I think being different is ok and obviously should be respected and given the same dignity as anyone else. I think you, OP and anyone else that is offended and insecure about generic terminology that has been, will be, and continue to be used based on gender roles, Male and female need to look at things objectively. Your insecurities and sensitivities are based on the fact that you know your different. In no way any less of a person in my eyes, but your smart enough to know you dont fit in with the overwhelming majority of people who are comfortable in their own skin and gender. This is why your having issues with labels and words. Work on self confidence and understanding that acceptance works both ways. You wanting nouns, pronouns and societies way of speaking to change does not make sense, just like anyone telling you to change wont make sense either. Words are simply that. Words. Understand yourself, understand society and be tolerant enough to let things go. No one is out to intentionally hurt you, if they are it would be direct, obvious and unquestionable. Twisting words to further fuel your insecurities isn't something that is fair or acceptable to anyone.