are turned down despite being trans because they don't look "trans enough". Which really reveals the awful thought process that a lot of cis people have when casting for trans roles.
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Thread 'Disclosure: Trans Lives on Screen' now on Netflix | "Having cis men play trans women [in film] is a direct link to the violence against trans women"
One of the big issues is that... trans people simply aren't getting opportunities. While cis women are fighting for equal pay, many trans people simply would be happy to be paid at all, because they're not getting any opportunities in the first place. That's part of what makes shows like Pose so wonderful. Maybe there will be a time where trans people get just as many opportunities as cis people, but we don't live in that world, and I'm not sure we will honestly.
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Thread 'Disclosure: Trans Lives on Screen' now on Netflix | "Having cis men play trans women [in film] is a direct link to the violence against trans women"
Yeah, especially as in the cases lined out in the OP, there's the issue of misgendering and perpetuating harmful stereotypes. It affects how trans people are seen and treated in real life.
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Thread 'Disclosure: Trans Lives on Screen' now on Netflix | "Having cis men play trans women [in film] is a direct link to the violence against trans women"
I've been watching Pose recently, and it's truly one of the best shows I've watched. And what I love best about it is that it's been such a great opportunity for so many black and brown trans women and LGBTQ+ folks. The idea that a cis person could best tell the story of a trans person is a heinous lie. This quote from an article about Pose, and more broadly this very topic, is on point: I'll need to check out this documentary.
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Thread "Fuck Frank": A Lesson in Orientalism and "Whitemansplaining"
I'm not American, I'm British, as well as a refugee from a country that was colonised by Britain (and other European countries), so I'm no stranger to whitewashing and imperialistic attitudes myself, but it feels like Vietnam in particular is subject to this thanks to Hollywood. I'm disappointed that Da 5 Bloods fell into the same mistakes too, even though it sought to tell its story from a marginalised perspective. But it did so while not affording the same respect to Vietnamese people.
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Thread Update: Mod Meeting with Asian Diaspora Members
The meeting with the Asian community is in the works, and will be happening soon. We have been actively discussing it with our Asian staff members and Community Relations team, but these things do take time. The meeting with the Black community meeting did not happen until a few months after the meeting with Trans Era either. The fact of the matter is that simply moderating the forum takes up more time than we have as a volunteer team, even at the best of times. But we have been experiencing a global pandemic and global protests. Things are especially difficult at the moment, so yes we haven't been able to have the meeting as quickly as we wanted, but it is not because of a lack of care or effort.
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Thread "I left Insomniac Games because of how they treat women" Ex-Employee speaks out (up: Insomniac responds)
Siiigh... did Insomniac really give themselves a big pat on the back in response to allegations of systemic sexism, while not addressing what steps they have and will take?
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Thread "I left Insomniac Games because of how they treat women" Ex-Employee speaks out (up: Insomniac responds)
Yeah, I just got done reading this thread. My heart goes out to them and the women that suffered while at Insomniac. They're very brave for speaking out. This is a patriarchal, sexist work culture that needs to change, and the people who engaged in it need to be held responsible.
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Thread Min Min revealed as ARMS rep in Smash Ultimate
While there is definitely an issue with the industry as a whole, this is a conscious decision on the part of Sakurai and the Smash team. That's something that should be acknowledged as well. There are characters that they could have added but didn't. Twintelle is just the latest example, and a big part of the frustration is because she seemed like our last chance. For example, I'm not sure why Fire Emblem has so many damn reps, and we didn't get, say, Urbosa from BotW despite Zelda being one of their tent pole franchises. She isn't black, but she would have fulfilled some positive dark skinned brown representation (which is also very under represented in Smash). Even if they had to go with FE:TH, Claude could have been a viable pick too. We could have gotten Elma, or even Marina. People will make excuses for why these characters didn't get in, because they always do, but let's be honest and say that Sakurai could have picked them if he wanted to. We got Cloud Strife even though he hadn't appeared on a Nintendo system at that point, which was a supposed rule back then.
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Thread Min Min revealed as ARMS rep in Smash Ultimate
I've seen a lot of rightful frustration in this thread about grouping all Asians together, but people are doing the same thing with Black people. We are also made up of many different ethnicities, backgrounds and nationalities. Even within one African country, you can have several different ethnicities, each with their own distinct culture and history. When people talk about the lack of Black representation, they are talking about the lack of ANY of us. I think it's important to see where this frustration is coming from. Right now, Black people don't have any representation at all in Smash, but Asians do. You can be happy for the inclusion of Chinese character and also realise that Black representation is even more dire in Smash.Yes, honestly this. And just last week I was arguing for the merit of the term BIPOC with other black folks on this forum. I think it definitely can have its place in uniting people of colour against white supremacy, but the issue is that it is too often used to stifle Black concerns.
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Thread Min Min revealed as ARMS rep in Smash Ultimate
There's something that I'm not sure is coming across, and it's something I'd like to touch on. When people say they are disappointed with this pick, or with the lack of representation, it's because the type of representation that was completely missing from Smash was dark skinned characters. Black and Brown characters. Why is that? Because there appears to be a hatred for and rejection of dark skin, and it isn't just an issue with Smash. It's a world wide problem. Like I said earlier, the only character who sort of counts is Ganondorf, but many do not consider him enough or really an example of representation for a few reasons. As for Black characters, there isn't a single representative at all. And yes, Black people are also made up of different ethnicities and nationalities too. We are also not all the same. But the fact that we are happy to settle with anyone vaguely Black says a lot about how poor our representation is. Is Min Min a person of colour and Chinese? Yes, absolutely. And it's wonderful that many people feel represented by her, and welcome her inclusion. But it's important to also understand why many Black people do not feel comfortable with the term "POC", or even "BIPOC". This is because even if all people of colour suffer under white supremacy, we do not suffer in the same ways, or to the same extent. We are not marginalised in the exact same manner. When it comes to racism, Black skin is degraded the most. And yet these terms (POC / BIPOC) are sometimes used to dismiss Black perspectives, or to placate us when our specific needs aren't met in favour of others. It's important to express this disappointment without dismissing others, or equating Asian characters with White ones, of course. But please understand where this disappointment is coming from, and why it isn't necessarily going to be alleviated with Min Min as an inclusion.
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Thread Min Min revealed as ARMS rep in Smash Ultimate
The staff post was more about people saying she isn't Chinese or a minority, as it isn't for non-Chinese people to say she doesn't represent them. I think even if we're rightly disappointed, we can't speak for other minorities on whether they feel represented by her or not. I like Min Min as a character (I'd say she's my second favourite), but I'm disappointed by this pick for the same reasons you are. It's fine to talk about that. There is a serious issue with colourism and racism in Smash when it comes to dark skinned characters, with the complete lack of black characters, and the only potential brown character being Ganondorf who is not only evil personified, but isn't even human-looking in most Zelda games in his Ganon form. I understand why others are happy with Min Min as the pick, and she definitely does serve a form of representation, but that doesn't mean there isn't a glaring issue in Smash, and Nintendo games in general. These are all things we can discuss in this thread. The staff post wasn't meant to group "PoC" together as much as address several issues. Anyway, I feel your sadness and disappointment. As a black woman I was particularly excited, and am a fan of Twintelle.
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Thread Min Min revealed as ARMS rep in Smash Ultimate
I'm a black woman who was excited to have Twintelle as a rep, and many black members were equally and vocally excited. I've seen no one bring up her "ass" as a reason to have her as a rep. Get the hell out of here with this concern trolling. We can and do want both things.
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Thread Do you still play Animal Crossing?
Yeah, still play for up to an hour daily doing daily tasks like flowering, checking shops, checking with NPCs I have, etc. There are are days where I'm not in the mood to play anything else, but I'm always in the mood to play AC. Finally got all of my fossils last week.
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Thread Game Ownership - How important is it to you?
Yeah, agreed. I've slowed down on buying special editions as I've noticed most of the time, I don't look at the merch again or even really care about it a year down the line, so it just becomes clutter. Some franchises I've loved my entire life, so of course I know I'll still feel good about those special editions if I really want them.
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Thread Boris Johnson Has Picked Munira Mirza,Who Believes Istitutional Racism Doesn't Exist, To Set Up The Commission On Racial Inequality
Infuriating, but it's what the people of this country chose, knowing full well that Johnson is an overt racist and supporter of colonialism.
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Thread Black pastor who called 911 after being attacked and threatened by 5 white people, arrested by cops, attackers waved at pastor when taken away by cops
:/ I'm glad the poor man was released and physically unharmed, because this story could have sadly gone worse. But this is a really shameful example of systemic racism and should have never happened.
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Thread Little Devil Inside has some troubling African caricatures [up: developer response, see threadmarks]
What is it with people and jumping to be the first to be dismissive and tone police concerns? You can't take a second to just sit back and listen?
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Thread Spider-Man: Miles Morales is *not* an expansion/enhancement/remaster, despite a Sony executive's comments. Insomniac confirms it's a standalone game.
This is what I was hoping for (and initially assumed). I don't really have a desire to play through all of Spiderman again, so I'm happy.
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Thread For people that don't like the PS5's aesthetic design. What should it look like according to you? Photoshop experts especially welcome.
Honestly, the fact that it's white is what bothers me the most. It would stand out a lot in comparison to everything else, including my TV and TV stand. But I'm sure there will be a black one, at least eventually. So I'll get that.
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Thread My Friend Just Learned She's a TERF
I think one issue with your friend's line of thought is that she's looking at those pre transition years as a luxury and privilege, when it's anything but for trans women. I'm a black cis woman. I've faced a ton of misogyny since birth, sometimes in ways that a trans woman wouldn't before transitioning (as others have already pointed out, you can still experience misogyny before transitioning). But I'm not going to pretend that my pain and marginalisation was greater than that of trans women, and black trans women in particular. We all suffer under patriarchy, sometimes in different ways, sometimes in the same ways. Your friend lacks perspective.
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Thread My Friend Just Learned She's a TERF
Others have already stated in the thread that it isn't just about how society views you, but also how you view yourself. A trans woman is going to internalise messages meant for women, whether they have transitioned or not. It's not like transitioning turns on the 'woman' switch in their brains. They already knew they were women before that. So no they can't personally give birth to a child, but I don't think that means that misogynistic stereotypes of what a woman has to be doesn't affect them. This stereotype can bring about a different kind of pain for some. The pain of not being able to fit into society's mould of a woman in this way. I don't think anyone is arguing that trans women have the exact same experiences. They don't. But they are still harmed by patriarchy in all its forms. Sometimes in ways that I as a cis woman am not. The hatred that trans women experience is often rooted in the idea that masculinity and maleness is superior, after all.
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Thread Pressure increases to remove Cecil Rhodes (white supremacist) statute in Oxford
Why do people keep saying this? It's utter nonsense. These statues weren't put up as a reminder of Britain's history, they were put up to specifically commemorate these individuals. They don't even have any context of their vile actions and views. Someone would have to do research to find out. In the thread about the Churchill statue being defaced, many posters said they weren't aware of the things he'd done and said until I posted a Twitter thread outlining a lot of it. If you're so concerned about history, you'd argue for it to be in British schools instead of whitewashing our past in history classes. And as someone else already mentioned, putting up statues that don't idolise monsters, but instead their victims.
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Thread Ontario, Canada: Young Black Man Struggling With Schizophrenia Called 9-11 for Help, Cops Showed up Tased Him and Then Shot Him Dead In His Own Home
This is absolutely tragic. It's so sad to see how mental health is stigmatised all over the world. But this is a gross overreaction even when keeping that in mind. Killing a man who called you for help...
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Thread Marques Brownlee (MKBHD, the biggest black tech YouTuber) reflects on the color of his skin and this week in racial politics
I haven't watched this episode yet (still catching up on this season), but Hasan Minhaj is awesome.
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Thread What can Asians in the US do to better help Blacks in the US right now?
Hasan Minhaj goes into this a bit in this episode of The Patriot Act. I'm not Asian, I'm black, but I found it quite powerful. Hasan Minhaj is a great ally to black folks in general and I appreciate him a lot. Beyond that, I just want to thank you for making this thread, OP. We should all be allies to one another and try to be supportive and understanding of our unique struggles.
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Thread "Black Lives Matter" painted in huge letters to 16th Street of Washington DC, mayor gave her approval(Renamed BLM Plaza)
They do, and gestures can understandably mean a lot to the people they're for. But it can't stop there, or it becomes an empty gesture.
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Thread Bethesda shows its ass regarding Pride Awareness Month
This kind of rhetoric makes me feel uncomfortable too, for the same reason others have expressed in this thread. Especially as it obviously doesn't just relate to video games. Someone brought up sanctions earlier in the thread. LGBT+ people in these countries would surely be affected by this just as much as a bigot, with no guarantee the governments will actually change. And despite our own countries being involved in heinous actions including war crimes and illegal wars, none of us would want the same thing to be applied to us. I say this as a pansexual woman myself, but also someone who was a refugee and comes from a country where LGBT+ people are very much oppressed. I just think it isn't well thought out, even if well intentioned.
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Thread Activist lays out the history of black capitalism and the case for riots and looting: "You broke the social contract, so fuck your Target"
I've watched the full clip a few times today and it gave me literal chills each time.
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Thread Noname (rapper) asks new white followers to leave if they won't provide resources, including inevitable seizure of family estate/assets
Hey, you're derailing this thread right now to the point it's no longer about the topic at all. Please knock it off.
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Thread "Black lives matter/human rights/equality isn't political!"
Because those ("keep politics out of my games") people don't see privileged groups as political. A male protagonist isn't political. A heterosexual couple in a game isn't political. Only women and minorities are. It's just an argument to keep women and minorities in their place. They see the pleas for representation as unnecessary and uncomfortable, so they try to shuffle into something separate from their hobby. So when people say that, they're just trying to shut down those tired bigoted arguments by saying "we exist just like you, this isn't controversial or something that should be disputed". I think it's just as simple as that, though I get where you're coming from.
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Thread Noname (rapper) asks new white followers to leave if they won't provide resources, including inevitable seizure of family estate/assets
Yeah, the angry dismissal without even attempting to understand what she means is something.
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Thread Noname (rapper) asks new white followers to leave if they won't provide resources, including inevitable seizure of family estate/assets
Hmm, I'm not sure, but adding additional tweets to the OP might help to curb some of the knee jerk responses.
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Thread Noname (rapper) asks new white followers to leave if they won't provide resources, including inevitable seizure of family estate/assets
Seriously. I'm not expecting everyone to agree, even with the full context. But it's the jumping straight to angry and aggressive dismissal without even attempting to understand what she's saying that gets to me, especially from white folks.
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Thread Noname (rapper) asks new white followers to leave if they won't provide resources, including inevitable seizure of family estate/assets
Weird that you have more sympathy and understanding for Kanye West than her. It would maybe help to read the thread.
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Thread Marques Brownlee (MKBHD, the biggest black tech YouTuber) reflects on the color of his skin and this week in racial politics
Why would you, as a black man, not only congratulate someone who is clearly a massive racist but also encourage others to follow them? That's making a statement, that you don't care.
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Thread Pokemon makes statement: #BlackLivesMatter, $100k to NAACP and BLM each.
We can focus on both things. But I agree with your conclusion. I didn't post in the Nintendo thread, but their vague language stood out to me. I think explicitly calling out George Floyd died is better for increasing social awareness. He was murdered because of racism. Pokemon company doing this doesn't mean they are necessarily sincere, but I appreciate it more than a more lukewarm response all the same. I recognise that a company can say all the right things and still not follow up on it, though.
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Thread Pokemon makes statement: #BlackLivesMatter, $100k to NAACP and BLM each.
This picture is often used to explain the differences between the two:Basically, equality is treating everyone exactly the same. Equity is making sure everyone has access to what they need to be on the same playing field.
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Thread Pokemon makes statement: #BlackLivesMatter, $100k to NAACP and BLM each.
I get you. We should be wary of multi-billion dollar corporations as a default, as they're in the business of making money and not to do the right thing. It took some pressure for TPC to even make this statement. I do feel like this is a net plus for the cause overall, though. We just can't get complacent about it.
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Thread Pokemon makes statement: #BlackLivesMatter, $100k to NAACP and BLM each.
Ah, I didn't know that. That's cool. Them actually mentioning BLM and systemic racism was good. I noticed Nintendo's one was careful not to mention either of these things, and instead used more vague terms.
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Thread Black Lives Matter Everywhere - Police Killings In Germany
It's pretty pathetic how many try to ignore Britain's history of white supremacy. I mean, we don't even have to look to the past. We just last year elected this man:^ About Africa and Africans. Just to quote a few of his past statements. So yeah, George is right. It's pretty pathetic that people need to be educated about their own history and country, particularly when there have already been movements and efforts to bring these issues to the forefront.
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Thread The way we talk about China
In my experience, pinning a thread early on kills the discussion somewhat. People tend to glaze over the pins after a while, so I'd recommend that more for slow moving discussions. But we can certainly pin it once the discussion slows down a bit, as we've done for other important discussion threads. I agree with you about us needing to do a lot more to address ignorance on this topic, and that's something the mod team is currently working towards.
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Thread The way we talk about China
The thing is, I don't think you're being any less critical of the CCP by specifying them instead of just "China", which is the point that I've seen brought up by Asian members. I don't think the point is to be less critical, but more specific to avoid xenophobic and racist backlash.
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Thread The way we talk about China
Thanks for taking the time to make this thread, wandering. I know it isn't easy to share something vulnerable like this. I hope the community at large can become better at listening to concerns from Asian members, and not being instantly dismissive of issues. It would be a much more welcoming place to marginalised members if we stopped and listened to affected parties instead of speaking over them and rushing to get our hot takes in. There's a lot that I relate to in what you said, being of a Muslim and refugee (but not Asian) background myself. From the identity crisis, to the feeling of shame and feeling othered. But there's a lot that is unique to the Asian and Chinese diaspora community as well. Thank you again for sharing this, I got a little emotional reading it. It's a complex issue, but that's all the more reason why we should listen to the perspectives of Asian members first and foremost.
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Thread University of Miami teacher resigns after students notice "Busty college girl fu..." bookmark in Zoom class
Pretty much this. I think a lot of the men replying in this thread aren't thinking about this from the perspective of the female students who said they were uncomfortable. And bear in mind that sexual harassment is something women have to deal with at much higher rates, especially at this age. I don't think this says enough to make a definitive statement about his character, especially without knowing what the specific video was, but resigning was the right call given the difference in power and the discomfort he'd put at least some of his female students in.
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Thread New Evidence Supporting Credibility Of Tara Reade’s Allegation Against Joe Biden Emerges
Yeah, I don't know how anyone can say "it's never just one unless they get caught". It's completely impossible to know that, when often, sexual assault is never reported. Whether a mindset is common or not does not justify it or make it right, either. There is such a thing as rape culture. This kind of thinking is incredibly harmful, and gives victims even less of a reason to come forward unless they know there have been other victims, and that these victims are willing to come forward with them. Many rapists and sexual harassers appear to be 'normal' family people, who have pristine reputations. There isn't one specific type of person who can abuse others.
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Thread Periods in the pandemic (and beyond)
I was worried about running out of supplies during the panic buying period (which thankfully seems to have calmed down now), and got enough supplies to last a couple of months. The really annoying thing though was that due to the theory that ibuprofen and aspirin might be harmful to take if you have COVID-19, the paracetamol has been completely out of stock whenever I've checked any supermarket, which is what I usually take for menstrual cramps (which can be very severe for me, I got sent home from school one time because they were so bad). So I got stuck having to buy really overpriced products specifically for menstrual cramps or for the flu, or migraines etc. Normally I only have to pay like... 40p or something for a pack of paracetamol. I think being stuck at home, and not being as active as I usually am, really made the cramps a lot worse during my last cycle, too. :( So I'm definitely going to try exercising more at home going forward.
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Thread James Gunn releases Meredith Quill's Complete Awesome Mix playlist (Every song he considered for Guardians of the Galaxy Vol's. 1 & 2) on Spotify
Great playlist, enjoyed listening to it a lot. Funnily enough, I rewatched both movies the other day. They're perfect for when you need a mood boost.
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Thread NPD - Animal Crossing: New Horizons has the 3rd highest launch for a Nintendo title, Switch set a new all-time record for hardware unit sales in March
I'm sure many people bought this digitally, so that's really impressive.
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Thread On Voting or Not Voting for Biden in Light of the Sexual Assault Allegations |OT| Discussion Guidelines in OP
Both the title and OP have been updated based on feedback from members. The thread was not Poodlestrike's idea, but two members of the team who are survivors, and wanted to create a discussion OT like I stated. Whether you choose to believe that or not is up to you. But right now the vitriol in this thread has made several women and survivors on the team feel defeated and question why they're even doing this, as no matter what we do, and what we sacrifice (including our mental health in handling triggering subjects), it gets distorted and twisted. I'm not saying we always get things right, because we don't. But we are open to suggestions and feedback, and put our all into this sincerely.
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Thread On Voting or Not Voting for Biden in Light of the Sexual Assault Allegations |OT| Discussion Guidelines in OP
The OP states this:It isn't asking anyone to do anything, it simply attempts to summarise the different positions within the community, and allows members to state their own positions as a general discussion OT with some guidelines. There are sexual assault survivors like myself on the team, and I've had to moderate threads on this issue despite it being triggering for myself. It's upsetting to see insinuations that the team are trying to cape for Biden. Over the past 24 hours we've somehow been accused of being biased against people both for against voting for Biden. The OP states that we're open to suggestions if you feel any of the points are not accurately summarised. I'd also like to ask people to stay on topic, and not bring in cross-forum drama. There are very important discussions to be had here, so the thread should stay on topic. There are a lot of reports, and we'll be reviewing them all.
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Thread UK coronavirus discussion (up: 25 March briefing. Tests prioritised for NHS workers, 'not available on the internet next week')
That's what confuses me, since she apparently had trouble breathing.Black women in particular do face this kind of discrimination, so I wondered the same thing. It's tragic news, regardless. I can't view any of these people as statistics. They are human beings with families, loved ones and lives that they wanted to live.
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Thread UK coronavirus discussion (up: 23 March- Boris: ‘a very simple instruction – you must stay at home’. Restrictions for 3 wks (See threadmark)
Yeah I'm watching with them too.
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Thread GiftBot's Gaming Giveaways |OT| Free to a good home! No begging, requests, or taking advantage
It isn't harsh when someone has obviously signed up just to abuse this feature and essentially the kindness of others, which a review of their wins, posts and overall behaviour suggested.
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Thread UK coronavirus discussion (up: 20 March- schools closed. Pubs etc closed 14 days then reviewed. Sunak's economic plan- see threadmarks)
Not sure if this was already posted, but it gave me a well needed laugh.
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Thread PS4 BC on the PS5 to work on “overwhelming majority” of the library, games to benefit from improved frame rates and resolutions
That's promising. Looks like I might be able to move from PS4 to PS5 more quickly.
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Thread Summary of February 2020 meeting between the Black Community & ResetEra Staff and an update on our Community Relations team
While there are some contexts where being a specific minority may factor in, in terms of simply being dismissive towards minorities, that wouldn't be the case. For example, me being black doesn't give me the right to be flippant or insensitive towards the very valid concerns and fears of other black people.
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Thread Easy Allies |OT3| Begin corrections music, please...
Don't think I've posted yet in OT3. Hey. Pretty much passed out in the evening yesterday and woke up to the news. I was surprised by how much it hit me. Easy Allies have gotten me through some very hard times, and I can usually count on them to cheer me up or put a smile on my face. Kyle and his particular brand of humour was a big part of that. Watching him talk it out on Twitch did help a lot, though (and talking to the lovely people in the Era discord). Despite how much I'll miss his presence in EZA (and damn, do I already miss him), I'm excited for him and wish him all of the best. I hope the change in scenery and routine will give him some purpose and happiness once again. I'll continue to watch and support EZA, and when he's ready, I'll tune into his streams. Love and respect.
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Thread Easy Allies |OT3| Begin corrections music, please...
I was just thinking about how much last week's Easy Update cracked me up, and how the other allies' humour, while different, also brought me a lot of joy. And then I remembered we probably wouldn't get a Kyle and Ian new years Easy Update again.
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Thread Who has Saddest Flashback Story? Chopper, Robin or Brook?
It was sadder than Robin's for me, though Robin's was really heartbreaking (the "I want to live" part is iconic). There are a lot of good flashbacks in One Piece though tbh. Like... one of the saddest ones for me wasn't even for recurring characters, let alone one of the Straw Hats. The Norland and Calgara one from the Skypiea saga hits me so hard. I remember One Piece reaching a new height for me when I read that for the first time. The fact that it made me feel so much for a couple of characters who were so far in the past, and we'd only just seen. It's also one of the biggest reasons why Skypiea is one of my favourite sagas.
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Thread What is the impact on Indie Devs with the current event cancellations?
Yeah, I was wondering the same thing myself earlier. Cancelling E3 was of course the responsible and good thing to do, but it's easy to see that it'll have the biggest impact on indie developers and small studios. I imagine it'll be rough for small / new YouTube gaming coverage channels as well, who will have already booked their tickets and may not be reimbursed. I hope the developers at least will find a way to signal boost their games. Some will at least be featured in the big publisher videos.
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Thread [BBC] In China, Uighurs 'moved into factory forced labour' for foreign brands Apple, Google, Microsoft, Nintendo, Sony
Muslims (and really anyone who cares about human rights abuses and atrocities) shouldn't have to be subjected to reading such posts because some people may find it educational to see them rebutted. It's pretty privileged to suggest otherwise.
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Thread New York state will immediately begin producing hand sanitizer providing it to government agencies, schools, the MTA, prisons, & others
Thanks for at least going into it with the intention to learn. I hope you find it informative.
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Thread New York state will immediately begin producing hand sanitizer providing it to government agencies, schools, the MTA, prisons, & others
I was the one who recommended that documentary. :P But yes, please watch it, it's very informative on this subject. The entire system is corrupt and is built to funnel people of colour into the prison system. Precisely as a way to profit. Regardless of the animosity you feel for actual monsters like child sex abusers, that shouldn't lead us to supporting systems that are meant to oppress and dehumanise others just because they've been imprisoned or committed a crime. The laws are sometimes written precisely because they want to not only lock up black people, but imprison them for longer. America has a for profit prison system and also almost a quarter of the incarcerated people in the world, despite having less than 5% of its population. That isn't a coincidence, it's the system working as intended.
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Thread New York state will immediately begin producing hand sanitizer providing it to government agencies, schools, the MTA, prisons, & others
I suggest you watch the Netflix documentary . And I'd recommend the same to anyone endorsing prison labour.
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Thread New York state will immediately begin producing hand sanitizer providing it to government agencies, schools, the MTA, prisons, & others
This is ignoring the issue of mass incarceration in America, with for-profit prisons (which is wildly immoral in and of itself). You're at best deluding yourself if you think the racially profiled minority people who are in prisons are all meant to be there, and for as long as they are, and that they deserve to be subjected to glorified slavery.
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Thread International Women's Day 2020: We're here for our RIGHTS, but not for your purplewashing.
Just want to take a moment to talk about the struggles of black women, and how we're conditioned to not see our own beauty and worth. A couple of tweets I came across recently which highlight this (which thankfully had a happy ending).
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Thread International Women's Day 2020: We're here for our RIGHTS, but not for your purplewashing.
Amen. --- The Guardian have some great pictures showing events from around the world. A few that I really enjoyed: Police detain activists from the FEMEN women’s movement in Victory Square Photograph: Igor Kovalenko/EPA Women march to call for an end to Rodrigo Duterte’s government Photograph: Jes Aznar/Getty Images Migrants at the Turkish border show their respect Photograph: Anadolu Agency/via Getty Images A rally held under the 2020 theme ‘each for equality’ Photograph: Ulet Ifansasti/Getty Images Women celebrate in Tahrir Square Photograph: Sabah Arar/AFP via Getty Images Women gather to mark International Women’s Day Photograph: Aamir Qureshi/AFP via Getty Images Female members of the General Confederation of Labour (CGT) demand equality Photograph: Pascal Rossignol/Reuters A member of the Landless Workers Movement calls for gender equality Photograph: Sergio Lima/AFP via Getty Images There are many more, !
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Thread Summary of February 2020 meeting between the Black Community & ResetEra Staff and an update on our Community Relations team
Yeah, we got this feedback at the end of the last meeting, and I apologise for that. As someday said, we got many PMs and messages requesting access during the meeting, and granted them all. But this wasn't clear enough, and that was a mistake on our part. We've been brainstorming since then and have thought of ways to improve on this in the future, and make sure as many people get the chance to have their voices heard. Both of the meetings we've had thus far have been a learning experience for us.
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Thread In response to some of my old posts that have been dug up
I wouldn't assume someone changed just because. But if they have shown me nothing but the opposite over the 2 years that I've known them, then it's a different matter. I would not be exaggerating if I said he's one of the people who goes hardest on racism, transphobia and all kinds of bigotry, for example. And gives the minority staff from those backgrounds full reign and support to do the same. He's frankly, extremely ashamed of those posts. I understand that that doesn't mean that you have to forgive him. That's something everyone has to decide on their own. I'm just giving context for my own feelings on the matter. If I had any doubts, I wouldn't be here right now.
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Thread In response to some of my old posts that have been dug up
I can assure you that no one has expressed a lack of faith or discomfort with him. He's always taken the concerns of minorities seriously, has shown compassion and kindness to us, and has pushed to have our voices heard. I quoted you because I felt comfortable wading into the thread. I'm not going to ask or expect for anyone else to do that, though.
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Thread In response to some of my old posts that have been dug up
I posted this in the announcement thread for his promotion. In the time Dubs has been GM, he's only exceeded my expectations. I stand by everything I said, and won't speak for others on the team, but I know I'm not alone on that.
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Thread [BBC] In China, Uighurs 'moved into factory forced labour' for foreign brands Apple, Google, Microsoft, Nintendo, Sony
That was initially the reason for not sticking it, but when I had a look after being pinged, it seemed like activity had decreased enough that sticking the thread would be beneficial for visibility.
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Thread 9 out of 10 people found to be biased against women - UNDP report
I'm saying it's not the same, and suggesting that it is, is in fact sexist. You know, what this thread is about. You could perhaps try to acknowledge the historic differences between what men and women have had to endure in this thread if nothing else.
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Thread 9 out of 10 people found to be biased against women - UNDP report
Yes... she's perfectly aware it shouldn't be welcome or acceptable, having to spend every day being exposed to sexists posts as a woman. She was explaining what an uphill battle is to moderate this forum, particularly as a woman. We've had female staff trolled and laughed at for trying to clamp down on such behaviour, but that doesn't mean we're going to stop. It just means this isn't something that will be fixed overnight. The issue is a societal one, and it's reflected in the behaviour here. Even if many posters here see themselves as progressive, they blind to their biases and prejudices. You say you're not mansplaining, but yeah, your behaviour was aggressive and condescending. She's fully aware of how bad that all is, she has to work to combat it daily despite the behaviour specifically targeting her as a woman.That makes it doubly tiring, but she still does it. So please be mindful of that.Because it's not the same, in the same way punching up in a playful manner isn't the same as casual bigotry. The difference between the power that women and men hold even today is astronomically different, and that doesn't even begin to dig into the way women have historically been commodified, oppressed and controlled by men. Context will always matter.
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Thread PS5 and Xbox Series speculation |OT12| - Aw hell, Transistor's running this again?
This is the first time I'm properly looking at the OP for one of these threads, and... that's a lot of information. I imagine it took a lot of time to compile, so kudos.
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Thread I'm done being empathetic.
Looking at this exchange, it kind of seems like there's been a misunderstanding, and you're both probably talking about different things. Correct me if I'm wrong , but I think they were simply speaking from a mental health standpoint, i.e. how feeling an overwhelming sense of resentment and bitterness for extended periods of time can take a toll on your mental health. Not that we should pretend everything is fine in the world and do nothing, or that it isn't worth feeling anger against the injustices in the world. I kind of get what they mean, as I went through a similar low period some time ago before I realised that my extreme cynicism wasn't reaching anyone else but only hurting me. But yeah, it's understandable to feel this way when things are going to shit, or you're being hurt. I'd say it's human. Personally what helps motivate me in times of hardship is looking back on what horrors my predecessors went through, and how thanks to their struggles and fights, I have the rights and comforts that I do have today. I try to push myself to do the same for the next generation of people, especially marginalised folks.
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Thread Socialism |OT| The Dawn of a Red Era
Just wanted to say that I feel for you, American friends. I can imagine how crushing a loss would be, having gone through both Brexit and a Labour loss recently over here. My thoughts pretty much went to moving away from here as soon as I could, so I get it. Hopefully it isn't over just yet.
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Thread Summary of February 2020 meeting between the Black Community & ResetEra Staff and an update on our Community Relations team
Completely agreed. I'm really sorry to hear about that, and will pass your feedback on to the team. I can confirm that Asian Era is one of the communities that we plan to reach out to next. I sincerely hope that we can make the forum a much more welcoming place for you all as well.Thank you for the feedback. I'm not sure if such a feature is feasible, but I'll inquire with the tech team after discussing with the rest of the moderation team.
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Thread The Black Culture Community [OT 4] - Melanin and Estrogen - The new Kryptonite
I linked the source in my 'about me' page, but it's this lovely artist that I found thanks to 's thread! The full picture is even more awesome. Seems to be part of a series she's doing of members of a rock band called Acid Blue. Here's some others. I was tempted to use the next one as well, because... damn. I'll put the next ones behind a spoiler so the post isn't too long to scroll past. Love seeing women of colour just being rad.
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Thread The Black Culture Community [OT 4] - Melanin and Estrogen - The new Kryptonite
Hey all, the announcement thread is up: Let me know when you're ready for us to move this over to the main section. It'll be in a special sub-forum (titled Etcetera - Members Only) that mirrors it to ETC main, while also making it invisible to guests / unregistered users.
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Thread Summary of February 2020 meeting between the Black Community & ResetEra Staff and an update on our Community Relations team
As many of you may have seen, we recently had a . During this meeting, the staff had a public discussion where we discussed concerns from the Black Community, and came up with solutions to address these concerns. The entire team would like to thank everyone who took the time to attend this meeting, air their concerns, and helped us come up with solutions to make the forum a more inclusive and welcoming place for you. We state this in the summary below, but this will not be the last of the meetings and communication we have with the Black Community. We also aim to make sure more members are able to take part in future meetings. We've learned a great deal from the past two meetings that we’ve had with the community, and have also developed new tools to assist us in future community outreach efforts. The meeting was a productive experience over all, and it gave us a lot to discuss and ponder over as a team. Before we get to the summary of the meeting, we’d like to take a moment to update you on the status of our Community Relations team, as we mentioned that we’d have more to announce on that this year in our . As stated in that thread, the aim of the Community Relations team will be to act as a committee of staff who are dedicated to community outreach and identifying concerns from the community as they arise. Currently, the Community Relations team is made up of the following staff members: You may notice that there are a few new names. We feel even more equipped to deal with the concerns of the community now with their help. We have also identified a number of communities that we plan to reach out to in the very near future, and will have more to say on that soon.: posts that try to hijack this thread with unrelated issues will be met with moderation. This thread is about the concerns of the Black Community. The following summary was posted within the meeting thread, and contains a list of concerns and the ways that staff aim to address them. Members were given the time and opportunity to weigh in on it.
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Thread Summary of February 2020 meeting between the Black Community & ResetEra Staff and an update on our Community Relations team
Thank you for the feedback. ^^ I'll try to address your questions. Staff will able to if they're making them. It's basically a moderation tool, and meant for staff posts and reminders, so staff will need to enable it. But we're more than happy to do this for threads that warrant it, especially if users bring them to our attention (since we're not always aware of every single thread that's posted).Generally, yeah, we scout volunteers rather than taking applications, so to speak. This is because there's a lot of different things we look at beyond availability, including whether members can offer perspectives we're lacking, any past infractions or posting style etc. But if any users are interested in helping out, they can always reach out via the 'contact us' form and we promise to give it serious consideration. We've thankfully been able to bring on a few new mods recently, and are expecting a few more soon too.
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Thread The Black Culture Community [OT 4] - Melanin and Estrogen - The new Kryptonite
Still haven't played the FF7R demo. Will probably make time tomorrow or something. Not hopeful about Barrett, though.Missy was such an inspiration for me growing up. I grew up in a really white working class area, but thanks to my older siblings, I was constantly exposed to black music.
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Thread The Black Culture Community [OT 4] - Melanin and Estrogen - The new Kryptonite
Sambusa, mmm. Always reminds me of Ramadan with my family.This really escalated out of nowhere. But yeah, the best thing about changing my number recently is not getting these constant cold callers.
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Thread The Black Culture Community [OT 4] - Melanin and Estrogen - The new Kryptonite
I'm financially independent and have lived independently for all of my adult life, which makes things easier. I used to be quite practicing into my late teens, so I can understand how they think and where they're coming from with some things, like why belief is so important to them, which definitely helps as well. But I'll PM you to talk about it in more detail if that's alright.
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Thread The Black Culture Community [OT 4] - Melanin and Estrogen - The new Kryptonite
Hate to disappoint, but not anymore, although I was for most of my life and my family all are. I'm pretty sure I have a third cousin twice removed or something in America that I can introduce you to, though.
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Thread The Black Culture Community [OT 4] - Melanin and Estrogen - The new Kryptonite
Oh, that must be a regional food (I read it's popular in Djibouti) as I haven't had it. Love canjero though which is apparently similar (seems like it's a spiced version of that?). It was always a happy occasion when my mother would make it for breakfast. They're really fluffy and taste great with sweet or savoury toppings. Anyway, don't feel bad. Somalis are known for attending weddings and even funerals for the food so yeah lol.
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Thread REgals [Women of Era] |OT| Episode I: The Female Menace
You don't need to apologise, it's fine to ask questions. That is something we'd action, yeah, as it's dismissing a form of sexism. Sometimes it can take a while for reports to be actioned depending on how many staff are around to handle them, and how many reports there are.
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Thread Hey Era, say something nice about another member!
I want to show appreciation for as well for my current avatar, and for generally being a very nice person. Thanks to for being so helpful and welcoming in my journey into veganism. Same for the rest of the helpful folks from the Vegan community discord. is my favourite Brit and a stand up bloke.
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Thread Let's work together to recover the lost 480p trailer for Donkey Kong Racing that IGN once hosted (UPDATE: Success!)
Reading this thread after the fact was a fun ride. It's really cool that members and IGN staff were able to come together and make this happen.
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Thread Hey Era, say something nice about another member!
I'd like to show appreciation for . You probably don't remember this, but in the first few months of the forum's life, I felt really defeated after seeing some blatant sexism on the forum and vented about in a thread. You gave me a very supportive and encouraging reply, despite not knowing me at all. It's something I appreciated a lot and never forgot, and I think says a lot about your character. Thank you. Throwing some appreciation at for their exemplary taste in everything. is cool I guess.
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Thread The mental health of this community [Read Staff Post Before Posting]
Yeah, I get that. And there's a chance that would work out better. I just meant to explain the apprehension about restructuring the forum again. But thank you for understanding where I'm coming from as well.
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Thread The mental health of this community [Read Staff Post Before Posting]
It was actually more like... there was a new Entertainment section, separate from Etcetera. Etcetera was for everything else, including politics. The Entertainment section covered these topics (including any news related to them, which also meant serious social issues related to them would fit in there): Etcetera covered these topics: There was even a Q&A that mentioned this:The staff quickly recognised that getting rid of the Etcetera hangouts section was a mistake, as it simply wasn't working. But we didn't get the feedback to simply make a hangouts section on top of the entertainment/etcetera sections. We were very clearly and collectively told that things should revert to the way they were, because they were fine as is. So that's what the admin team at the time did (I had no say in the decision as I was a mod at the time, but I did witness how incredibly stressful it was for everyone involved). I can't speak definitively one way or another, and I wouldn't necessarily have anything against such a change myself, but I'm just explaining why the team would be very apprehensive about changing the structure of the forum again. It's a stressful and time consuming enough volunteer position as it is, and every time we get that kind of reaction, it's very taxing on everyone's mental health.
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Thread The mental health of this community [Read Staff Post Before Posting]
That was only part of the complaints. The other part was placing politics into a separate forum where serious issues would go ignored, and there was a lot of disdain for this idea. That's obviously not what the staff were trying to do, and serious topics would still be allowed in an entertainment section (just like they are on gaming side), but this concern still persisted and I can empathise with why. A lot of people really value that such issues garner serious discussion here. Given the intensity of the backlash though, I think it's quite unlikely it will be attempted again. At least any time soon.
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Thread The mental health of this community [Read Staff Post Before Posting]
Yeah I imagine some people weren't around for it, but... the backlash for this was very intense, despite having an announcement thread for it beforehand. People really, really, really didn't like it. I was a mod at the time, and as one of the people who were actually around to help out at the time, it was a very stressful situation to deal with.
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Thread The mental health of this community [Read Staff Post Before Posting]
Yeah, that's the kind of thing we're hoping to do more of. It was a spontaneous idea that ended up being very successful, but that doesn't mean we can't make fun events like that a more regular thing.
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Thread Persona 5 tries to be deep, but it fails
For me it was more the fact that it makes light of the serious themes by undermining them later. Like, Ann being constantly sexually harassed by her own teammates after her arc (and this being played for laughs). Or the theme of the Phantom Thieves being the underdogs fighting against the corrupt adults, but then shitting on one of the most marginalised groups in the world (LGBT+ people). It just made the story fall apart for me, and took me out of the game. I did end up finishing it, and it placed somewhere on the bottom end of my top 10 games of that year, but I was really disappointed by this aspect of the game. There are of course some things it does well, and I enjoyed them.
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Thread Persona 5 tries to be deep, but it fails
Yeah, I'm no stranger to these tropes as someone who's watched a lot of anime. It was still quite disappointing given the themes they were trying to tackle. Like, they wanted us to take them seriously, but also weren't really trying, if that makes sense. I'm always hopeful for progress. I hope the localisation will at least be better going forward, even if Atlus Japan doesn't change. It seems like they've learned some lessons with Persona 5 R.
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Thread The mental health of this community [Read Staff Post Before Posting]
Unfortunately, locking these threads immediately is also rolling the dice, as if someone is seriously considering suicide, there's a good chance they'll feel isolated, abandoned and uncared for. It could also signal to others that they should silently bottle up these feelings, and self harm silently. The repercussions are not always seen, but it's something that has to be considered.
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Thread The mental health of this community [Read Staff Post Before Posting]
This is a fair point, and something I'll raise with the team. One thing to bear in mind though is that something that might seem like good fun to one group, might be alienating to another. For example, we've gotten feedback from female members that certain kinds of threads and posts make the forum seem like a 'boys club', i.e., there's an assumption that there are no women around / locker room talk. That's not to see that there aren't other silly threads that can be left open. I'm not aware of exactly how many of these threads are being locked, but it's something I'll raise with the team. We are however brainstorming ideas on how to uplift the mood on the forum, including hosting more fun events. We'll hopefully have more to say on that in the coming weeks.
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Thread The mental health of this community [Read Staff Post Before Posting]
It's mentioned in the staff post, but we're definitely not just letting the community handle it. Everything you're asking of us, we already do. We not only give them a notice that cannot be dismissed with resources, we reach out via PM and offer both support and more resources. In more serious cases, we take further steps as well. We have several staff members who help run the Mental Health discord, which is a more constant form of peer support. Some members do not always reply to PMs, however, despite being online and active. Everyone is different, and I don't think shutting down one avenue of support is helpful, fair or kind. Speaking personally, I always found the thought of speaking to a stranger on a hotline too intimidating, and I'm not someone who struggles with social anxiety or anything. I find speaking to strangers quite easy. But speaking about something so personal can be hard. It was terrifying speaking to a doctor about it myself, for the first time, and that's thanks to the stigma attached to mental health, more so in some cultures than others. So I can only imagine how much more difficult it can be for someone who has social anxiety for example. We have to keep in mind that everyone is an individual and they're going to reach out for help in the way that is easiest and most comfortable for them. I think it's best to compare these threads as opening up to a friend, rather than seeing professional help. Because yes, even a friend or loved one can say the wrong thing, but that doesn't mean that their emotional support wouldn't be helpful. What I'd love to see happen though is for the culture of the forum to improve. I'll just quote something I said in another thread recently:Our current approach is one that we've taken after speaking to individuals who are affected by these issues as well as those with professional experience. It's one I personally feel has been more effective in helping individuals.
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Thread The mental health of this community [Read Staff Post Before Posting]
I think you're really discounting the potential damage from locking a thread where someone is crying out for help. For one, people with depression often feel like they are a burden to others, and feel too guilty to even reach out for help. That, and that any help is pointless, because things could not possibly get better. Immediately locking these threads can come across as dismissive and isolating, which is he last thing we want to do. I also feel that you're also ignoring the fact that many posts in these threads are specifically urging the OP to seek professional help (or explaining how therapy has helped them), and are merely offering emotional support, not therapy. The idea that locking the thread with a boilerplate message is less damaging to the mental state of a suicidal person than allowing people to express words of comfort and support is something I'm struggling to comprehend. And I say that as someone who has struggled with similar thoughts and feelings as these members. The last thing you want to make someone in this state of mind feel is that they're alone, or a burden to others. Which is the message that instantly locking these threads can send. I understand where the concern is coming from, as there are potential negative consequences no matter what you do. I'm also the type of person who find these threads difficult to read at times, depending on my own mental health, and that informs how much I am able to monitor them myself, or whether I ask other staff members to take over. So I understand that it can be tough to see these threads. But we have to balance everyone's needs, and that includes people who are in need of urgent support. Speaking from personal experience, I often feel too guilty to even talk to close friends and loved ones about my own struggles, since that above mentioned feeling of being a 'burden' pops up. But I'm fortunate to have some kind of support group, and it's thanks to this peer support that I was able to seek professional help, which greatly accelerated my own healing process. This is what peer support does. When someone is in that dark state of mind, even getting professional help can seem pointless. Some people are also incapable of seeking professional help at all based on their circumstances. Engaging with and encouraging members can keep them going until they can get the support that they need. I will also add that if any member sees an unhelpful or insensitive comment in such a thread, please report it. We will at the very least remove the post.
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Thread The mental health of this community [Read Staff Post Before Posting]
We stated this in the staff post, but we would not be able to do this without consulting the community themselves. We've already had two meetings with the MH community and the thread was moved from hangouts to Etcetera main as a result of those meetings, which they felt had positive results. We're discussing making a sticky thread with resources linked, however.
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Thread The mental health of this community [Read Staff Post Before Posting]
I came into this thread to weigh in as a staff member, but see there's unfortunately a lot of posts using the thread to complain about how strict moderation is or 'cancel culture'. This is a serious and sensitive discussion that should not be hijacked in such a way, and to do so shows an incredible lack of empathy and self awareness. We're going to lock the thread temporarily while we evaluate the reports.
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Thread Having finished my backlog made me realize: I don’t want to go back and replay the games that I have
At this point, I've made peace with the fact that I'll never complete my backlog (especially my digital one). But I typically don't have the urge to replay games either. Even games I truly loved, with some rare exceptions. Like, I immediately replayed Pyre as soon as I finished it. Most of the time, though, I want to try a new experience.
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Thread The Black Culture Community [OT 4] - Melanin and Estrogen - The new Kryptonite
Yeah... it requires a lot of empathy and self awareness. It personally pains me when I see marginalised folks being unable to empathise with other marginalised folks. Going through something hard always made it easier for me to empathise with others, but for some people it doesn't really go beyond how that particular issue affects them and that's it. It's also sometimes just an ignorance thing and not empathy thing though.
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Thread America: 68-year old woman turns to OnlyFans & sex work to pay for medical bills and food for herself and her disabled son
This is tragic. :/ It's sad that her country has failed her to this extent. I hope she can get the money she needs.
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Thread The Black Culture Community [OT 4] - Melanin and Estrogen - The new Kryptonite
Thanks for the recommendations, guys! I'll have to make a list of the ones that seem like they'll appeal to me most. At the moment I'm thinking I'll check out Claymore first, and...Now this looks like my kind of content. Definitely checking this out first. :PYeaaah. When I was younger, I had a bit more patience for this stuff even though it made me uncomfortable, but seeing it get progressively worse in the same series is just disappointing.Awesome stuff. I have a cosplayer friend who will love this. :>Hey, welcome back. Coincidentally I came across a thread of yours the other day and was sad to see you hadn't posted in a while.
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Thread GiftBot's Gaming Giveaways |OT| Free to a good home! No begging, requests, or taking advantage
Hah, you wouldn't be the first one to be confused about it. When it comes to this thread though, feel free to make as many posts as you need to not be a lurker. Other threads though, especially community threads, that's very frowned upon (since typically when someone makes a giveaway there, it's for that specific community).
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Thread GiftBot's Gaming Giveaways |OT| Free to a good home! No begging, requests, or taking advantage
It's meant more as an option for community threads, but some people still activate it. But basically, you just need 5 posts in the thread to not be a lurker.
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Thread The Black Culture Community [OT 4] - Melanin and Estrogen - The new Kryptonite
Yeah I think I need to do the same with One Piece tbh. It's been so long. But when I first got into it, it was not too long after the timeskip. And I was so hooked I read the whole thing in a couple of weeks, then proceeded to watch the anime in a few months. And it just felt like a grand adventure. I'm not going to bother with the anime this time lol, because frankly I don't have the time, and I recall the animation went downhill anyway (stopped watching around Punk Hazard). But I'd really like to refresh myself on the manga. I haven't read the Hunter x Hunter manga, but I watched the remake anime (2011 I think?), and it's one of my faves. Always liked Canaria's design. FMA I own the entire manga for, and have watched FMA: Brotherhood a few times. It's probably my second favourite after One Piece. It's good. Enjoyed what I read/watched of OPM, but I need to catch up on that too. It's been years on the manga especially. The manga is so aesthetically pleasing that I honestly wanted to buy hard copies of it and just flick through it before. The rest I haven't seen. Well, Jojo I watched the first episode of the anime and there was an animal cruelty scene that traumatised me, and I don't even own any pets. ;-; I always hear it's amazing though, so I should probably give it another chance. I've heard good things about some of the others you listed too, like Aggretsuko and Mob Psycho. Like mentioned earlier, I dislike animes that have excessive fanservice. One Piece is pretty much the only one I begrudgingly make an exception for, because I enjoy the story that much. Which reminds me, the last time I really tried to watch something was Seven Deadly Sins on Netflix, and was put off so much by the sexual harassment stuff played for laughs that I had to drop it (it didn't make it any better that the female character in question had like, zero agency whatsoever when this stuff happened).That's good to know, about the choices. Besides the typical shounen stuff, I'm fairly open minded and into a variety of genres, regardless of who the main target audience is.
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Thread The Black Culture Community [OT 4] - Melanin and Estrogen - The new Kryptonite
She really does. It's wild looking back at the early episodes and seeing what she turned into. I appreciate that Oda at least doesn't attempt romance, because those can be so incredibly cringe in other popular shounen series, and the female characters' motivations basically end up revolving around their male love interests.
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Thread The Black Culture Community [OT 4] - Melanin and Estrogen - The new Kryptonite
I need to get back into anime/manga. Really fell off of it a few years ago for some reason. There are some legit great ones, though. Probably going to start off with catching up on One Piece.
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Thread Anyone else try PC gaming only to fail hard and go back to their comfy Console?
Maybe I'm lucky, but I've never had issues with constantly fiddling with games to make them run (or run well). At least not any modern game. So, some of the posts in this thread come across as a tad hyperbolic or outdated.
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Thread Animal Crossing: New Horizons lets you change your appearance at any time, and appears to not force a gender choice on your character
I noticed that they chose to have a person of colour on the cover, too. It does seem like they're focusing a bit more on diversity during the pre-release campaign too, for example, the recent direct.
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Thread Animal Crossing: New Horizons lets you change your appearance at any time, and appears to not force a gender choice on your character
That's a really nice touch. Good on Nintendo. Being able to play as a black girl was one of the best things about Pocket Camp, so I'm excited I can do so in a proper animal crossing game. On a similar note, since it sounds like more hairstyles can be unlocked, I hope there'll be some nice curly hair options. That seems to be missing from the base options.
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Thread The Black Culture Community [OT 4] - Melanin and Estrogen - The new Kryptonite
That would be really cool. I come from a Muslim background, so the fact that there's such a positive representation for Muslim girls in a Marvel series is awesome and not something I had growing up. When I looked up the public reception for it, it seemed to be really positive, too.
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Thread The Black Culture Community [OT 4] - Melanin and Estrogen - The new Kryptonite
I rewatched Spiderverse for the first time since watching it in theatres. I forgot how good it was. From the phenomenal animation, to the soundtrack, to the characters and writing. The memories of feeling proud to see a black Spiderman on the big screen came back to me too. And Miles is such a great character. It made me want to get into the Miles Moales comics, though, but I've never read any comics before. What would be a good one to start with?
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Thread VeganERA |OT| Eat your veggies
I know this is just good ol' capitalism at work, but it put a smile on my face to see vegans being advertised to more like this. Kind of makes it feel like many more people are becoming vegans. (Was having a browse of Sainsbury's website, and there was this banner staring at me).
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Thread The Black Culture Community [OT 4] - Melanin and Estrogen - The new Kryptonite
Thanks. I really appreciate it. I'm trying to schedule a proper break for myself soon. My mental health has really taken a hit lately. I'm glad you're taking care of yourself too. Sometimes we just need a break, or a change of pace / scenery.
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Thread REgals [Women of Era] |OT| Episode I: The Female Menace
Regarding makeup, I'm similar to Delphine in that I started wearing it late. Even later than her, actually! I used to only wear makeup at big events like weddings, but never on a regular day while out and about. I started wearing it as kind of a form of self care, and like Delphine, it's also had a positive effect on my self image without makeup. Soon after I started noticing my best features even while makeupless, or even just after rolling out of bed. I'd smile more when looking in the mirror. Like "hey, you look cute!" So I think makeup can be a really positive tool at times. I'd say I still don't wear makeup while out at least 70% of the time, and feel zero pressure to. When I do, it's because I want to pamper myself a bit. My partner doesn't care either way if I wear it, but I have to remind him that I'm doing it for myself and not him at times haha. But I know for many, many other women, there's a lot of pressure to wear it (or not wear it, in some cases... funnily enough that was the case for me growing up), and that really sucks.
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Thread REgals [Women of Era] |OT| Episode I: The Female Menace
Fwiw I'd be really sad if you left. :( *hugs* It always saddens me when I look through this thread and see members who have either left the forum entirely or become very inactive. I'm not a day 1 staff member like Morrigan (joined like 3 months in), but as sad as it is to say, things used to be even worse here. I remember when female staff would get mass trolled (I mean genuine coordinated trolling from discords) by men just for trying to curtail blatant boys club behaviour on gaming side, for example. We were even polite about it. I'd like to (perhaps naively) believe that we're past that point now. There's still so much more progress that needs to be made though, so I understand... especially as this stuff wears on you over time. Even if things are marginally better than they used to be, you've already been worn down by all the bullshit, and that can't be magically undone. And like I said, there's still so much progress to be done. So I get it. I seem to have missed a couple of threads (been on a short break from moderation for my mental health), but if there's more we can be doing, please let us know. And feel free to use this thread as your safe haven when need be.
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I teared up a bit reading this. Thank you for sharing it, and I'm sorry for what you've had to endure. I have a similar hair type to yours, so I can relate to what you have to do to maintain it, including not washing it every day. It'd be dry af if I did. My hair always looks better on the day after I've washed it compared to the first day because of my natural hair oils too. I'm glad you love your hair, because it's beautiful. Much love to my fellow women of colour.
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Thread The Black Culture Community [OT 4] - Melanin and Estrogen - The new Kryptonite
Hey y'all. Just as a heads up, an update was posted in the BCC meeting thread. Sorry for the hold up on that. Let us know what you think. Once that happens, we can make the announcement thread for it.
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Thread The Black Culture Community [OT 4] - Melanin and Estrogen - The new Kryptonite
She's gorgeous. I was lucky to not get wrapped up in colourism growing up, even though it's unfortunately a thing even in PoC communities (often, but not always, thanks to colonialism). Having one (incredibly beautiful!) dark skinned parent and one light skinned parent made that easy, and I always loved my skin colour despite the racism I faced. Black is beautiful, in all its shades.
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Thread I'm coming to terms with ending my life early.
The fact that people feel comfortable enough to speak up here, instead of bottling it up, I feel is a good thing. The important thing is that the responses are supportive, empathetic and responsible. We can work on creating a forum culture where those kinds of replies are the standard. Some kind of support group, even an online one, is better than no support system at all.
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Thread I'm coming to terms with ending my life early.
I just want to reiterate this and posts like this in the thread. Even if things seem bleak at the moment, that doesn't mean things will continue to be that way forever. Things can change for the better. You are worth loving, especially by yourself. Your life is worth living. I've struggled with depression and anxiety for half of my life for a number of reasons, and still am. There were times where it really felt like things could never get better, and I was only carrying on out of love for those dear to me, and not myself. A little over a year ago I reached out to a health professional for the first time, and though I still struggle a lot, it's made a world of difference. I was able to slowly make progress with healing from trauma on my own, and don't mean to undermine what I was able to accomplish in that time, because I'm incredibly proud of myself for it given the circumstances. But getting the support you need can really accelerate that process. I was fortunate enough to already have support from friends, but making this step was life changing for me. OP, if it's at all possible for you to increase the support and help you get, please try to look into it. Just know that we're here for you, even if it seems like no one else is.
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Thread Hey Era, say something nice about another member!
I see this is a appreciation thread, and I'd like to join in. :0 sucks though, so if there's a way I can show negative appreciation for him, I'd like to. Someone I'd like to show appreciation for is . I'm really glad I got to meet her. She's a kind and caring person who has made my life better.
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Thread Diversity and Inclusion in Videogames |OT| Because it Matters
I meant to post something back when the thread was first created, but I got sidetracked and forgot. Since the thread seems to be active again, I'll post it now. I've always really really appreciated having women, people of colour and other minorities in games as it made the game considerably more enjoyable for me, particularly when it's a playable character. 9 times out of 10, if I can play as a woman of colour, I will, being one myself. But there was one instance of representation that hit me the hardest. And this is despite the character being both minor and non-playable. I'd never, ever seen someone like her in any game, or really any media that I can think of. A woman who was both black, and visibly Muslim. Who was incredibly intelligent, respected, kind, gentle, well loved. Just, nothing but positive characteristics and zero stereotypes. This character just... really hit me hard. I teared up when I saw her, and still do sometimes when I think about her. And despite already being positively impacted by representation earlier in life, it made me realise just how important it was. And I knew for most people playing the game, she wouldn't register on their radar much, if at all. They might not even remember her. But she stood out to me. Because I realised that I never had any kind of role model like her to look up to in the media I consumed while growing up. And I realised how much that would have meant to me then. Growing up, I'd have people assume that I couldn't speak English just by looking at me. That they should speak to the men around me (e.g. my brothers) instead of myself, because obviously I was subservient and couldn't speak for myself. That I was unintelligent, even when I was doing better than my peers. That I should be predisposed to rowdy behaviour because of my ethnic background, so it was confusing to them that I was well behaved. I'd even hear this kind of thing from teachers, let alone other children. And it's the kind of thing you have to shrug off and try to push past, but can have an insidious effect on your self esteem and self worth over time. I never expected to see someone like her in a video game, especially in such a positive light, but I appreciate it more than I can say. I had some issues with Horizon gameplay-wise, but the representation is top tier. It's really the best example I can ever think of from a video game. So many great characters. I hope more games look to it as an example.
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Thread Diversity and Inclusion in Videogames |OT| Because it Matters
Yeah, the fact that other characters don't draw attention to it... they're just awesome characters in their own right, while also being women of colour. It's just great.That's awesome. I just enjoyed all of the diversity, not just characters that were similar to me. And the representation of women in particular was just fantastic.
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Thread Socialism |OT| The Dawn of a Red Era
Hah, my post was kind of in two parts. The screenshot was random, but my anecdote wasn't. In our first session, when some 'thugs' that were working for a crime lord took some hostages in the tavern we were in, he got so worked up that he (literally) caught fire and called them all class traitors. That's when I fell in love.
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Thread The Black Culture Community [OT 4] - Melanin and Estrogen - The new Kryptonite
Glad she got the recognition she deserves.If I recall correctly he disparaged black women FGC members. Said they were "ratchet" and didn't know how to play fighting games. And other misogynistic stuff.
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Thread The Legend of Playable Zelda: Setting Ourselves Up for Disappointment... Together! (Speculation, Discussion, and Wishful Thinking) [Media Heavy!]
It's a travesty. Can't believe such brilliance is being overlooked.
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Thread The Legend of Playable Zelda: Setting Ourselves Up for Disappointment... Together! (Speculation, Discussion, and Wishful Thinking) [Media Heavy!]
I played that on Wii U and loved it for similar reasons. Impa was awesome in it, too. I really do need to replay it on Switch.
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Thread Let's Talk About Skin Care
Hmm. So I have combination skin. I'm lucky to not really deal with pimples, even during my adolescence. Unless I consume way too much sugar, then I get a pimple or two. But most of my skin is not oily, apart from my T zone. I can get blackheads on my nose too. But the cleanser and exfoliators for even gentle skin can dry out the 'normal' parts of my skin, like my cheeks. Is there something much gentler that I can be using for these areas?
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Thread The Black Culture Community [OT 4] - Melanin and Estrogen - The new Kryptonite
Lol. I was watching the Direct with my partner and commented on the hair immediately too. I remember playing Pocket Camp and being happy that I could finally play as a black girl. It makes such a big difference. Looks like this one will have even better choices in terms of hair too.
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Thread Why do a lot of PC games release only on Steam?
For devs/developers who can only afford to publish on one or two PC storefronts, Steam makes the most sense (a lot of the time) for a number of reasons. It has the biggest market share, has a lot of features that benefit both the developers and the customers, is more accessible etc. So I think it's just something that happens naturally for that reason.
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Thread GiftBot's Gaming Giveaways |OT| Free to a good home! No begging, requests, or taking advantage
Whether or not juniors can enter the giveaways is up to the person who sets up the giveaway. As disappointing as it is, I think for more expensive giveaways especially, sometimes people want to make sure it goes to someone who is active in the community and not a perpetual lurker. I'll make it so juniors can enter my next giveaway, though.
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Thread Ninja Gaiden II, Kingdom Hearts 3, Yakuza 0, Two Point Hospital and more coming to Xbox Game Pass
That's a really sweet line up... Already own KH3, Yakuza 0 and Two Point Hospital, but I can't deny what a great collection of games that is. Haven't played KH3 yet, but everyone who hasn't played the other two absolutely should.
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Thread Fuck the Yiga clan
The only thing that bothered me about the Yiga clan is that they were underutilised. I feel like story-wise, there was a lot more that could have been done with them, as I found the concept of them pretty damn interesting tbh. I remember when I first came across a random NPC that ended up being a Yiga clan member, wondering what the back story would be there, and eventually being quite underwhelmed. I still really enjoy their presence in the game, though.
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Thread Just a reminder that Ghost Trick is really worth experiencing. It's only 10 hours long but you will carry it with you for the next 10 years after that
I really do need to get around to playing this. I own it on DS.
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Thread Please play end of Evangelion for those that did not do 1 Sonic and 7 Parasites.
Full members, with accounts in good standing, who return or request new accounts for one reason or another (e.g. privacy concerns) can request their posting privileges again. This isn't something new.
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Thread The Black Culture Community [OT 4] - Melanin and Estrogen - The new Kryptonite
Ah, yeah, there's plenty of that to go around here. For me it depends on the post in question. Whether the person seems like they're open to listening despite what they've done wrong, or are just being insensitive. That will inform how I attempt to correct them. It can get tiring, but I like to remember that it isn't just for them, but also others who are reading. I will say, I always appreciate when someone can show introspection and apologise, even if they've been called out harshly. I think it shows a level of sincerity and humility.
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Thread Finland's prime minister said Nordic countries do a better job of embodying the American dream than the US
I don't disagree with anything you've said, and I don't think it's in conflict with my post, either. The point of my post was not that there was argument or discussion to be had, just that certain posts clearly missed the point of who was making these arguments in this thread, and why. Then we also have posts that are completely dismissing racism within Europe. There's a recurring issue in threads about Europe where people feel it is above racism, just because the history with racism isn't quite as front and centre. You're right that the exact form that racism takes will differ from place to place, even within the same country. This goes for both individual and systemic racism. For example, I'm fully conscious that Black Americans have unique, and in many cases more severe challenges than myself as a Black British woman from an African migrant and refugee background. But I've also faced some unique challenges myself in regards to xenophobia and Islamophobia here. I was 'fortunate' enough to grow up in a very racist white working class area (that is now instead very multi-cultural thanks to white flight), and have witnessed white working class people cutting off their nose to spite their face over the years here. Brexit being the latest example. Then there's far right groups gaining more power across Europe whilst using xenophobia and racism to gain that support. So even if the form of racism differs, it still exists on both an institutional and individual level, and it still can and is weaponised. It's also important to understand how and why the situation in America has developed to where it is, instead of viewing America as this strange phenomenon that has no correlations with European countries. I do agree that people shouldn't dismiss the number of ethnic minorities and people of colour in these countries. And that it's important to not dismiss these voices, either.
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Thread Finland's prime minister said Nordic countries do a better job of embodying the American dream than the US
I see a lot of dismissive commentary about "defensive Americans" in this thread that's honestly unacceptable. The members that are expressing scepticism are predominantly marginalised minorities themselves, and people who are stanning for how awesome and just America is. Quite the opposite. They're pointing out a very valid observation that racism is one of many tools that is used to screw over and manipulate the working class (many of whom are people of colour, particularly whenever the number of ethnic minorities increases in a nation). And European countries are not immune from this. As posters have already mentioned, only looking at immigration statistics also ignores ethnic minorities who would not fit that label. This is very much not a right-wing talking point, even if far right parties try to use a similar argument for nefarious reasons. It's a criticism of the institutional racism, not an argument against diversity and immigration. That's not to say that the standard of living and conditions shouldn't be improved (they absolutely should), but simply that this is something that should not be ignored or brushed over when examining these statistics. Looking at things from a black and white perspective is foolish. And before anyone asks, no, I'm not American.
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Thread Finland's prime minister said Nordic countries do a better job of embodying the American dream than the US
I mean, some of the people saying this are black themselves and are speaking from their own knowledge and perspective of racism.
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Thread The Black Culture Community [OT 4] - Melanin and Estrogen - The new Kryptonite
That was pretty much my experience too in secondary school, bar a couple of teachers. And funnily enough the area I grew up in, during the 90s and early 2000s, was predominantly white working class. Then white flight did its thing and it became predominantly PoC. I didn't mind that at all of course lol. The incidents of racism while out and about decreased a lot. When we first came here (my family were refugees too), we were basically the only black people in the neighbourhood. We had one Pakistani British neighbours who were very lovely and welcoming, but everyone else was white. Certain roads we had to avoid because of people that lived there. That's not the case at all anymore thankfully, and the town I currently live in is very multi-cultural too for similar reasons. So it's interesting to see how areas can develop over time.
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Thread The Black Culture Community [OT 4] - Melanin and Estrogen - The new Kryptonite
It's interesting how we can pick up on problematic things as children, even though we don't have the language to unpack it. I have some memories of this from playing video games with sexist tropes as a kid. Feeling uncomfortable or disappointed and not knowing why. Something that's not on nearly the same scale as the other incidents mentioned here, but I remember the first time I felt like a token, without realising what that was. In primary school, we learnt about MLK during a morning assembly. At the end, the headteacher basically said that the white and black kids should play together during break that day, because he'd be smiling down from heaven while watching us. And a white girl approached me, with innocent and sincere intentions I'm sure, and basically repeated what the headteacher said. She obviously had the right intentions, but I still felt uncomfortable, and couldn't really place why. And of course no one really remembered this lesson afterwards, and things were back to normal the next day. It's kind of funny because all of the primary schools I went to were overwhelmingly white, but my secondary school was like 70% ethnic minorities and migrants/refugees. And I remember how as soon as I started secondary school, I felt... so at home, and was not made to feel othered for the first time in my life. It was really refreshing to be around people who looked like me, and to not feel alien for once. So despite my secondary school being pretty poor and underfunded (and some of the teachers were racist), I enjoyed it far more than any of the primary schools I went to.
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Thread The Black Culture Community [OT 4] - Melanin and Estrogen - The new Kryptonite
I get a lot of racism at my job, but thankfully not from coworkers. Anything from "Your English is very good, isn't it?" (why wouldn't it be?) to "Your hair is beautiful" (even if it's covered and they can't see it, so how do they know?). Although, the craziest racist nonsense I heard from a customer was this old lady who told me one of her great grandmothers was a black slave (the rest of her family were/are white), so she should have dark skin like me, but god forgot to put her in the oven. I just stood there and blinked at her in astonishment.
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Thread The Black Culture Community [OT 4] - Melanin and Estrogen - The new Kryptonite
Yeah, I got that sense too, which was pretty uncomfortable. Speaking of straight cut... I remember a supply teacher at my secondary school was really confused, because I was so well behaved, but a lot of the other black and migrant kids weren't. I asked them if they thought it was in our genes to misbehave and be rowdy or something.
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Thread The Black Culture Community [OT 4] - Melanin and Estrogen - The new Kryptonite
I can relate to this a bit. My personal advice would be to focus on your safety and well-being. Perhaps wait until you're independent and don't have to worry about the backlash as much?
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Thread The Zulu theme from Civilization VI reminds me of the beauty of humanity. What video game songs give you the feels?
I mentioned it in my OP as a song that rightfully gets a lot of appreciation. So no need to apologise. :pThanks for the rec. I'll check it out tomorrow (as well as all of the tracks I haven't gotten around to listening to yet, thanks everyone!).
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Thread The Zulu theme from Civilization VI reminds me of the beauty of humanity. What video game songs give you the feels?
I recently started playing Halo MCC for the first time (it's my first time playing any Halo). The soundtrack impressed me so quickly. I was playing with a friend and must have said "yo... the soundtrack is amazing" at least five times during our first session haha.
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Thread The Zulu theme from Civilization VI reminds me of the beauty of humanity. What video game songs give you the feels?
That orchestrated version of Hopes & Dreams is sublime. And I was wondering when a Journey track would be posted. :> And you posted my favourite track!
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Thread The Zulu theme from Civilization VI reminds me of the beauty of humanity. What video game songs give you the feels?
I've been on a Civ 6 kick lately, and have been playing with the expansions for the first time. Now, all Civ music is generally great, and has me humming along while playing, and even long after. And we've had at least one thread on Baba Yetu, which rightly gets a lot of praise. But the Zulu theme honestly floors me. Whenever I start up a new Civ 6 campaign, and Zulu is on the map, I get excited. I just sat and listened to the above track on its own yesterday after looking up the soundtrack on Spotify, giving it my undivided attention. I was quickly reminded that humanity is capable of creating such beautiful things. That probably sounds like an exaggeration, but it honestly lights up my soul. And there are plenty of video game soundtracks that I fawn over. Anyone who knows me knows how much of a Supergiants Games fan I am (particularly Pyre). I am obsessed with the soundtrack from both Nier games etc. But it's been a while since I've been so touched by a video game song. Civ games are brilliant games in their own right, but I think the soundtracks are a good enough reason to play them on their own. As mentioned in the title, I'd love to hear video game tracks that touch you all in similar ways.
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Thread Freedom of speech debate heats up in France after death threats to 16-year-old girl who called Islam "religion of hate"
You're right that there are a lot of people who sadly can't make this distinction, which is why bigotry so easily festers (and it's why political groups have used this kind of thing to manipulate the masses time and time again - it's easy and works). It takes empathy, maturity and understanding to not do this. Personally, as someone who has experienced an extensive amount of Islamophobia myself, and knows more Muslims than any other group of people (including my entire family), it's very easy for me to not generalise Muslims and to yearn for their safety and well-being despite having issues with Islamic scripture. But even speaking about other religions, it's easy for me to have the same mindset. My own struggles make it easy for me to empathise with others not like me. Intersectionality is hard, but not an impossible task.
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Thread Freedom of speech debate heats up in France after death threats to 16-year-old girl who called Islam "religion of hate"
The reason the issue is so delicate is because of the power imbalance. Someone in this thread mentioned being from Tunisia, and since it's a Muslim majority country, obviously harsh statements against Islam are not going to have anything to do with Islamophobia or racism, or lead to Muslims being marginalised. That's why the comparison to Catholicism doesn't work in the western world. Because Catholics aren't a persecuted minority there. I don't think people are making this argument for every single country in the world, because situations will differ based on the dominant group. If someone speaks carelessly about Catholicism in America, is someone going to go out and beat up a "Catholic looking" person? Are they going to shoot up a Catholic church? Will Catholic owned businesses be vandalised? The answer to all of these things is that, no, that's all very very unlikely to happen, especially as part of a trend.
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Thread Freedom of speech debate heats up in France after death threats to 16-year-old girl who called Islam "religion of hate"
I do agree that some people go too far in saying you can't even criticise Islam as a religion, because that's allowing other minorities down too imo. I think I have a somewhat unique perspective here as someone who: 1) Was raised a practicing Muslim their entire life. 2) Had a keen interest in Islam beyond what my family had taught me for many years, so I read up even deeper into Islam. 3) Has had their life very negatively impacted by Islam, as both a woman and member of the LGBT+ community (to the point that at one point, I wished I wasn't born a woman, because I felt my life would have been easier), and is no longer Muslim. 4) Has faced a ton of Islamophobia - to the extent that if I was asked if the racism, misogyny or Islamophobia I've faced from others has had a worse impact on my life overall, it'd be a hard question to answer - sometimes I faced bigotry because of all of these things at once. I feel like this kind of gives me a lot of insight into the delicate intersectionality of these kinds of situations, and allows me to have empathy and understanding for everyone involved. Because as a practicing Muslim, I was routinely blamed for things I didn't believe in or do. I was even blamed for 9/11 by a school mate who I had been friends with for years. I've been called a terrorist more times than you can imagine, sometimes by men twice my size screaming in my ear. After a terrorist attack, I'd be frightened like everyone else, but also frightened that I'd be physically attacked because I was Muslim, even though I was staunchly against terrorism, and so was literally every single Muslim I'd ever met. One time my non-Muslim friend was out with me at night, and commented on all of the hostile looks I was getting, and asked why I wasn't scared. I told her I blocked it out, and didn't even notice it anymore, because if I did I wouldn't be able to live and function in society. So I'm privy to how frightening it can be for Muslims to simply exist in Western society due to the constant fear-mongering and being singled out for issues that are present in many religions, or for things that a very small minority take part in (terrorism) etc. I don't think I deserved that, and I don't think any of the Muslims in these countries do either. Not when I had no desire to force my faith on others, but simply wished to practice my religion privately. But like I said in some earlier posts, there are also other victims here. Not only the LGBT+ community at large, but LGBT+ Muslims and women (or people from said communities who have left Islam, but who are still intertwined with said community) are not benefited by criticism against Islamic texts and beliefs being stifled. I know some people say not to generalise Islam, but I think for me there's a difference between the actual 'source material' so to speak, and the interpretations of that text by different Muslims. I personally believe all of the holy scriptures of Abrahamic faiths (I'm not well read enough on others to speak on them) contain some very problematic and sometimes hateful messages. The reason I left Islam is that I felt though I could find a progressive interpretation for those verses (and did for many years), I didn't honestly believe that that progressive message is the message that was originally preached. And if it wasn't, then that would mean the god I worshipped was cruel and unjust. And I could not worship a cruel and unjust being, especially one that is often described as all-merciful, and supposedly incapable of mistakes. Once that happened, everything else fell apart for me, and I realised the only thing that was keeping me in said faith was the fear that I was indoctrinated with. But that's just me. If someone manages to find a progressive interpretation, and sincerely believes that, and does not try to force their faith on others, this is something that should be encouraged. So I applaud all of the religious people who do this. If everyone in the world was like this, it'd be a much better place. I think making the distinction between how the religion been and practiced by some, making it clear that not all Muslims believe in that stuff, and pointing to a better alternative (the progressive form of Islam that many follow) is one way. Another thing is not singling out Islam with these criticisms, as there are many conservative non-Muslim countries that have issues with homophobia and misogyny for example. This might seem like a lot of effort to dissect a religion, but I feel it's the responsible and empathetic way to do it, that minimises the backlash against an already persecuted and marginalised community, while speaking up for other marginalised communities.
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Thread Freedom of speech debate heats up in France after death threats to 16-year-old girl who called Islam "religion of hate"
Religious extremists should definitely be called out, no matter the context. I don't think anyone is implying otherwise. I'm sure many Muslims would even agree with you on this. The Muslims I've known throughout my life have all hated religious extremists, particularly as they simply make their own lives harder (they get lumped in with them). And I definitely did not imply that Islam should be above reproach - just read all of my posts in this thread. I've even said that religion should be criticised harshly at times too, if it's necessary. I also agree with people's right to blaspheme. I'm not disagreeing with any of that. The discussion that's taking place here is how that criticism should be conveyed in countries where people from said religion are an oppressed minority. Because if you're careless and generalise, that has a very real and direct impact on the safety of said oppressed minority. So as you can see, there can be more than one "real" problem at a time, so it's reductive to treat it like it's as simple as that. Like I said, the issue that keeps coming up in this thread is people are treating it like a black and white issue when it's a lot more nuanced than that. That's always going to be the case when you have intersecting issues involving various marginalised groups. And yes, as someone from the UK, I'm aware of the difference in how religion is perceived compared to say, America.
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Thread Freedom of speech debate heats up in France after death threats to 16-year-old girl who called Islam "religion of hate"
There's an ethnic aspect to Judaism that makes it different to Christianity and Islam. In Islam, there are five basic pillars of Islam that if you don't even believe in them, you would not be considered a Muslim at all. The first one is that "There is no god but Allah, and Muhammad is his messenger." That's the very core and basis of Islam. So 'Muslim atheist' is quite the oxymoron tbh.
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Thread Freedom of speech debate heats up in France after death threats to 16-year-old girl who called Islam "religion of hate"
It's true that Islam isn't a race, but you can be racist against Muslims. And Islamophobia is often motivated by racism and xenophobia. I think people are confusing several different arguments here and talking past each other. And yes, whilst some phrases that are dogwhistles can sometimes be used innocently, if you're aware that it is a dogwhistle, you should be conscious of that. There are much better and more effective ways to make your argument instead of digging your heels in.
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Thread Freedom of speech debate heats up in France after death threats to 16-year-old girl who called Islam "religion of hate"
Not just non-white Muslims, but Muslims in general, and brown people who could be mistaken for Muslim by ignorant racists. Islamophobia can sometimes just be another form of racism against Middle Easterners and South Asians (and people who look like them). And hatred towards Islam is not always rooted in disagreements with the teachings, but rather because Muslims are an 'other' and a threat to their 'culture'. You'll also find plenty of Islamophobes who either follow or are fine with the other Abrahamic faiths, despite their holy scriptures having equally problematic stuff. But yes, that's where the pushback against the "Islam isn't a race" argument comes from. Because Islamophobes use it as an excuse to mask their hatred against Muslims specifically. Because the implication is usually "Islam isn't a race, therefore I cannot be a racist when I decide to incite hatred against Muslims, I'm just attacking the , you see." There's a big difference between thoughtful and responsible critique and fear-mongering, generalising etc. The latter hurts innocent Muslims who are a persecuted minority in many parts of the world, despite Islam being the second largest religion overall. I think a big issue that I see recurring in this thread is that people look at this from a black and white perspective, or look at things literally/simplistically (like the argument you made in your initial post). While technically true that Islam isn't a religion, it's ignoring the context in which this phrase is commonly used, and why people take issue with it. On the other hand, I don't think the solution is to never criticise Islam as a religion either, as there does need to be pressure for it to modernise and become more progressive, even in secular nations. I have personal experience with this, and see what this lack of progress does in my own community. Which kind of goes back to what I mentioned at the end of my first paragraph. In the context of countries where Muslims are a minority, I feel the most responsible way to critique it is speaking about all of the religions that have these issues, including Christianity. Singling out Islam just bears the risk of making Muslims out to be this evil and barbaric group of people, even though there are plenty of Muslims who follow a progressive and inclusive interpretation of Islam, and there are many non-Muslim majority countries that have similar issues. TLDR: There's a lot to criticise in the Quran and prophetic sayings, but there are responsible ways to do that without endangering marginalised Muslims.
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Thread Freedom of speech debate heats up in France after death threats to 16-year-old girl who called Islam "religion of hate"
You're right that Islam's origin in Arabia means that some aspects of Arabic culture come along with it. I'm not an Arab, but I can read the Arabic alphabet (most Muslims are taught how to read the Quran in Arabic and even memorise portions - or the entirety of it - from childhood), was encouraged to learn Arabic and did for many years (still interested in picking it back up as it's a very beautiful language). The five daily prayers are said in Arabic, and there are a number of supplications that you say in Arabic too. There are certain foods that are common in a number of countries during Ramadan, too. Depending on how religious the person is, they might wear Arabic clothes, but really each country has their own form of 'modest' Islamic clothing, and that is what is generally worn in each country. It even varies in different Arabic/Middle Eastern countries. All of this is separate from ethnicity, though. I've never met an ex-Muslim who still considers themselves a Muslim in any form. Typically if they still practice some of the customs, it's due to peer pressure from their families, since a lot of people cannot come out and say "I've left Islam" without facing some form of repercussions, even if it's just a huge strain with their family. Muslim as a label is very strongly tied to belief unlike Judaism. You may hold on to some of the values you learned from Islam (as there are honestly a lot of positive teachings, Islam definitely had a part in informing my views on class for example, and why I always found religious conservatives who hate the poor perplexing), but if you don't believe in Allah at the very minimum, then that direct link to the faith is broken. I'm not sure about what you mean about who is suitable for increasing the numbers of the religious followers (in relation to Islam, at least).
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Thread Black History Month 2020 [The BHM ERA Challenge]
I wanted to share a book that touched me deeply; 'Barracoon: The Story of the Last "Black Cargo"' by Zora Neale Hurtston. It is based on her interviews in 1927 with Cudjoe Lewis (born Oluale Kossola), the last presumed living survivor of the Atlantic slave trade between Africa and America. The book was published posthumously, partly because it was written in vernacular, which some people at the time felt was playing into stereotypes. But the vernacular that he spoke in his part of his story and the story of people like him. I'm so happy she didn't budge on her values against whitewashing him, and that the book was eventually published. I felt so honoured to read his story. I cried with him, smiled at what happiness he managed to find, and felt in awe of his courage and will to survive. I strongly recommend the book, but here's an article about him: Some excerpts:
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Thread Freedom of speech debate heats up in France after death threats to 16-year-old girl who called Islam "religion of hate"
Speaking as someone who has been on the receiving end of Islamophobia (like I mentioned earlier in the thread), but whose life has also been negatively impacted by Islam, I feel it isn't about the criticism in and of itself, but being responsible in how you give it. Context is also important. There's a big difference in an ex-Muslim harshly speaking out against the faith which oppressed them and some racist right-wing politician stoking xenophobia and paranoia. It's a complex issue which requires some thought and tact, for sure. But some people like myself are victims in multiple ways. And I can't help but feel that Islam should not be shielded from critique so it can continue to modernise. Thankfully many Muslims follow a progressive interpretation of Islam, and that kind of progress should be encouraged and not be assumed to be the norm. Even in secular countries, many women and LGBT+ Muslims face pressure, whether indirect or direct, to follow patriarchal and harmful customs and do not have full autonomy over their lives. They are victims of Islamophobia and are hurt by Islamophobic rhetoric (growing up as a young teen post-9/11 was not fun, let me tell you, especially when you were instantly identifiable as a Muslim like I was). TLDR: I think this is a subject that requires a lot of nuance, and people should avoid looking at it through one extreme lens or another. But instead show empathy towards all of the people who are hurt and marginalised by these issues.
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Thread Freedom of speech debate heats up in France after death threats to 16-year-old girl who called Islam "religion of hate"
Religion is often described with different terms. It's not uncommon for Muslims to describe Islam as a "way of life", for example. Others may call it a creed, or their faith etc. I'm sure some people exclusively use this term for Islam to justify their Islamophobia, though. And yeah, “judeo-Christian values” is another example of a dogwhistle that's meant to simply exclude Islam, and is not actually a thing. To summarise, I just want to say that it's obvious that we're in agreement overall, I was just perplexed by some posts in this thread seemingly elevating Islam beyond a religion and not simply calling out the dogwhistle.
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Thread Freedom of speech debate heats up in France after death threats to 16-year-old girl who called Islam "religion of hate"
I definitely would call Christianity a religious ideology. There are some people who only single out Islam for criticism, and ignore all other faiths when criticising religion. Islamophobia is obviously the motivation there in most cases. But for example, there are plenty who criticise the Abrahamic faiths and the damage that they have caused throughout history and still today. I agree with you about the dogwhistles, but I also wouldn't go to the opposite extreme and ignoring what Islam actually is (a set of ideas that are not based on fact, but subjective beliefs - some of which can infringe on the rights of others, as seen throughout history). I think once we lose the ability to properly criticise it, we're honestly failing a lot of marginalised people, including LGBT+ Muslims. That criticism should also be made responsibly.
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Thread Freedom of speech debate heats up in France after death threats to 16-year-old girl who called Islam "religion of hate"
But it is...? It's a religious ideology that started 1400 years ago in a patriarchal society. Some people rightly choose to follow a progressive version of it, of course. But it is a religious ideology. I'm confused by the people who are likening it to a culture in this thread. Islam is not just a thing for brown people, either. Islam spread far and wide. Many Muslim majority countries are not Middle Eastern. Myself and my family are from Sub-Saharan Africa, for example. I have never met a Muslim who would describe Islam as their culture. Their religion and way of life, for sure. Cultures come and go, and change drastically over time. Muslims generally believe that Islam is complete and unchanging as it is the word of god, and god in Islam is described as being all-knowing and incapable of making mistakes. Unlike the Bible, there is also only one version of the Quran. I understand the intent behind your argument, as Islamophobia is very much rooted in racism and xenophobia. But I find people sometimes go to the opposite extreme of making Islam an untouchable, sacred thing that is beyond reproach. And not going to lie, that makes me very uncomfortable too. You know that many people like myself have been oppressed under Islam, right? And you're doing us no favours by placing it on a pedestal. Religion should be scrutinised and examined from all angles. Harshly, if necessary, at times.
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Thread Freedom of speech debate heats up in France after death threats to 16-year-old girl who called Islam "religion of hate"
As someone who has faced Islamophobia, including violent Islamophobic abuse her entire life, I have to strongly disagree with your conclusion here. Her statement is not more idiotic than the unprovoked, hateful, oppressive and homophobic rhetoric that was levied at her. A type of hatred that is stoked by religion, and has been for millennia. If she had made a generalisation about Muslims, I could see your point. I can understand the misgivings about her statement, as such statements about Islam can stoke Islamophobia against Muslims themselves. Believe me, I've lived that. But there's also the fact that religion has historically been used as a tool to oppress. To oppress people like her, specifically. And Islam has had its hand in that. So there's far more gray area in that statement, and a victim of religious persecution lashing out at said religion with that statement, than what was said to her.
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Thread The Latest Conserative Controversy: Jennifer Lopez Pole-dancing at Super Bowl
I don't understand the pearl clutching about children. You'd think they were performing sex acts on stage or something. I'm sure your child won't be traumatised by a grown, empowered women dancing. Give me a break. The performance was fantastic.
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Thread Rush Limbaugh diagnosed with advanced lung cancer
I wouldn't wish that kind of suffering on anyone, or cheer it on, but I'll be honest and say that I can't say I feel an ounce of sympathy for him either. I'll save that for the poor Americans that people like him have actively screwed over and indirectly killed.
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Thread Easy Allies - Ian plays Final Fantasy IX for the first time (Easy Update)
Nah, you can. Obviously don't flood the forum with threads, hah. The odd thread here and there is fine, though.I really need to get back to it. I enjoyed what I played. I'm hoping to play through all of the FF games I haven't finished/played this year. I'll start with IX.
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Thread ResetEra Games of the Year 2019 - Voting Thread (READ THE OP) [Ends Jan 26th 8:59am EST]
Honourable mentions: - I didn't get the chance to play Control in time, despite purchasing it. I imagine it would have definitely made my top 10 otherwise. - Started it, but didn't get too far, unfortunately. I enjoyed what I played, however. **VoteBot: Thanks for participating in ResetEra GOTY 2019! You vote receipt is available .**
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Thread My totally unscientific opinion about men based on the responses on my last thread.
Yeah. It's just often, it can just be a way to mask your poor self esteem. Others can't hurt you if you joke about it first, etc. Which is why when I see loved ones who say they have poor self esteem, one of the things I tell them is 1) try to accept compliments, even if you don't believe them (that really doesn't make them wrong) and 2) to stop putting themselves down, even jokingly. For some people it may just be in good fun, though. But I'd still ask them to challenge why they do it.
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Thread My totally unscientific opinion about men based on the responses on my last thread.
Yeah, arrogance is no good either. But I think there's a big difference between being kind to oneself and arrogance. Being at peace with your flaws and realising they don't define you as a person is a form of kindness as well. When I was a teenager, I used to be really bad at accepting compliments. Part of this was due to me not liking the attention, positive or otherwise (social anxiety), but also because I didn't really believe them. I quickly realised that accepting the compliments got me less attention overall (as rejecting compliments sometimes gets you a poor reaction, e.g. people thinking you're trying to milk even more compliments), but it took me much longer to finally just start believing the positive comments I got, especially ones that were frequent. Eventually, it became easier to believe them, and my self image improved. This had a doubly positive impact in that it changed the way others perceived me for the better as well. Sometimes we can be far more critical towards ourselves than we would literally anyone else, even to the point of being unfair. It's what I meant earlier when I said we aren't always our fairest critics. Sometimes all we see are the flaws, and we can exaggerate them. A more positive self image is also likely to help you improve yourself, too. As you feel like you're worth working on, and not a lost cause.
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Thread Which one is your favorite PC launcher and or how would you improve them?
One thing I prefer about the old Steam store layout is how the shared games library was segmented. Your games, and the games of other people you shared with (if it was more than one), were separated and could be minimised or expanded. Now they're all mixed together, which can be a drag to scroll through when it's a lot of games. I suppose some people prefer to just have them all together, though.
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Thread My totally unscientific opinion about men based on the responses on my last thread.
I think both kinds of self esteem can be nice. Speaking as someone who has struggled with self esteem in the past due to emotional abuse. It was easier for me to accept the goodness within myself (which I struggled to believe in at first as well), but it's been nice to finally overcome the negative thoughts about myself in all aspects. It's not where my worth lies, but it's nice to feel good about yourself, and accept yourself completely. Sometimes that means accepting your flaws, but it can also mean just overcoming irrational critical thoughts. We're not always the best judges when it comes to ourselves. Regardless, thanks for the wholesome thread, OP. The positivity is beautiful.
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Thread Bernie Sanders: Barack Obama won 10% of the white vote in Mississippi. That speaks to very bad work done by Democrats there
What's disturbing is you tone policing a black man who is calling out white racists. There's nothing surprising about 90% of white people in a racist state being racist. At least not to the people who have lived that experience. Tone policing a black man who has those lived experiences is condescending at best.
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Thread I will take it. I will take the ring to Mordor.
I rewatched the trilogy a couple of months ago, and I really couldn't decide between Fellowship and ROTK. They're both such fantastic movies, but so different, and so I love them for entirely different reasons. Fellowship is really, really special, though.
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Thread Do you think what Microsoft is doing good by not giving the Series X an exclusive game by allowing next gen games to also run on Xbox One systems?
There's already a thread where this exact discussion can take place: A separate one isn't needed.
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Thread "Why Are We Celebrating Lizzo's Body?"-Jillian Micheals
This thread seems to have gotten quite out of hand, so we're locking it. We'll be reviewing posts and reports related to the thread. As a reminder, body shaming and inflammatory generalisations are against the rules of the forum. Users who engage in this kind of behaviour will be banned.
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Thread I see no reason to have a hope for the future
Encouraging people to seek professional help is a good thing, but just complaining about the existence of the thread is not. While your fellow forum members cannot replace a therapist and professional help, sometimes people just need someone to talk to as a coping mechanism. Perhaps they don't have anyone else who can do that for them in real life, or at that moment. Facing rejection once you do that can be very damaging for someone who is in a vulnerable state of mind. Also, sometimes even if what you're saying is correct, the delivery of the message can make it very harmful. These are just things to consider. If you don't feel equipped to respond, there's also the option of not replying at all.
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Thread I see no reason to have a hope for the future
I'm glad you'll be looking into seeking professional help. We have a mental health thread on the forum, and there's a discord for the mental health community too. I hope they can be of help as well if you're not already part of the discord. I understand the despair you're feeling. Just know that you don't have to feel this way forever. You can get better, and you can find purpose and happiness. You're a lot stronger and more resilient than you think.
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Thread Sea of Thieves crosses 10 million players mark
I'm one of the people who has jumped into Sea of Thieves recently thanks to . It's surprisingly a ton of fun. We fought a megalodon alone on our first play session. I'll have to warn anyone who plays with though as he tried to set our ship on fire. Congrats, Rare and MS. From the coverage I've read, they've really done an excellent job supporting it.
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Thread Who has brought us the best IP of this Generation? Sony? Microsoft? Nintendo? Third Parties with a multi platform game?
If it were just between Sony, Nintendo and MS for this gen, I'd pick Sony, but... since third party multiplatform is included, that's the obvious choice.
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Thread Do you like where you live?
Yes and no? I like the town I live in. It's very much working class, but very multicultural and inclusive. I like being close to the town centre and lots of amenities etc too. I used to live in a racist white area growing up, so my current town being so multicultural and not being overrun with racism and xenophobia is a blessing. I'd be happy to live here for as long as I need to. On the other hand, I don't particularly want to stay in England for the rest of my life, given the trajectory this country is headed in. I have some plans to move eventually, hopefully it works out.
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Thread Are you cheap if you don’t tip? (American tipping culture)
The post you were quoting was referencing the fact that Kirblar did not feel employers were the bad guys for not paying their employees a living wage, but was chastising poor people instead. My first post in this thread was also in response to a member who said that if you're broke, you should stay at home and eat a sandwich (I assume, no matter the circumstances). I found this attitude very insensitive, as it isn't taking into account this hypothetical person's situation at all. It was not meant to generalise poor people, or even depict this situation as common. I am poor, live in a country where tipping is not common, and has still tipped every single time it was expected of me (sometimes rather generously). I don't disagree with you at all on a general level. I was just responding to very specific statements.
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Thread Are you cheap if you don’t tip? (American tipping culture)
Did you not repeatedly quote me with stuff like this (well before I even interacted with you)?How is it inaccurate then for me to characterise your position as the corporations not being the villains, but poor people who can't afford to tip sometimes are?
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Thread Are you cheap if you don’t tip? (American tipping culture)
My point is, he take the side of the corporations. I'm not replying to everyone in the thread, I'm replying to him. I'm also not saying that poor people should never tip. Many poor people tip every time and that's great. Tipping is not an expectation at all in most casual restaurants/cafes etc here, and yet I still tip, sometimes generously if the customer service is great. This is not about me, or the system as a whole. I responded to someone who told poor people who can't afford to tip to stay at home and make a sandwich. That is what I've been responding to. I find that statement really harmful as someone who has both grown up in poverty and also suffered from depression and anxiety for over a decade due to a life of trauma, abuse and marginalisation. I know there are dark days where a treat is really the only thing I can find to lift myself out of harmful thoughts. Should people like me be denied that if on a certain day they can't spare the extra dollars, but pay for their meal? Targeting your vitriol at people like that is extremely misguided. They are struggling and trying to make ends meet too, and are not breaking any laws.
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Thread Are you cheap if you don’t tip? (American tipping culture)
It's really impressive that you've both convinced yourself that your system is working fine and that the employers are not the villains, and that poor people who can't afford to tip sometimes are. I'm going to hazard a guess and say that you're someone who is financially secure and has no perception of what being poor is like. That would certainly explain why you're satisfied with the status quo.Thank you.
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Thread Are you cheap if you don’t tip? (American tipping culture)
It's literally not stealing though. Unless tipping is a legal requirement that I'm unaware of. You can use sensationalist language, but the reality is that it's not. And yes I used race to make clear that there are a lot of impoverished and marginalised people besides waiters. Ignoring that and directing the vitriol that you should be directing at the employers and your legislators at them is misguided at best, and certainly very privileged.
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Thread Are you cheap if you don’t tip? (American tipping culture)
You think poor people don't try to treat themselves or their children sometimes? Or that they don't deserve to?This conversation started because a member said if you're poor you should stay at home and make a sandwich. Not me generalising poor people. I am a former refugee and immigrant. I lived in a refugee camp at one point and fled civil war with my parents as a small child. I've been varying levels of poor my entire life.Thei idea that poor people do not deserve to ever have nice things is honestly insulting.
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Thread Are you cheap if you don’t tip? (American tipping culture)
I am, though. I'm not American. I think tipping is a good thing, especially in North America where service workers are paid much less than they should be to get by. But there are also many people who work hard long hours for minimum wage and have many dependents. They don't get tipped. The idea that they shouldn't be allowed something nice, and it's their fault that your system is so broken is insane to me. You're completely placing the blame in the wrong place. You're really going to look down on a black single mother who wanted to get her son a treat on his birthday, for example? Really?
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Thread Please welcome your new General Manager: B-Dubs!
As a member of the ResetEra team for 2 years, I just want to offer my sincerest thanks to Cerium for the exemplary leadership, care and support he has shown to the team. I am grateful that you have provided me the opportunity to give back to the community I care so much about. For believing in me and giving me a strong voice, as an LGBT+ woman of colour. Not just me, but everyone else in the team. I think I speak for us all when I say: thank you, from the bottom of my heart. Please take care, and be well. B-Dubs is someone whom I hold an immense amount of trust and respect for. It would be difficult to find a more empathetic and compassionate person for the job. I am also confident that with him at the helm, the women and minorities on the team will continue to have a strong voice, and that we will continue our efforts in finding even more valuable voices to add to the team in the future. I look forward to continuing to work closely with you. Good luck, you have our support!
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Thread People using food banks didn't know who to vote. They didn't trust Corbyn.
Well said. As someone from a Black African migrant background myself, I know this too well. Even when my parents were not fully fluent in English, they somehow knew better than to vote for the Tories. Because they knew that no matter what, that would be shooting themselves in the foot. This is despite them also having to struggle with much more, being ethnic minorities, religious minorities and refugees from a war torn country. The fact of the matter is that a certain subset of the country are willing to shoot themselves in the foot if it means those scary foreigners will also be screwed over in the process. At some point you have to stop giving racists a pass because they're poor. Poor minorities are somehow not 'misinformed' despite having even more disadvantages. Go figure.
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Thread Has Microsoft sold you yet on the Xbox Series X?
Honestly, yeah. I'm not sure if I'll get either system at launch (it'll depend on the launch line ups and my funds), but I am definitely sold on getting the XSX within the first year or so. MS have made some great moves over the past couple of years that has really raised my confidence in them. I got an Xbox One X a few weeks ago, which is my first Xbox console ever. Game pass is simply just too good to pass up on imo. I've been really happy with my purchase, too.
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Thread UK General Election 2019 | Polls Open Today 7am - 10pm | GET OUT AND VOTE
Just got back from voting Labour a little while ago. Against my better judgement, I'm holding out a tiny bit of hope for a miracle. Still going to brace myself for the worst outcome, though.
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Thread Video: Nancy Pelosi Knew Iraq War was Based on Bad Intel at the Time, Explains Why She Opposed Impeachment For Bush
Thread has devolved into the kind of inter-community war that we've received so many complaints about, and will have to stay locked. Look, when members make inflammatory generalisations about each other, they get reported, and if we don't act on it the other side reciprocates and things escalate. If we do act on it, their allies blow up the thread. We've hit people on opposing sides for it in this very thread. There's been plenty of this to go around, and to hear the feedback we get, everyone thinks the people they disagree with are getting away with too much. By all means condemn Nancy Pelosi, the US Government, Capitalism, whatever -- many posters have been doing that and it's all good. But when you start generalising to the point where your fellow members are included in those attacks, we have to act or communities will start tearing each other apart. We're going to leave this thread without further action in the hopes that people cool off. The primaries haven't even started yet; folks are going to have to find a way to coexist. We're only trying to keep the peace.
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Thread Year End Policy Updates and Community Affairs
This is not a new feature, but we've been trying to be more consistent with resolution alerts since we've received a fair bit of feedback regarding that. We're looking into technical solutions to streamline the process.I responded to a similar concern earlier in the thread:So, yeah, while our initial focus is on bigotry as that is such a great concern, we are looking at reducing toxicity as a whole across the forum. I hope that answers your question. ^^That's a good suggestion. We do update the General Guide with new policies / changes to policy, but have not had the opportunity to do so since making this thread. I'll pass on your feedback to the rest of the team.
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Thread Year End Policy Updates and Community Affairs
There's definitely a balancing act involved. If the team is too large, it can be difficult to manage, and there are more chances of slip ups and mistakes as a result. But on the other hand, yes, not enough hands and things can get very taxing, especially over time. We are actually looking for new members of the team at the moment. Both for perspective and also to help out with activity. We also take whether a new candidate could help with certain timezones into account at times. We've been actively discussing new candidates, so you should hopefully see some new faces on the team in the coming weeks. ^^ Sometimes, though, it isn't so much how many people we have, but certain periods of the year can get very busy, and people also have real life commitments or emergencies that pop up. We also advise everyone on the team to prioritise self care and take breaks when needed. That can be difficult at times when you can see the team and community really needs you, though. But we still try our best to strike a balance. Also wanted to say, thank you for your concern for the team. I really appreciate it. Love and respect. <3
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Friends is also a popular show and yet it still has problematic scenes that would seem dated at best today if not actually bigoted. The popularity of a show should not prevent people from examining the issues it has. As dreams stated, the reason for the ban is clearly stated in the lock message. He was not banned for simply liking a show, but rather his response to a particular scene. We're fully aware of your argument, but that doesn't change the fact that sometimes jokes can perpetuate racist stereotypes. Would you find it too far for a black member to feel offended at white users laughing at a scene where Michael is in blackface, and they think it's hilarious that he's "unfiltered"? Not to mention that there is something to be said about how the show does not truly hold Michael accountable for his actions, and even sometimes depicts him as someone to sympathise with. There is a history with these kinds of dehumanising racist depictions that often makes people of colour extremely uncomfortable. The post was reported and discussed by various Asian people in the community and team. We will continue to discuss it with Asian members of the team during the ban review process. Even if you disagree with the ban, please understand that staging a protest about it in this thread of all places is highly inappropriate and insensitive. If you wish to continue discussing it, you're welcome to reach out to a Mod Captain.
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Doubling down on your bans, especially for serious matters such as child sexualisation and racism, will result in a much more severe infraction, and likely a permanent ban. Hijacking a thread about the concerns of minority members in relation to how bigotry is moderated is especially inappropriate. For the record, Harlequin's prior ban was extended because the ban was placed into ban review. Lengthy bans are personally overseen by moderator captains and then updated after further discussion. The fact that the ban length is pending is made clear in the ban message.
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Yes, we will be looking to crack down on toxicity as a whole. We realise that this is a concern in the gaming section, especially as the new generation approaches. It's something that has come up in recent meetings, and we want to keep an eye on this. This thread is more focused on bigotry, because that is what the overwhelming amount of feedback we've recently received is about, and it's also an issue of great concern. The community relations team however will serve to identify concerns from all over the community. Our initial focus however will be to reach out to various marginalised communities.
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As stated in the OP: You were banned for and . The fact that your posts are politely worded does not change that. Politely worded bigotry or inflammatory points of view are still just that: bigotry and inflammatory points of view.. Enforcing our policies does not make the team trigger happy. Your bans were the result of discussion and consensus. I know this because I was personally involved with the moderation of that blackface thread, as I am a black woman. As we've stated time and time again, our moderation is a group effort, and we spend a lot of time deliberating reports, to the extent that new moderators are always surprised by the effort that goes into it. I myself was also surprised by this when I joined the team back in January 2018. Just today the report count was at an obscene number for over 10 hours, and we carefully reviewed each report together despite that. Many of us dedicated our entire day to this. My point is, you were not banned because a specific moderator read your post a certain way. That is highly reductionist and not at all in line with our moderation practices.
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Simply asking a question will not get you banned, as long as you do so respectfully, and do not speak over people with lived experiences, or divert the thread so that is now about your perspective instead of theirs (whether intentionally or not). Please understand that constant microaggressions can weigh heavily on already marginalised users, especially when every single thread goes in the exact same direction. It's important to keep this in mind and make it clear that you are asking in good faith and are completely willing to listen and learn.
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Hello all, As we get ready to close out the year here on ResetEra the staff have been hard at work looking at ways we can improve our methods and our policies. In response to feedback we've received and conversations with the community, we've been examining everything about how we moderate and how we communicate, looking for areas that can be improved. The purpose of this thread is to explain the changes we've made and the changes that we are planning to make as we head into the new year. While this thread will cover public policy, implementing those policies has also required a lot of work behind the scenes and a lot of adjustments to our internal processes. The curation and moderation on this site is an important part of what sets ResetEra apart from other gaming communities, and this is something that we want to continuously improve on, with help from the community. First things first, we've been carefully reviewing concerns from the LGBTQ+ and various other minority communities. We understand that despite our best intentions there is still more we can and should be doing to protect these communities, and to make the forum a safer and more welcoming place. We do deeply regret and apologise for falling short. From its very first mission statement this site has set out to provide a space where women and minorities can freely discuss their favourite hobbies and issues that matter to them. The feedback that we have received over the past few weeks has formed the basis of the changes we're making now. Among the most important of those changes is that bans for bigotry will be significantly longer going forward. Users who engage in such behaviour will also be given fewer chances before being permanently banned. We will also be making greater efforts to identify and take harsher action against subtler bad faith behaviour, such as: speaking over marginalised voices, concern trolling in sensitive threads, and dismissive drive-by posting. This is something that we have already started to implement, and will be further enforced and made routine as we close out the year. You can find some examples of such behaviour in our under the ‘Dismissive and Disruptive Behavior’ section (please understand that these are merely examples, and the list is not meant to be exhaustive). In this regard we ask that the community help us by giving detailed reports and cooperating with staff. If a member has a history of subtly trolling such threads with posts that might otherwise fly under the radar, providing a report that proves such a pattern can help the available staff take appropriate action. To facilitate this effort, we are also cutting some red tape and giving moderators who have a personal understanding and perspective of the issues at stake more latitude to moderate threads of a sensitive nature. The benefit of this is that problematic posters should be removed more quickly, which will hopefully have a positive effect on the quality of threads. You may wonder how this differs from our previous approach, or what exactly it means. To be clear, we have always placed a strong emphasis on consulting staff members who have a relevant background whenever sensitive issues come up -- this includes misogyny, transphobia, racism, xenophobia, islamophobia etc. Those staff with personal understanding of these issues have always led the moderation of them. However, everything we do is done as a team, particularly when lengthier bans are involved, to minimise mistakes and ensure that the right decisions are made. The downside of this team based approach is that sometimes certain reports can take longer to handle, with the affected threads suffering as a result. With this new approach, in moments when thorough discussion is not possible (for example when fewer staff are online) moderators with relevant background and perspective will have license to remove troublemakers more quickly. The bans will later be reviewed by the Moderator Captains to determine the final length with further feedback and input from relevant staff. This will continue to ensure that no single staff member can go rogue while also allowing for more decisive action when it is called for. Of course, this can only work with a diverse staff, which is something we have always prioritised. We have made recent promotions to further emphasise diversity, and will continue to make it a focus as we consider new candidates. We also recognise that another area that we can improve upon is our visible presence within such threads. While staff posts have been a tool that we have used since the forum's inception, we aim to make more guideline staff posts in sensitive threads. We will do our best to be as quick and responsive with this as possible. This should have the benefit of both setting the tone and steering discussion. As usual, posts that come after a staff post will be moderated more strictly, but this does not mean that posts that came before the staff post are immune. Similarly, "doubling down" on an infraction has always been an actionable offense that calls for even harsher moderation. This is especially the case for offenses related to bigotry. Another recurring concern that has often been raised is the process by which the community gives feedback to staff. Our policy has long been that individual posts should be reported, and larger issues should be directed towards Moderator Captains via PM or the '' form (which can be found at the bottom of the site). While this will still be our general policy, we realise that not every public discussion about feedback needs to be shut down immediately, and we will do our best to engage openly whenever there is an opportunity to clear up misconceptions or address specific and constructive criticism. This does not mean that members should publicly litigate past infractions, especially in unrelated threads. There is a formal ban appeal process detailed in the , and we encourage you to utilise it. Every appeal is reviewed by multiple members of staff. We have already further streamlined and improved the process we use to review appeals in recent weeks. We must also advise that if you choose to publicly misrepresent the reason you were banned, we may need to respond with links to the actual post(s) for which you were banned. We understand that there are a number of marginalised or minority communities that have experienced strain over time. The staff have already met with the TransEra community with positive results, and we plan to reach out to others for direct discussions in the coming new year. Furthermore, our door is open to any communities that want to reach out to us as well. While this is the case for all communities, we would like to emphasise this even more for marginalised and minority groups. In the past we have not always communicated or dialogued as well as we could and should have. In order to help address this, we are drawing up plans to establish a Community Relations team in the near future. We expect to have a more detailed announcement ready in the new year, but the aim of this group will be to act as a committee of staff who are dedicated to community outreach and identifying concerns from the community as they arise. There are other plans and projects in the works as well. So far, the volunteers for the Community Relations team are , , and . A complete list will be included when the team is finalised and announced, but we're confident that all of the volunteers so far will do an amazing job. To close this message out, I'd like to personally take a moment to thank everyone who has taken the time to give us great constructive feedback, as well as everyone, staff and members alike, who dedicate their time to tackling important issues across the forum. This forum would not be the place it is without all of you. Thank you, sincerely. I hope that going forward, we can grow stronger as a community and only improve from here. Together, we can make this community the best it can be. This is something that I and the rest of the team passionately care about. If you have any questions, please let us know.
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Thread It's Trans Awareness Week! (Nov 13th -19th)
I agree with this wholeheartedly. This may come as a surprise to some, but the overwhelming majority of our staff are women and/or minorities. I myself am a black woman, but also bisexual, and come from a migrant and religious minority background. We have a very mixed variety of staff. Some are very outspoken and post frequently, and others pour all of their volunteer time into handling things behind the scenes, so their efforts are invisible to the community. Either way, we all provide our perspectives, and these relevant perspectives are given priority when handling moderation and creating policy. Our moderation philosophy is detailed in the General Guide/FAQ. Regardless, it's clear that the community is in need of even more representation and diversity, as well as a further examination of both our policies and moderation philosophy. This is something that we will be putting even more focus on going forward and are currently discussing extensively. I've mentioned it before, but it bears repeating. Sincere thanks to you and others for your efforts in combating bigotry in the community.Roughly half of the staff are BAME.
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Thread Tangle Tower, by the creators of Snipperclips, is coming to Switch and PC on Oct 22nd for $20 (already out on Apple Arcade)
How have I not stumbled across this yet? This really looks like it'll be my cup of tea.
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Thread Contrapoints - Opulence
It wasn't reported. I stumbled across it this morning after I woke up, and then it was removed. We've added it as a rule in the OP to make clear that those kinds of confessions aren't allowed. Thank you to everyone in this thread who has been taking the time to explain and raise all of these important issues.
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Thread Gundam creator criticizes 'Your Name' director's works for not being sexually explicit
The other comment was objectifying misogynistic crap too, and just as disconcerting. Something a lot of the users in previous pages seemed to miss. As a woman, reading it was pretty horrifying tbh. And I know lots of other women feel the same, as you can see in this thread.
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Thread Gundam creator criticizes 'Your Name' director's works for not being sexually explicit
For real. It's upsetting to read.
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Thread Pokémon Center to open in London
Really wanted to go to this but queueing from 6am, let alone 1am, is not an option for me... and not something I'd be willing to do even if it was. So welp. I hope they see the demand and open up a permanent store, because this is something that I'd definitely love to check out yearly if they did.
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Thread Probably underappreciated: The "downloading" screen on the Nintendo 3DS
I always found this super charming. I do wish the Switch eShop at least had music. I remember when Twilight Princess HD released on the Wii U, they changed the eShop music to this:
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Thread GiftBot's Gaming Giveaways |OT| Now Featuring Samurai Shodown - Deluxe Edition for PS4, Courtesy of SNK
You're welcome. Hope you enjoy it. :)
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Thread GiftBot's Gaming Giveaways |OT| Now Featuring Samurai Shodown - Deluxe Edition for PS4, Courtesy of SNK
Givers Only just means anyone who has made a giveaway in the last 30 days. It's not limited to specific threads, but it could be your last giveaway was longer than 30 days ago.
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Thread GiftBot's Gaming Giveaways |OT| Now Featuring Samurai Shodown - Deluxe Edition for PS4, Courtesy of SNK
I already own MHW so won't be entering, but thank you for your generosity . You've given away some really fantastic prizes. c:
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Thread GiftBot's Gaming Giveaways |OT| Now Featuring Samurai Shodown - Deluxe Edition for PS4, Courtesy of SNK
You can look out for your Christmas presents... maybe.
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Thread GiftBot's Gaming Giveaways |OT| Now Featuring Samurai Shodown - Deluxe Edition for PS4, Courtesy of SNK
Not sure if you're aware, but it's actually very easy to make an EU account, and you can play the game on your main account too.
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Thread GiftBot's Gaming Giveaways |OT| Now Featuring Samurai Shodown - Deluxe Edition for PS4, Courtesy of SNK
You can win it eventually, Delphine. I believe in you.
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Thread GiftBot's Gaming Giveaways |OT| Now Featuring Samurai Shodown - Deluxe Edition for PS4, Courtesy of SNK
Or you can just make an EU account. It's pretty easy to make different region accounts, and you can play the game on your main account if your PS4 is set as the primary system on the EU one.
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Thread Hillary Clinton Says We Must Be ‘Sensitive’ to Transphobia
This thread is temporarily locked while we evaluate it.
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Thread GiftBot's Gaming Giveaways |OT| Free to a good home! No begging, requests, or taking advantage
Yay, new thread. I'll have to see what I can give away in this one.
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Thread ResetEra's GiftBot 2.0 Launch Giveaway Extravaganza (New Features Added, New Prizes Courtesy of Focus Home Interactive)!
Iirc the month is calendar month, rather than a set number of days. Some people may have won before but not won in October.
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Thread ResetEra's GiftBot 2.0 Launch Giveaway Extravaganza (New Features Added, New Prizes Courtesy of Focus Home Interactive)!
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Thread ResetEra's GiftBot 2.0 Launch Giveaway Extravaganza (Now Featuring Ori and the Blind Forest for Nintendo Switch, Courtesy of Xbox Games Studios)!
Thank you for Aviary Attorney . ^^
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Thread Which video game soundtrack have you listened to the most outside of the game?
Pyre. My friend was kind enough to gift me the vinyl, too. It's gorgeous.
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Thread ResetEra's GiftBot 2.0 Launch Giveaway Extravaganza (Come Get Your Free Games)!
That's very kind of you. Thank you for your generosity. c:
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Thread FREE to a good home thread |Reset-ERA Edition| No begging, requests, or taking advantage
This thread has been here since the beginning. I imagine the GiftBot thread will eventually slow down, and may become inactive eventually.
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Thread FREE to a good home thread |Reset-ERA Edition| No begging, requests, or taking advantage
Thank you.
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Thread ResetEra's GiftBot 2.0 Launch Giveaway Extravaganza (Come Get Your Free Games)!
So I've been told. I will, soon.
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Thread ResetEra's GiftBot 2.0 Launch Giveaway Extravaganza (Come Get Your Free Games)!
I've only played 7, 10 and 15. Played a little 14, but not much yet. I intend to play through it all, though. I also own, but haven't played... 6, 8, 9, Tactics (War of Lions), 12 and 13... I really should get around to playing them all.
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Thread ResetEra's GiftBot 2.0 Launch Giveaway Extravaganza (Come Get Your Free Games)!
Yep, we haven't even gotten through all of the official giveaways yet.
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Thread ResetEra's GiftBot 2.0 Launch Giveaway Extravaganza (Come Get Your Free Games)!
I know it's all in good fun, but let's not put up fake prizes in the raffle please. Thank you.
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Thread ResetEra's GiftBot 2.0 Launch Giveaway Extravaganza (Come Get Your Free Games)!
You can cancel a raffle, yes. Thanks for understanding!
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Thread ResetEra's GiftBot 2.0 Launch Giveaway Extravaganza (Come Get Your Free Games)!
Thank you for the 3 Month Nintendo Online Membership.
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Thread ResetEra's GiftBot 2.0 Launch Giveaway Extravaganza (Come Get Your Free Games)!
I already bought it on PS4 so I won't be entering, but props to the FF community for all the FF8 codes!I second this.
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Thread ResetEra's GiftBot 2.0 Launch Giveaway Extravaganza (Come Get Your Free Games)!
GiftBot continues to mock me in my alerts.
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Thread ResetEra's GiftBot 2.0 Launch Giveaway Extravaganza (Come Get Your Free Games)!
You're welcome. I hope you enjoy it! ^^
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Thread ResetEra's GiftBot 2.0 Launch Giveaway Extravaganza (Come Get Your Free Games)!
It's quite easy to make a different region account on Switch to claim codes from that region.
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Thread ResetEra's GiftBot 2.0 Launch Giveaway Extravaganza (Come Get Your Free Games)!
Speaking of which, this ends in about 45 minutes. Last chance to enter if you haven't already!
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Yeah, I know there are a lot of people who have yet to win anything at all, whereas others have been lucky enough to win a lot, so I just wanted to give them a chance. I'll try to do another giveaway with less harsh restrictions in the future!
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Thread ResetEra's GiftBot 2.0 Launch Giveaway Extravaganza (Come Get Your Free Games)!
No need to feel guilty. It's nice that you're going to have these games to try out. I hope you enjoy them!
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Thread ResetEra's GiftBot 2.0 Launch Giveaway Extravaganza (Come Get Your Free Games)!
Just a reminder about this giveaway for Cadence of Hyrule (some restrictions apply). About 6 hours left!
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Thread PlayStation VR Mega Pack bundle including 5 games launches this autumn in Europe
Oh, interesting. I got a different bundle with three of those games (Astro Bot, Skyrim and PSVR Worlds) as well as Doom and Wipeout. RE7 is not my cup of tea, but I would have loved Everybody's Golf.
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Thread ResetEra's GiftBot 2.0 Launch Giveaway Extravaganza (Come Get Your Free Games)!
Sorry, everyone. I just wanted to give a chance to the people who haven't won anything yet.
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Thread ResetEra's GiftBot 2.0 Launch Giveaway Extravaganza (Come Get Your Free Games)!
I hope whoever wins this has as much fun with it as I did (it's probably the most fun I've had with a game this year)!
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Thread ResetEra's GiftBot 2.0 Launch Giveaway Extravaganza (Come Get Your Free Games)!
Haha, it's cool. I appreciate the thought anyway.
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Thread ResetEra's GiftBot 2.0 Launch Giveaway Extravaganza (Come Get Your Free Games)!
I finally won something, and the code is invalid. *wipes tears* Oh well.
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Nice to see this thread is still going! I'll put up a giveaway when I get home from work.
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Thread ResetEra's GiftBot 2.0 Launch Giveaway Extravaganza (Come Get Your Free Games)!
It's really heartwarming to see all of the generosity in this thread. :) I'll make a giveaway tomorrow.
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Thread Celeste says "TRANS RIGHTS!" (Celeste: Farewell spoilers)
I saw this earlier and it really made my day. I already have the game on Switch, but bought it for a friend who hadn't played it yet on Steam.
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Thread BBC's Nick Robinson claims single source has told him Boris will seek to prorogue parliament as soon as today!
Duplicate thread:
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Thread The lovely story of the D&D Grandma and her Druid Gnome Terminatur
How dare you make me cry before work. This is the sweetest and most wholesome thing I've read in a while.
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Thread Ion Fury devs show signs of transphobia among other issues. [Update: Voidpoint Twitter Responds]
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Thread NYT: An Unwanted Kiss on ABC's ‘American Idol’ (MOD EDIT: READ OP)
Please don't bump old threads unnecessarily. Thread locked.
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Thread Fire Emblem Echoes has the best OST in the series (or, the Fire Emblem Echoes OST appreciation thread)
Twilight of the Gods is :chefkiss: When that piano kicks in...
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Thread No Man's Sky |OT| 2.0 Infinity & Beyond
Hmm, that seems odd. What do you mean when you say you can't look up and down as you walk around? Looking at footage of the game on PSVR, it seems like others are able to do this. But yes, movement in VR will feel different compared to regular games, as they usually have to use some workarounds to prevent motion sickness, so I can understand why it might feel awkward at first.
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Thread The Legend of Playable Zelda: Setting Ourselves Up for Disappointment... Together! (Speculation, Discussion, and Wishful Thinking) [Media Heavy!]
This touches on my issue with her depiction from Sheik to adult Zelda. It was such a . I connected well with child Zelda. She wasn't particularly empowered, but she was energetic, bubbly, full of innocence (as is expected of a child), adventurous and good natured. And while she is whisked away, she isn't imprisoned, but instead taken to safety by her lifelong carer and trusted guard Impa, a woman. None of this is insulting to her character. Everything about her made sense for the life that she had lived up until this point, as well as her age. Link is definitely the hero of this story, and the one who defies expectations as far as his capability goes, but Zelda's depiction seems understandable and I wasn't left disappointed by her depiction, especially as a child. Sheik is a stoic and wise badass. I found her character mysterious and alluring, and as you said, she plays an integral part in the game's story, and her help enables Link to actually fulfil his mission. She seems capable and dependable. So finding out that that child who I found endearing and was sad to see separated from Link earlier actually grew up to be Sheik was refreshing and exciting. I quickly wondered what her journey had been like and what she had experienced, because she'd clearly been through a lot. But then... as soon as she's actually Zelda, everything about her changes. I don't mind Zelda dressing in feminine attire or makeup. I think Cadence of Hyrule Zelda is incredibly badass, for example, and played the entire game as her. But like you say, her demeanour changes along with her outfit. Now that she's wearing a dress and face full of makeup, she is a different person. She's suddenly demure, fragile and dependent entirely on Link. She gasps in fear when rocks fall, which is something I can't imagine Sheik doing. She follows Link around like a lost child. This is all to emphasise her new status as a damsel. And of course, there's how quickly she is imprisoned after her transformation. None of it matches with the experiences she must have had up until this point, or how she was portrayed as Sheik. It was exciting for me as a young girl to relate to this wonderful female character, and it felt like it was very quickly snatched away, which felt, as child me would put it, " very lame". This is why I've found I feel very fondly towards child Zelda and Sheik as characters, but have always been a bit put off by adult Zelda. They are all the same character, but are depicted differently. Ocarina of Time is still my favourite game of all time, let alone my favourite Zelda game. And I do think the Sheik / Zelda reveal is still one of the best character moments in any Zelda game, but the way adult Zelda was treated after that reveal is still disappointing to me today. Except now I'm old enough to analyse why.
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Thread The Legend of Playable Zelda: Setting Ourselves Up for Disappointment... Together! (Speculation, Discussion, and Wishful Thinking) [Media Heavy!]
For me it was probably realising that this cool and mysterious character Sheik was in fact Zelda, and then seeing her get damsel'd the moment she wears a dress and has makeup... because a change in attire suddenly makes women frail and weak, I guess. I remember feeling really deflated seeing that as a child, though I didn't have the words to express why. I just thought "this is lame".
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Thread I'm working on a study about transexual people (University Psychology) and if it's ok I would like to ask some questions.
You need to seek permission from staff before creating academic survey threads. Please contact if you have any further questions.
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Thread The Legend of Playable Zelda: Setting Ourselves Up for Disappointment... Together! (Speculation, Discussion, and Wishful Thinking) [Media Heavy!]
Amazing thread. Thank you both for taking the time to put this together. I will join you in your optimism!
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Thread Switch owners: Which of the following seven games yet to be released in 2019 are you most excited about?
Top 3 for me is: 1. Link's Awakening 2. Fire Emblem 3. Luigi's Mansion
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Thread Just had my steam account phished
With stress, I try to realistically consider the scale of the issue and try to just focus on what I can do to alleviate the situation in the present. When dealing with anxiety, depression etc, it can be easy to let your fears get the better of you and escalate the situation in your mind, but we can learn to deal with stress and emotions through techniques and support. I'm glad that you're okay now, and the situation seems to be fine as well.
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Thread The Release Month From Hell, Or "Why Is Everything Releasing in September?!"
I'll probably pick up Astral Chain down the line, but from that list Control and Link's Awakening will be likely day 1 purchases for me.
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Thread We are approaching the release of FE: Three Houses. Is it too late to raise a stink over the boxart?
I almost bought the special edition in part because of how ugly the boxart is. Once the Nintendo online vouchers were revealed I decided to just get it digitally, though.
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Thread [Update] PS Plus Games Lineup for July 2019: Detroit: Become Human* and Horizon Chase Turbo (Japan: Detroit and Caligula Overdose)
I've already played Detroit, but this is probably a much more appealing month to a lot of people.
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Thread What Remains of Edith Finch is coming to the Switch July 4th
One of my favourite 2017 games. I'm happy it's coming to more platforms. Definitely recommend people at least give this a try.
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Thread Which platform have you spent the most time playing games on in 2019 so far?
Hmm. Probably PS4, then PC then Switch.
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Thread As a black person, should you refrain from saying the "n-word" when around non-black people?
I don't use it at all, personally. But I don't police how other black people use it and I don't think there's anything wrong with saying it around white people.
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Thread NYPD on Twitter: "We regret to inform that Desmond Amofah aka Etika has been found deceased." (See guidelines before posting)
Really heartbreaking news. :( Rest in peace. I wish he could have gotten the help he needed.
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Thread What is the consensus on Detroit: Become Human?
This was my experience. I enjoyed it quite a bit overall and the gameplay was serviceable, but be prepared for a lot of cringeworthy writing. Hank and Connor are great, though.
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Thread Why women criticise sexualised character designs |OT2| I have no pants and I must scream (READ OP)
But wait, she isn't wearing boob armour. How are we supposed to tell that she's a woman?
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Thread Grezzo (The Legend of Zelda: Ocarina 3D, Majora 3D) Looking for Unreal 4 Experience
I selfishly hope it's something Zelda related.
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Thread Cadence of Hyrule – Crypt of the NecroDancer Featuring the Legend of Zelda |OT| The Hylian Dance
Got this last night and was able to play for an hour or so before bed. I chose to play as Zelda. Still getting the hang of it, but it's really fun.
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Thread The Legend of Zelda: Breath of the Wild sequel announced
Hypest moment of E3 for me. Cannot wait (and hoping for playable Zelda like so many others). I also love that we had trailers for 3 different Zelda games this E3.